Ukuzenzakalisa ukunqanda intlungu yeemvakalelo: ulutsha lucela uncedo kuthi

ukuba ukuzibulala kungunobangela wesibini okhokelela ekuswelekeni okungalindelekanga phakathi kwabantu abaneminyaka eli-10 ukuya kweli-19, es un tema acerca del que habíamos hablado en Madres Hoy; mencionando que en ningún caso debemos pasar por alto la llamada “ideación del suicidio” pensando que es una tontería de los niños, que ya se le pasará o que están intentando llamar la atención. Obviamente, intentan llamar la atención, pero no de la forma que muchos adultos piensan, Endaweni yoko, iba sisiphumo sokuphelelwa lithemba kwaye bathi kuthi “Ndincede, ndilapha, izinto zenzeka ngaphakathi kum ezindonganyisayo., Andikwazi kuzibamba, ndincede! "

Njengokuba besibalisa, ukungahoyi iingcinga zokuzibulala (ngokuvakalayo) zomntwana ngumbono ombi: ukuthintela kwethu kungaphela ngeyona ndlela imbi kakhulu. Kodwa namhlanje siza kujongana nengxaki enobunzima ngokulinganayo engeyonto intsha, nangona ibonakala ngathi ifumana ukuthandwa (kwaye ke amandla) phakathi kwesangqa samantombazana akwishumi elivisayo kunye namakhwenkwe. Konke malunga nokuzenzakalisa 'okanye ukuzibulala' (okanye ukuzilimaza).

Kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo, isiseko se-ANAR esinceda abantwana kunye nabakwishumi elivisayo balumkise ngokunyuka okothusayo kweefowuni ezinxulumene nombono (okanye ukuzama) ukuzibulala, okanye ukuzenzakalisa. Amanani ayothusa: kwi-2014, ifowuni ye-ANAR ifumene iminxeba engama-547 yokucela uncedo; phakathi kukaJanuwari noSeptemba 2015, abantwana abangama-621 babonakalise le ngxaki.

Kulutsha olufikisayo uxinzelelo lokufezekisa okanye lokuphila ngokwemigangatho engafikelelekiyo, nokuba yeyabo okanye inyanzelisiwe, inokubangela iintlungu ezingathethekiyo (Impilo yaBantwana)

Ulutsha lwethu lunokuziva lungenakuzinceda.

Mangaphi amakhwenkwe kwaye mangaphi amantombazana ayakuba ecinga ngokuthatha ubomi bawo kwaye angatsho? Zingaphi amanxeba emilenzeni okanye ezingalweni ekufuneka enziwe ukuze thina bantu badala siqonde ukuba ikhona into eyenzekayo nolutsha lwethu? Ndizibuza le mibuzo xa ndizama ukucinga ngenani labantu kule minyaka bangathathwanga ngabazali babo kwi-ER, kwaye abanasibindi sokuxelela ingcali ngefowuni (kwezo meko bangazithembi kuzo. Usapho).

Ugqirha wengqondo uNeria Morales isixelela ukuba “Ukuzenzakalisa kukuzibonakalisa koxinzelelo lwengqondo olwenziwa ngabakwishumi elivisayo. Ngaphandle kwento yokuba xa uzenza umntu ngamnye akafuni kufa, yindlela yokuzibangela iintlungu, ekhupha iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo ".

Sele sinolwazi lokuqala malunga nezizathu ezikhokelela umntu osenabo bonke ubomi bakhe phambi kwakhe: ukukhulula iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo. Into yokuqala eza kum lusizi olukhulu, ukucinga ngemvakalelo yokuba lilolo, ukungabi nakuzinceda; becinga ukuba banokufuna ukuyicacisa komnye umntu, kodwa abanabani.

Ngamanye amaxesha njengabantu abadala siwela kwisilingo sokunciphisa ezi mvakalelo, impazamo ekhokelela ekubeni silibale okwethu ukufikisa, okanye mhlawumbi kukuba asikukhumbuli ukuntsokotha kweenguqu kwihlabathi lobuntwana, elahlekileyo njengoko sinjalo ukugxila kwabantu abadala. Kwaye xa sithetha ngokuphulukana, masihambe Ukuphulukana namandla okuhamba ngaphandle kokungenelela, ukubakho ngaphandle kokucinezela, yokumamela ngokuyeka ukuthetha.

Yintoni ekhokelela ekubeni umntu ofikisayo azenzakalise?

Kananjalo akufuneki sithathe umbono wokuzibulala kancinci, okanye ukuzama ukuzenzakalisa; kwaye kuncinci ukuhlekisa ngayo (endikhe ndayibona) "kufuneka ubone! Uzama ukuzisika ntoni Ngaba akunakukwazi ukuzibamba? Awungekhe ushiyeke wedwa! Ngokucacileyo Ukuba abo bazenzakalisayo banokulawula isenzo sabo, ngekhe bayenze, kwaye malunga nokujongela phantsi amandla okuzikhathalela xa abazali bengekho, mhlawumbi ngaphezulu kwesinye kwaye omnye wethu kufuneka acinge ngokwenza inkampani encinci (ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo) neentombi kunye noonyana.

