Ukuzithemba okuphantsi kunokuba yingxaki kubantwana bakho ukuba awusebenzi ngexesha. Inokuba neziphumo kwaye enyanisweni, nangona kubonakala ngathi akukho nto yenzekayo okwethutyana, iyenzeka kwaye iyingozi. Ke zithini iziphumo kubantwana bakho bokuzithoba?
Benza impazamo yokuthanda ukuzithemba okuphantsi
Ngokuzithemba okuphantsi, unethemba lokuba abantu abayi kukuzisela okuhle. Xa abanye benobubele ngokwaneleyo kuwe, uziva wonwabe kakhulu kwaye uneemvakalelo ezilungileyo ezingenangqondo. Yonke into ihamba kakuhle. Oku kunokuphazanyiswa lula luthando kwaye kukoyikise nabantu abanokuba nomdla kubuhlobo bakho kuphela.
Batyekele ekunyamezeleni izinto ezingalunganga ngakumbi kubudlelwane babo
Ngenxa yokuba ucinga ukuba iqabane lakho lilunge kakhulu kuwe, ubeka izinto ongafanelanga ukuba uzinyamezele. Ngamanye amaxesha ude wenze impazamo nothando lokuzithemba. Ngaba ngokwenene uyanikezela ngenxa yokuba umthanda kakhulu okanye ungafuni nje ukuthetha nokuthetha uze ulungise izinto?
Yenza abaqeshi bakho bazive ngathi awunabuchule
Abantu abanokuzithemba okuphantsi ngamanye amaxesha banesiphiwo. Kodwa abayazi indlela yokubonisa. Ngexesha leentlanganiso phakathi kwabantu, bahlala bethe cwaka, ukuba bayathetha, benza oko bebuthathaka, ngexesha lencoko yemihla ngemihla bathi "uxolo" kwaye "mhlawumbi" rhoqo kakhulu ... abanye babona ukuba ngabantu abazithobayo kwaye abanetalente encinci. Nangona banetalente ngokwenene ... Kodwa abayazi indlela yokubonisa ngokuchanekileyo.
Ingakhokelela kuxinzelelo
Ixesha elingaphezulu, ukuzithemba okuphantsi kunokukhokelela kuxinzelelo ngophando olwenziwe ngabaphandi kwiYunivesithi yaseBasel. Yi into ephambili kuphuhliso kunye nokugcinwa koxinzelelo. Ngesi sizathu, ukusebenza ngokuzithemba ukususela ebuntwaneni kubaluleke kakhulu.
Konke oku kubalulekile ukuba ugcine engqondweni kwaye ungathetha ngako oko nabantwana bakho, kwaye ufune uncedo xa kukho imfuneko.