Ukuhlolwa komntwana wakho okokuqala kuya kwenziwa esibhedlele. Ke, xa usekhaya kuya kufuneka yenza idinga lokuya kugqirha wabantwana, Kwaye ke amathandabuzo aya kuqala: Unokukhetha njani ugqirha olungileyo wabantwana? Ngubani onokucela iingcebiso? Nje ukuba ndithethathethane, ndibuze ntoni? Okanye nini ukumsa umntwana kugqirha wabantwana? Le yimibuzo ebenabo bonke oomama, kwaye sifuna ukukunceda ukuyisombulula.
Uluhlu loogqirha babantwana onokukhetha luya kuxhomekeka kwi apho uhlala khona, ukuba uyakwazi ukuhamba okanye awuhambi, kwaye ukuba uya kwiziko likarhulumente okanye labucala. Yiba nokuba kunjalo, yile micimbi ekufuneka uyiqwalasele xa undwendwela ugqirha wabantwana.
Unokukhetha njani ugqirha olungileyo okanye olungileyo
Kubalulekile ukuba xa ukhetha ugqirha wabantwana wabantwana bethu, thina njengabazali, masiziva sikhululekile naye. Kwaye kubalulekile ukuba uyihloniphe indlela yethu yokufundisa nokubakhathalela abantwana bethu, ngelixa usabelana ngezinto ezisixhalabisayo. Ngamaxesha athile umbuzo woogqirha babantwana ezinye zezigqibo zethu okanye indlela esenza ngayo.
Kangangoko kunokwenzeka sicebisa ukuba ujonge ugqirha wabantwana kufutshane nasekhaya. Ngokukodwa kwiminyaka emine yokuqala yobomi bomntwana, xa utyelelo luqhelekile. Kukwalungile ukuba nenombolo onokunxibelelana naye, ukuze ukwazi umntwana wakho kunye nonyango olulandelayo lunokukucebisa kwimicimbi engxamisekileyo.
Ngaphandle kwabazali abathembele kugqirha wabantwana, Umntwana kufuneka akholose. Akukho nto imbi ngaphezu kogqirha wabantwana ongabathandiyo abantwana. Sukuxelela umntwana wakho ukuba "ukuba uziphethe kakubi, ndiza kukusa kwagqirha". Ukutyelela ugqirha wabantwana akunakuba sisoyikiso okanye ukohlwaya. Eyona nto imbi kukufaka uloyiko. Kubalulekile ukuba zombini kusapho nakwingcali kukho umbono othintelayo, eya kukusindisa kwiingxaki ezininzi kunye neendlela ezininzi.
Iingcebiso zokugcina engqondweni xa undwendwela ugqirha wabantwana
Sele ukhona kudliwanondlebe, uthethwano oludibanisa zonke iimeko zempilo kwaye unogqirha wabantwana kuphela wena nomntwana wakho. Jonga ukuba ikhona zokuzihombisa Uhlobo oluqhelekileyo lwabantwana, olwenza ukuba bazive bekhululekile kwaye ingezizo iifoto zamathambo kunye nezinye.
Ngoku ungangxami ugqirha, makazithobe ngokuzithemba kwinkwenkwe okanye kwintombazana, nokuba mdala kangakanani. Yenza eyona meko kwaye buza yonke imibuzo ukuba uyayiqwalasela, nokuba ayinanto yakwenza nombuzo okhokelele kuthethwano. Ukuba kukho imfuneko, xa zivela, zibhalele phantsi kwaye ngoku lixesha lokuba uzikhuphe.
Iimpendulo zabantwana kufuneka zingqinelane namathandabuzo akho. Yena okanye ugqirha wabantwana kufuneka zichaze ngokucacileyo. Ngaphambi kokuba ushiye uthethathethwano kufuneka ube wanelisekile ngokupheleleyo. Khumbula ukuba omnye wemisebenzi yegqirha wabantwana kukukhokela kunye nokuyalela abazali kukhathalelo lweentsana zabo, ngakumbi abatsha.
Ukubonisana ngefowuni okanye kwi-Intanethi, ngaba zilungile?
Ngeli xesha, ngazo zonke izicelo esinazo eminwe yethu, zinokwenziwa ukubonisana nge-Intanethi okanye ngomnxeba noogqirha babantwana. Le mibuzo ayithathe indawo yokundwendwela ingcali, eziya kwenza uvavanyo lwesiqhelo kwaye zihlolisise umntwana, kodwa zinokukunceda kwezinye iimeko ezinje ngemibuzo malunga nokutya, iingxaki zokulala, imibuzo malunga nokukhula komntwana wakho. Kodwa azisetyenziselwa imeko kaxakeka, kwaye lumka! Qinisekisa ukuba umntu okunyanga ngugqirha okanye yingcali kwezabantwana, ngamanye amaxesha ziingcali eziqhelekileyo ezisombulula amathandabuzo.
Malunga nezikhokelo zabazali, amanqaku kunye namaphepha e-Intanethi, malunga ulwazi oluncedo, Akukho zifo. Ke zisebenzise ukukwazisa, kodwa hayi ukuba umnyange okanye umfumane umntwana wakho.