Ukusuka kwi-ANAR basicacisela ukuba kwi-82% yamatyala ngamantombazana azisikayo. Sele siphawule ukuba le nto ibonakala ngathi sele inemfashini, kwaye ngoku (ixhaswe ngamaphepha ewebhu achaza indlela yokuzenzakalisaKukho uhlobo lwesiphumo sokubiza phakathi kwabantu abancinci.

Nazi izizathu abanokuba nazo (siyifumene ireferensi kwiMpilo yaBantwana):

• Iimvakalelo eziboyisayo: ngokuzenzakalisa banokuphazamisa iimvakalelo abangakwaziyo ukuzithwala, okanye bavakalise.
• Khetha intlungu yomzimba ebonakalayo, kwintlungu yeemvakalelo, abangakwaziyo ukuyilawula kuba bengayiboni.
• Ukuba iba kukuziphatha okunyanzelekileyo, kuza kubangela isiqabu, apho ii-endoorphins zinegalelo khona.
• Inokuba ngumkhwa, xa ufumana 'isiqabu'.
• Ukuba indlela yokuziphatha inxulumene neengxaki zempilo yengqondo ezinje ngengxaki yokuphazamiseka kwengqondo.
• Uxinzelelo oluvela kumaqabane, izihlobo, 'zefashoni' (Amaphepha e-Intanethi)

Zonke ezi ngcaciso azisebenzi ngaphandle kokuqwalaselwa kweempawu zomntu ofikisayo

Ukuzenzakalisa ngokuzisika

Kwenzeka xa zimakishwe ngabom, zikrwitshiwe, okanye zisikwa kusetyenziswa izinto ezibukhali ezifana nezikere, iifayili zesinyithi, iipeni, iithebhu ezivela kwiitoti zesoda, iimela, isikere, iimela zeepokotho ...; ngamanye amaxesha imeko ehambelana okanye ukutshiswa kwecuba kuyenziwa kubo.

Iintloni.

Oku kukuziphatha okulihlazo okokuthi ngaxa lithile umlinganiswa ophambili azame ukufihla, esiza kuyila izizathu malunga nemvelaphi yokwenzakala (kukwakho nabo babonisayo). Kwelinye icala, ubunzima babonakala buyekisa ukuzenzakalisa (ukuswela ukuzibamba).

Abanye babo bazisikayo benzakaliswe kakhulu kukuphathwa gadalala okanye ziimeko ezibenze bazive bengaxhaswanga, bengenamandla, bengafaneleki, okanye bengenaluthando (impilo yabantwana)

Inkxaso yabazali.

Kukho uxwebhu oluvela kwi-ANAR Foundation oko kunika imikhondo yokujongana nokuziphatha ngokuzibulala kulutsha; Kwimeko yokuzenzakalisa, ezinye zeengcebiso ziyasebenza:

• Nika ingqalelo abantwana, Kwaye ngakumbi xa bethetha iingxaki zeemvakalelo okanye benqwenela ukuzenzakalisa.
• Iimvakalelo zakho zisemthethweni, nokuba ziyintoni na.
• Kuya kufuneka uphephe ukungavisisani kosapho. Ngamaxesha okungazinzi, into yokugqibela edikidikiweyo okanye ekhathazekileyo kulutsha ifuneka ngumama / utata ohlekisayo, ogxekayo, okanye owenza intetho ehlekisayo.
• Musa ukoyika ukuthetha ngezimvo zabo (sukuba neentloni kwisihloko): ukwenza ingxaki ibonakale kuya kunika wonke umntu umbono.
• Cacisa ukuba namaxesha amabi ayenzeka; yiphindaphinde amaxesha amaninzi ukwenza kube lula kuwe ukuba uyenze ngaphakathi.
• Yabelana ngengxaki yakho nabahlobo, izalamane; Thetha kugqirha wabantwana, ugqirha wosapho lwakho.
• Ukuba intombazana okanye inkwenkwe ichitha ixesha elininzi idlala kwi-Intanethi okanye kwiiNethiwekhi zeNtlalo, thethana (ngaphandle kokuthintela) ukunciphisa ixesha lokuvezwa.
• Mkhuthaze ukuba aqhubeke kwakhona nokuzonwabisa okanye aqale izinto ezithandwayo.
• Kude kube kusonjululwe ingxaki, umntwana wakho kufuneka ahambe naye kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
• Funa unyango olusekwe kwisisombululo, kwaye ijolise ekuxhaseni umntwana nosapho. Yala inkxaso yobungcali ojonge ukubeka intombi yakho / okanye onoxanduva okanye onetyala, kwaye ke ndicebise amanyathelo ajolise ekuguqulweni kokuziphatha kwabo ngaphandle kokuthathela ingqalelo izinto ezibangela oko.

Kutshanje sifunde ukuba iipesenti ezingama-45 zabakwishumi elivisayo abaphakathi kweminyaka eli-12 neli-17 ubudala, ababengeniswe kunyaka ophelileyo kwiyunithi yengqondo yabantwana neyolutsha eSibhedlele iSant Joan de Déu, ibonakalise "intsholongwane ephazamisayo yokuzisika". Ingxaki exhaphakileyo, kwaye inxenye elungileyo yesisombululo ilele kubantu abadala abajongene nemfundo yabantwana.

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