Ungaloyisa njani uxinzelelo lokwahlulahlula xa uzamile konke

Ukwahlula ukuxhalaba yingxaki eqhelekileyo ezifumana iintsapho ezininzi mihla le. Abazali abaninzi xa kufuneka beshiye abantwana babo abancinci nabanye abanonopheli, babona abantwana babo beqala ukukhala ngokungalawuleki. Xa oku kusenzeka abaziqulathi kwaye babuye bazokuthatha kwaye babanike uthando lokuthomalalisa ukungonwabi kwabo, kodwa oku akunamveliso.

Ukuba, umzekelo, umshiya umntwana wakho kwigumbi lokugcina abantwana kwaye umva ekhala kwaye abuye eze kumthuthuzela, uya kuba uqinisa ngokungathandekiyo, unyana wakho uya kucinga ukuba xa ekhala kakhulu, uya kubuya msinyane. Kwaye ngekhe kuhlale kunje.

Ukwahlukana koxinzelelo

Ukuze abantwana bangasokoli kakhulu ngenxa yoxinzelelo lokwahlulahlula, kubalulekile ukuba uyikhumbule into yokuba umntwana wakho kufuneka ngokuthe ngcembe aqhelane nomntu oza kumgcina, nokuba ngumongi ekhaya okanye kwindawo yokugcina abantwana. Kubalulekile ukuba unikezele ngokuthe ngcembe ebusweni bakho, ukhuthaze imisebenzi emnandi, ukuze umntwana wakho azuze ukuzithemba.

Umntwana wakho ufuna ukuziva ukuba lo mntu uyakwazi ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zabo, nokuba ukhona. Umceli mngeni kukugcina ukuthembela kuloo mntu ngaphandle kokuba ubekho. Xa ukunye nalo mntu kwaye besenza into enomdla, hlala ngasemva ungasondeli kakhulu, ngale ndlela baya kuqala ukuziva bezithembile kodwa ngesiqinisekiso sokuba usondele.

Kancinci kancinci, kuya kufuneka uqale ukushiya ngexesha elincinci ukuze umntwana wakho azi ukuba uyabuya. Qala ngamathuba amafutshane kwaye njengoko usiya ukhululeka ngakumbi, unokuzikhuphela ngaphandle. Xa ushiya, hlala usenza inkqubo yokuvalelisa, engekho mde kakhulu okanye imfutshane kakhulu, kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke, musa ukubuya ngelixa ndilila. Amaxesha ambalwa okuqala, xa ushiya kwaye ekhala, kuya kufuneka ulinde ade agqibe ukukhala ukuze abuyele kuye, ngale ndlela uyakuqonda ukuba ukuba akakhali, uya kubuya. Ke kancinci kancinci uyabona ukolula ixesha lokwahlula de ube ungamshiya nomntu omkhathaleleyo ngokwesiqhelo.

Ungathini ukuba yonke le nto ayisebenzi?

Usenokuba uzame yonke into kwaye oku akusebenzi, okanye ubuncinci kunokuba unethemba lokuba kunokuba njalo. Ngale ndlela, zikho ezinye iindlela onokuthi uziqwalasele ukuze umntwana wakho oyise uxinzelelo lokwahlukana, nokuba ucinga ukuba uzame yonke into.

Ndivumele ndibenento yokuncamathisela

Vumela into yakhe yokuncamathisela ukuba akukho nto yenzekayo ukuba uyalahleka (kuba une-spare), inokuba yitshefu okanye unodoli. Abantwana banokuziva bencamathele kule nto kwaye baziva bekhuselekile xa umama engekho kuba ibanika ukhuseleko kunye nentuthuzelo yeemvakalelo.

Xa umntwana wakho eziva ekhuselekile, akasayi kuyidinga le nto xa kungekho bazali bakhe. Kodwa ekuqaleni, inokuhamba indlela ende ekuvumeleni utshintsho.

