Asinguye wonke umntu oqonda ubuntununtunu obuphezulu, kodwa kuyafuneka ukuba wazi ukuba ukuba unomntwana onobuzaza kakhulu, akangomntwana unzima okanye unqabile, kufuneka umqonde ngcono ukuze azive ethandwa kwaye ehlonitshwa ngawo onke amaxesha. Kwinto enokuba sisidenge kuwe, inokuba yintlekele.
Nangona kunjalo, gcinani engqondweni ukuba ukuze kuthathelwe ingqalelo kakhulu, umntwana kufuneka abonakalise ezi mpawu zintlanu: ukusabela okunamandla ngokweemvakalelo, iinkqubo zokwenza amava ngokunzulu, uvelwano kakhulu, kulula kakhulu, inovakalelo nakwezishukumisayo ezifihlakeleyo ngakumbi.
Uvakalelo ngokweemvakalelo
Kodwa ngaba ungumntwana onomdla kakhulu? Gcina oku kulandelayo engqondweni:
- Unemvakalelo enamandla: uvuyo olunzulu ngakumbi, uloyiko, umsindo kunye nosizi.
- Khala ngokulula; iimvakalelo zenzakala ngokulula
- Ukucwangcisa amava ngokujulile-cinga ngezinto
- Ichazwe ngootitshala njengo "cwaka", "urhoxile", "uneentloni" okanye "ungenisile"
- Uvelwano kakhulu kunye nenkathalo- ibonisa inkxalabo enkulu ngabanye.
- Ngokulula kakhulu-kufuna ukuphumla okuninzi okanye "ixesha lokuphumla"
- Uhlala ephupha kakubi okanye ukhumbula amaphupha acacileyo
- Unesazela kwaye uzimisele ukukholisa; Unexhala lokwenza izinto ngokufanelekileyo
- Ubonakala ekhulile kwaye enengqiqo kwiminyaka yakhe; ubuza imibuzo ecingisisiweyo
Uvelwano kwizikhuthazo ezifihlakeleyo
Ukongeza kwingcaciso engentla, kufanelekile ukuba uqaphele indawo apho ibaluleke kakhulu kwizikhuthazo ezifihlakeleyo. Ithetha ukuba:
- Uyabuva uburhabaxa okanye "ukurhawuzelela" amalaphu okanye iileyibhile kwimpahla
- Izikhalazo zokuba shushu kakhulu, ukunamathela kakhulu, ubukrwada kakhulu, njl., Xa abantakwenu nabanye bengabonakali bekhathazwa yinto enye
- Kuphephe okanye ukhalaze ngendawo exakekileyo okanye enengxolo; izaziso zomsindo kunye nevumba abanye abalibonanga
- Uvakalelo ngakumbi kwiintlungu kunabanye abantwana.
- Ukukhetha malunga nokukhetha ukutya; unokukhetha ukutya okuthambileyo okanye ukunqande ukutya okungaguqukiyo okuthile
- Iinkcukacha zezaziso kwindalo esingqongileyo, kubandakanya notshintsho olufihlakeleyo egumbini okanye kwimpahla yabanye
- Thatha imikhondo efihlakeleyo yentlalo: ngokungaqhelekanga wazi iimoods, ulwimi lomzimba, intetho yabanye; ine-intuition engaqhelekanga
Lumka malunga neemeko zamanoveli
Kwiimeko zenoveli ezi mpawu ziyamchaza:
- Ukuthandabuza kunye nokude kwiimeko ezintsha kunye neemeko ezintsha
- Rhoqo ukoyiswa kuseto oluntsonkothileyo loluntu
- Iimfuno zokwaziswa kutshintsho oluncinci
- Cotha ukuya kutshintsho kumsebenzi omtsha
- Akayithandi imimangaliso kunye nokothuka
- Ndineentloni kwaye ndithandabuza abantu abangabaziyo; bayacotha ukufudumeza abantu
- Uyonwabile ukudlala wedwa okanye uchithe ixesha elininzi wedwa egumbini lakho