Isibini esigqiba ekubeni siqhawule umtshato ngelixa sinabantwana kungenxa yokuba bekukho iingxaki ezinzulu ezibakhokelele ekuthatheni eso sigqibo. Kungenzeka ukuba uthando luphelile okanye ukuthembela kwesi sibini kuye kwaphulwa kwaye ubudlelwane abunakwenzeka. Kodwa nantoni na, ukwenza isigqibo sokuqhawula umtshato akukho lula nakubani na nangaphantsi xa kukho abantwana abaqhelekileyo nabo ekufuneka beyigqibile yonke le nkqubo kwaye baziva ngathi yonke into iyabaphazamisa.
Phakathi kwetyala kunye nentlungu, isibini esiqhawule umtshato sinokungayiqondi indlela le nto ebachaphazela ngayo abantwana babo abancinci, kodwa iyabachaphazela, abancinci nabadala. Kodwa abantwana abancinci abangekabinaso isigama sokuchaza indlela abavakalelwa ngayo okanye ukuba ezi nguqu zibachaphazela njani, nabo kufuneka balwamkele utshintsho. Mhlawumbi ukuba unabantwana abakhulileyo ubathumela kunyango kwaye ukuba unabantwana abancinci ucinga ukuba bayayamkela kakuhle, kodwa akukho nto iqhubekayo kwinyani, eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba ubancede ukuba balwamkele lonke utshintsho oluza yiza. Ukufezekisa oku, ungathandabuzi ukulandela ezi ngcebiso zilandelayo kwaye uzilungelelanise nemeko yosapho lwakho ngoku.
Chaza imeko entsha
Abantwana baqonda ngakumbi kunabantu abadala abacinga kwaye yiyo loo nto kufanelekile ukuba bacaciselwe izinto. Kuya kufuneka uyenze ngolwimi olulula, kodwa kuya kufuneka uyenze kwaye ngokukhawuleza ngcono. Abazali mabacacisele abantwana ukuba le meko iza kubuchaphazela njani ubomi babo kwaye kufuneka bazi kakuhle ukuba luyintoni "uqhawulo-mtshato" kwaye luyintoni na usapho kunye nakubo.
Ukuba awukalwazi utshintsho oluza kwenzeka, ungachaza kuphela into oyaziyo. Umzekelo, ungatsho izinto ezinje: "Siza kuhlala kulendlu kwaye uTata uza kuhlala kwindlu eyahlukileyo kodwa uza kuza amaxesha ngamaxesha" okanye "uMama noTata bazakuba nendlu yabo nawe siyakuhlala kwezi ndawo zombini. ». Iinkcukacha ezininzi omnika zona, kokukhona eya kulungela imeko ezayo. Nceda umntwana wakho aqonde ukuba yimeko kanaphakade kwaye ungazami ukuyenza iswekile le meko kuba emva koko awuyi kubalungiselela abantwana bakho inyani ezayo.
Thetha ixesha elide
Kungenzeka ukuba ngenxa yeentlungu ezifanayo uziva kwimeko, uziva isidingo sokusebenzisa amagama athambileyo ukuze abantwana bakho bangabazi ubunyani bento eyenzekayo. Ukuthetha izinto ezinje ngo "Mama noTata bayathandana," "Siselusapho olusondeleyo," kunokudida umntwana. emva koko ungaqondi ukuba kutheni konke oku kusenzeka. Kungcono ukushiya ezi ntlobo zezimvo. Xa uthetha nabantwana abancinci, kungcono ukusebenzisa ulwimi olulula oluthetha ixesha elide kodwa nemiyalezo ecacileyo. Kuya kufuneka uphephe ukunika abantwana bakho ithemba lobuxoki ukuze bangaziva iintlungu ezinzulu xa befumanisa ukuba umbono wabo wokuba umama notata baya kubuya kunye awuzukwenzeka.
Yenze icace into yokuba soze umshiye
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana abayiqondi imeko yoqhawulo-mtshato kwaye banokucinga ukuba abazali babo, ukuba bayawuqhawula umtshato, banokubaqhawula umtshato nabo, oku kungadala imvakalelo yokulahlwa. Abantwana kufuneka bazi ukuba ngamanye amaxesha oomama notata bathatha isigqibo sokwahlukana njengokuba ngamanye amaxesha abantwana begqiba ekubeni bangabi ngabahlobo kwakhona. Kodwa akukho meko ayiyi kuthandwa okanye ishiywe, kuba abazali bahlala bebathanda abantwana babo, kude kube sekupheleni kweentsuku.
Xelela unyana wakho ukuba uzolala nabani
Abantwana abaninzi bayabhideka malunga nokuba bayaphi suku ngalunye okanye iveki nganye. Abazi ukuba bazolala phi kwaye oko kubangela ukungonwabi kunye nokudideka. Abazi nokuba baya kuthathwa esikolweni ngutata okanye ngumama wabo. Umntwana kufuneka azi ukuba iyakuba yintoni na ishedyuli yakhe yonke imihla. Baxelele ntsasa nganye into oza kuyenza kunye nabani kwaye ubakhumbuze ngaphambi kokuba ulale. Yenza ikhalenda yeentsuku zokuba abe noMama kunye neentsuku zokuba abe noTata kwaye uzixhome egumbini lakhe ukuze acace. Umzekelo, unokupeyinta iintsuku aya kuba kunye noTata ngombala omnye kunye neentsuku zokuba abe noMama komnye umbala. Ngale ndlela unokukhumbula ngokubonakalayo ishedyuli yakho kwaye uzive ungcono ungabhidekanga.
Mabashiye abazali babuyele ekhaya
Nangona kukho ukhetho endibona ukuba kufanelekile kwaye kufanelekile ukulungiselela abantwana xa abazali beqhawula umtshato. Kwimeko apho indlu ilingana nabazali kwaye likhaya losapho, Ukuba kukho amathuba okungaqiniseki ubomi babantwana kangako, eyona nto ifanelekileyo kukuba abazali ngabangenayo nabashiya ikhaya.. Oko kukuthi, abantwana baya kuhlala behleli kwikhaya losapho ukungalungelelanisi ubomi babo ngokuncinci kangangoko kunokwenzeka (kwanele ukuba kufuneka batshintshe kuqhawulo-mtshato) kwaye iya kuba ngabazali abatshintshanayo ukuba nabantwana babo ekhaya. Ngale ndlela abantwana banokuziva bengazinzanga kangako. Ucinga ntoni ngale ndlela yokulawula utyelelo?
Cwangcisa iholide ukuze bazi ukuba bazakwenza ntoni kwaye nabani
Kukwabaluleke kakhulu ukuba iiholide kunye neeholide zicacile kubo bonke abantu kwikhalenda ukusuka kumzuzu wokuqala. Ngale ndlela, kwiKrisimesi okanye kwimibhiyozo yehlobo, abantwana Baza kukwazi ukuchitha ixesha notata kunye nomnye umama ngendlela efanelekileyo ukuze bonwabe bobabini abazali ngokulinganayo.
Ewe kunjalo, zonke izigwebo ezikhutshwe yijaji malunga nelungelo lokugcina umntwana kunye neliphi na ixesha ngokubhekisele kukhathalelo nentlalontle yabantwana kufuneka zinyanzeliswe ngokungqongqo. Yintoni enye ocinga ukuba ifuna ukuthathelwa ingqalelo kuyo yonke le nkqubo ukulungiselela abantwana abancinci?