Nceda umntwana wakho aqonde ukuba kwenzeka ntoni

Nangona ulwimi lwakhe lilinganiselwe, uyakwazi ukuqonda ngaphezu kokuba ucinga ukuba uluthetha kuye ngolwimi olufanelekileyo. Ukucacisa ukuba uzobuya kwaye ukhona ukuzonwabisa ngokwenza izinto ezimnandi kuya kumnceda akwazi ukumelana ngcono kwaye amqinisekise ukuba kuzakwenzeka ntoni emva koko. Mxelele ukuba uza kwenza ntoni ngelixa ekhathalela abantwana ukuze azi ukuba uza kulinda ntoni.

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Musa ukuphuma uzimele

Kukho abazali abahendwayo ukuba babaleke xa abantwana babo bephazanyiswa yiyo nantoni na kodwa esi ayisosisombululo konke konke. Oku kuyakwenza ukuba uzive uxhalaba lokwahlulahlula kwaye kukwenze kubi ekuhambeni kwexesha. Xa umntwana wakho eqala ukukhala, ungatsho ngokuzolileyo into efana nale: Ndiyazi ukuba awufuni ndihambe, kodwa ndiza kuza nje xa ugqiba ukutya. Ndivalelisa ndingaphandle kwaye umphathi wakho uzokusa efestileni andibulise phambi kokuba ndihambe. Ndikuthanda kakhulu'.

Ke, kuya kufuneka uhambe, uxhathise umnqweno wokuthatha umntwana wakho ngelixa elila, kodwa ungalibali ukubulisa ngaphambi kokuba uhambe. Fihla ukubandezeleka kwakho ubonise ukuzithemba ekufuneka umntwana wakho abenako kwaye nokwahlukana kuyinyani kwaye akulunganga nakubani na.

Thetha nomongi ngaphambi kwexesha

Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukushiya umntwana wakho kunye nomongi, kuya kufuneka uthethe naye malunga nokuba angamthuthuzela njani kwaye amphazamise umntwana wakho ukwenza utshintsho lube lula. Umntwana wakho kufuneka azive ethuthuzelwa ngumntu omkhathaleleyo. Ukuphazamiseka kunokusebenza okwethutyana, kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha into efunekayo ngumntwana wakho kukuchaza uxinzelelo xa ushiya, kwaye omnye umntu amange kwaye amenze azive ekhuselekile. Ke ukuphazamiseka ayisiyondlela intle yokuthuthuzela.

Abantu ababanonophelayo bahlala benabanye abantwana ukuba babanyamekele ngenxa yokuqhutywa kwemvakalelo kuya kufuneka yenzeke kunye nawe xa usekhaya. Umkhathaleli angamnceda umntwana wakho ukuba aphelise ukungoneliseki, kodwa kunye nawe kufuneka amkele ngokwenyani ukuba yindawo elungileyo kuye. Abanye abantwana abancinci bayazola ngokubukela ukuwa kwamanzi empompini okanye ngokujonga ngefestile ukuze babone iintaka ezikondlayo okanye zidanise ezingalweni zomgcini womculo othile.

Umntu okhathalelayo kuya kufuneka enze uphando de bafumane into emenza azive kamnandi, ezolile kwaye ekhuselekile xa abazali bakhe bengekho.

Ungaze ufike emva kwexesha ukulanda umntwana wakho!

Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu ukongeza kuyo yonke into echazwe apha ngasentla kukuba ungaze ube semva kwexesha ukulanda umntwana wakho. Ukuba ugqibile ukutya kwaye ungekafiki ukuzomthatha njengoko ubuthembisile, uyakudala imvakalelo yexesha elide yokuba awuzifezekisi izithembiso zakho kwaye oku, Inokude ivelise imvakalelo yokulahlwa ebantwaneni.

Ukuba uthi uza kubakho xa ndigqiba ukutya, qiniseka ukuba uza kufika ngelo xesha hayi kamva. Ngale ndlela, xa umntwana wakho ekubona ungena emnyango, uya kuziva enethemba lokuba ubuya ngenene kwaye kuya kuba lula kuye ukuba atshintshe, ke uya koyisa uxinzelelo lokwahlulahlula ngokukhawuleza.


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