Ukukhula kubazali kubalulekile xa abantwana bekhula kwaye bekhula ngaphandle kwengxaki. Umntwana ohlala ekhaya nabazali abangavuthiyo unokufumana iingxaki ezinzulu zeemvakalelo ezichaphazela ukwakheka kobuntu bakhe.
Kubalulekile kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba izithethe kunye neenqobo zokuziphatha ezifunyanwa ngumntwana baxhaswa kukuqola kwabazali babo.
Imeko yeemvakalelo kubantwana abanabazali abakhulileyo
Umzali ongekabi mdala ngumntu othi, nangona sele emdala, aphele ekuziphatheni njengomntu omncinci, njengoko kunokuba njalo selula. Abasebenzi noxanduva lokuba ngabazali kwaye Bahlala bengenaxabiso kwaye benokuziphatha okungalungelanga ubudala babo.
Konke oku kuya kuba nefuthe elibi kwimeko yeemvakalelo zabantwana ngokwabo. Ukungavuthwa kwabazali kuthetha ukuba abantwana banendima abayidlalayo kusapho ebekungafanelekanga ukuba babenalo ngenxa yobudala babo. Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana kufuneka banxibe isinxibo sabantu abadala kunye nako konke okubandakanya.
Akuqhelekanga ukuba umntwana adlale indima yabantu abadala kunye nabazali kuba oku kuya kuchaphazela kakubi imeko yabo yeemvakalelo. Utata kufuneka abe mdala kwaye abe noluhlu loxanduva umntwana wakhe angenakuba nalo.
Indlela abaziphethe ngayo abazali
Abazali abangafezekanga baneempawu ezininzi ezibonakalayo:
- Bayala ukunyanzelisa uthotho lwemithetho ekhaya.
- Baziphatha nabantwana babo njengabahlobo kwaye babeka bucala indima yabo njengabazali.
- Abanalo naluphi na uxanduva endlini kwaye uyayihoya.
- Banqabile ukuchitha ixesha nabantwana babo kwaye ababahoyi ngokupheleleyo.
- Abafuni kujongana neengxaki zemihla ngemihla kwaye bakhetha ukuyekelela.
- Ngaphandle kokuhamba kweminyaka, bayaqhubeka nokuziphatha njengabantwana.
Abantwana babazali abakhulileyo bahlala bezithembile kwaye bengazithembi kakhulu. Oku, njengoko besesitshilo ngaphambili, kuya kubangela iingxaki ezimandundu emntwaneni kwixesha eliphakathi nelide. Kuqhelekile ukuba aba bantwana baphele benengxaki yokuphazamiseka kuzo zonke iintlobo.
Iiklasi zokukhulisa umntwana ngaphambi kwexesha
Ukuziphatha okanye indlela yokuziphatha kuzakubonisa iintlobo zabazali abangafezekanga ukuba kukho:
- Abazali abangxungupheleyo ngabo bangacingi nangaliphi na ixesha malunga neziphumo ezibi ezinokubangelwa kukungakhuli emzimbeni. Bahlala bekhokelwa ziimpembelelo kwaye bangaze bacinge ngaphambi kokuthatha isenzo esithile.
- Abazali abangakhathaliyo ababonakalisi naluphi na uphawu lothando nomsa kubantwana babo nangaliphi na ixesha. Abaseti naluphi na uhlobo lwemithetho kwaye benze ngathi abangobazali.
- Uhlobo lwesithathu lomzali ongekakhuli ngumzali ongenzi nto. Olu hlobo lukatata lwahlukaniswe ngokupheleleyo kubantwana bakhe kwinqanaba leemvakalelo. Umntwana akanalo uthando lukayise kwaye oku kunefuthe elibi ekukhuleni kwakhe.
- Abazali abanesiphene luhlobo lokugqibela lomzali ongakhulanga phaya. Aba bazali bathembisa izinto ezininzi ekugqibeleni abazizalisekisi. Banokuseka uthotho lwemithetho etshintsha ngokweemeko okanye efanelekileyo kuzo.
Ngamafutshane, abantwana abakhulela kusapho apho abazali babo bengakakhuli kakuhle, bathwala uthotho lweembopheleleko ebekungafanelekanga ukuba bazenze ngenxa yobudala babo. Abantwana abanakho ukuthatha uxanduva oluthe kratya kuneminyaka yabo kwaye abafuni ukuba bathathe indima efanele ukubakho ngabazali ekhaya. Ukungakhuli kwabazali kuya kuba neziphumo ekukhuleni kakuhle kwabantwana. Ngokuhamba kwexesha aba bantwana baba ngabantu abadala abaneengxaki ezinzulu zokuzithemba naxa kufikwa kumba wokunxibelelana nabanye.