Ngenxa yokuba Ukulila kukuphendula ngokweemvakalelo yemeko ethile yoxinzelelo okanye yokubandezeleka. Kufuneka sinike ukubaluleka kokukhala ebantwaneni, kuba bayakwenza oko xa uziva uloyiko, umsindo, iintlungu, unxunguphalo, usizi, xa sithetha ngokubanzi, xa bengakwazi ukuveza iimvakalelo zabo.
Kuyinyani oko kwabanye abazali inokuba ngumsindo kwaye ibangela ukuba senze iimpazamo ezinkulu ekuphenduleni ukukhathazeka kwethu. Oku kugqiba ukuba singanika impendulo embi okanye cinezela umntwana ngokumkhanyela ukuba angalili. Kodwa amaxesha amaninzi awunyanzelekanga ukuba onakalise ukuzithemba kwakho.
Kufuneka ubacacisele ngokubaluleka kokulilela abantwana bakho
Usana alufani, umntwana onobuchule obuncinci bokuqonda isimilo esinjalo kunzima nika isisombululo esinokubakho nesisengqiqweni kule mpendulo. Umntwana sele enawo amandla okwenza oko kunye nabantwana abaninzi bacinezela ukukhala kwabo. Uninzi lwazo luyarhoxa kwaye lube nomsindo, alubonakalisi ukukhathazeka kwabo kwaye lunokukhokelela kwixesha elide ukuya ukungaziphathi kakuhle kunye nokuziphatha okungenampilo.
Ke ngoko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba Ukulila kunokuba yimfundo kakhulu. Uxinzelelo lwabantwana kwesi sakhono kwaye kuyinyani ukuba njengoko bekhula, amakhwenkwe sele elila kakhulu kunamantombazana. Olu lwazi lubalulekile kuba bajongane nokuziphatha okufundiweyo.
Xa belila kufuneka uyiqonde loo nto bancede ukuhambisa ukungonwabi kwabo, ukubenza balile kubenza ukuba babeke uxinzelelo emzimbeni wabo kwaye zisenza ukuba siyiqonde ngcono le ndlela.
Ukulila kunceda ukhulule ingqondo yakho kwaye uzive uxinzelelo oluncinci lokukhathazeka, iya kubanceda bazive bekhululeke ngokwasemzimbeni ngenxa yokuba betolika ngokusengqiqweni iimvakalelo zabo, uya kufumana ukulingana kwengqondo.
Kubalulekile ukuba ungazenzi ezi ndlela zokuziphatha
Sigqibile ngo ukubaluleka kokulila ebantwaneni, ukuba xa uziva ungonwabanga akufuneki ucinezele iimvakalelo zakho ukuze iziphumo zingakhokeleli iingxaki zempilo yengqondo umzekelo umsindo. Ke ngoko kufanelekile zama ukungatsho , “Sukulila” okanye “kufuneka ube nesibindi kakhulu”,… kuba siyazicinezela iimvakalelo zabo kwaye umntwana ufuna indlela yokubaleka. Ukulila yindlela yendalo wonke umntu anokuyisebenzisa.
Njalo akufuneki sisebenzise amabinzana njani "ungazibaxi izinto" okanye "amakhwenkwe angalili", kuba Sifundisa kwakhona ukuba ukulila akulunganga. Apha bacinezela iimvakalelo zabo kwaye bona kufuneka bafunde ukuyeka. Kwangokunjalo, ibinzana elithi "amakhwenkwe akakhali" kwakhona linika isisombululo ekufundiseni ukuba abantwana akufuneki bakhale, xa iyinto eqhelekileyo. Amakhwenkwe, amantombazana kunye nabantu abadala bayakhala kwaye akukho mntu ucalucalulwa ngenxa yesini.
Kwelinye icala ukukhala ngaphandle kwentuthuzelo ayilunganga nakwimpilo yakho. Ndiyazi ukuba ngumba ophikisanayo. Kulungile ukuba ukhale umzuzwana ukukhupha loo mzuzu woxinzelelo, kodwa ukuba ukukhala kwakho kuyaqhubeka kakhulu kufuneka kuzinyaswe. Ayilunganga ukumvumela ukuba akhale ekhanye de ukudinwa kwakhe. Kungenxa yokuba kunokukhokelela ekunciphiseni ioksijini yegazi kwingqondo yakho okanye kunokubangela ukopha kwengqondo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
Makukhale umntwana naye kuyenza ibe sempilweni ekuhambeni kwexesha, Unokwenza ukuba umntwana abe nexhala ngakumbi okanye angabambisani noko kutolikwa ukuba konakele ukukwazi kwakho ukunxibelelana nabanye. Kubalulekile ukuba wazi indlela yokwahlulahlula ukuba akufani ukuya kuye ekhala kufuneka umnike yonke into ayifunayo.