Ungayinceda njani intombi yam ekhulelweyo

Ungayinceda njani intombi yam ekhulelweyo

Ukukhulelwa kwishumi elivisayo Inokuba ngumzuzu ongafanelekanga kunye nefuthe eliphezulu kulowo ufikisayo. Ukuze sikwazi ukusombulula le nyaniso kangangoko kunokwenzeka, kufuneka sinikeze intombi yethu eyona nkxaso yethu ilungileyo.

Nangona kubonakala ngathi siphila ngamanye amaxesha ukukhulelwa kulutsha nakwabo bangaphantsi kweminyaka eli-18 ikhulile. Nangona ukumangaliswa ziindaba kubunzima obukhulu kuya kufuneka uyicinge le meko kwaye uzame ukunceda umntwana ngeyona ndlela ibhetele.

Uhlangabezana njani nokukhulelwa kolutsha?

Ngumzuzu onzima ekufuneka ujongane nawo, umntu ekufuneka ethathe oku kumitha kufuneka bunzima elinye lamaxesha akho aphambili kwaye oku ufuna uncedo. Kwiimeko ezininzi zizibakala ekuthi kuzo kuphela umfazi okhulelweyo kufuneka acinge, kuba omnye umntu obandakanyekayo akafuni kuthatha inxaxheba kuxanduva olukhulu.

Ngenxa yale nyani kwaye singabazali kufuneka hlala wehlile, okwenzekileyo akunakuguqulwa kunye nedatha eyongezelelweyo akukho mfuneko yakuba ufune onetyala, kodwa izisombululo. Akufanele uzibek 'ityala ngokungakhathali kwakhe nabani na, okanye uzibeke ityala ngokungabi nawo ulawulo ngaphezulu komcimbi.

Akunakwenzeka ukulawula rhoqo kubantwana bethu, ke ngoko, ayilotyala ukuba nemfundo engonelanga. Lixesha lokuba uhlalutye indlela zonke izinto ezithunyelwayo ezibandakanya ukukhulelwa okuzayo kwaye kungathathelwa ingqalelo kwaye qhubeka uye phambili unethemba.

Ngalo mzuzu wokuthatha isigqibo sokungaqiniseki, kuya kuvela imibuzo emininzi engenakusonjululwa okwangoku. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba uhlale uzolile, ungabi noxinzelelo kunye musa ukuphulukana nolawulo kwesi sigqibo sikhulu.

Ungayinceda njani intombi yam ekhulelweyo

Abazali kufuneka banike inkxaso epheleleyo kunye noxinzelelo kwintombi yakhe. Njengoko bekusoloko kusenziwa ebantwaneni, ngumzuzu apho kufuneka udlulise loo mvakalelo yokhuseleko. Uya kuhamba nayo elona xesha lakhe libi kwaye lixesha lokuba nonke nihlale phantsi nizibuze ukuba ingaba yintoni yonke le nto.

Uya kuziva enetyala ngale nto yenzekileyoKodwa ngoku akukho kubuya mva kwaye yonke into engaphambili kufuneka yenziwe. Umntu ofikisayo kufuneka azame ukuhambisa uloyiko lwakho, amaxhala akho kunye namathandabuzo akho. Akanakuba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni ongaphaya kokunokwenzeka kwaye ngabazali ngabo ekufuneka bekhokele okunokwenzeka.

Kufuneka icaciswe ukuba ikamva lomntwana ofikisayo okhulelweyo limiselwe. Asazi ukuba uyafuna na ukushiya izifundo zakhe kwaye abe neqabane lakhe, ukuba ufuna ukugqiba izifundo zakhe okanye uya kufuna ukungena ebomini bakhe bokusebenza xa sele enomntwana wakhe. Nokuba yeyiphi na imeko mayithathelwe ingqalelo kwaye kufuneka nabazali Xhasa nasiphi na isigqibo. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ulungelelanise ubomi bakho, uqhubeke nezifundo zakho kwaye uxoxe ngokuba uza kuhlala phi. Ngokuqinisekileyo iya kuba lixesha oya kuthi ulithathe ngokungathí sina kunye noxanduva.

Ezinye iintlobo zokhetho ezinokufunyanwa

Ukufumana umntwana ziindaba zika uvelwano olukhulu novuyoKodwa kwiimeko ezinje, kunokwenzeka ukuba kube lilifu. Phantse ngalo lonke ixesha ukukhulelwa kule minyaka yobudala kuthabatha isigqibo sokuba nomntwana, kodwa kusoloko kukho ezinye iindlela ezingathandwayo ngabaninzi.


Ungayinceda njani intombi yam ekhulelweyo

Ukuphazamisa ukukhulelwa iwela ngaphakathi kwezi ndlela. Iya kwenziwa ngokukhupha isisu nakumaziko adibeneyo ukulungiselela le njongo. Iziphumo zempembelelo enjalo kufuneka zixoxwe, kuba kwiimeko ezininzi kunokwenzeka ukuba uthethe ngomngcipheko okanye isiphumo seemvakalelo.

Kwelinye icala, kukho ukhetho lwe Yinike ukwamkelwa, into engafane ithathelwe ingqalelo kwiimeko ezininzi, kodwa kukho iimeko apho zenziwa khona. Kugqitywe ekubeni kungaphazanyiswa ukukhulelwa, kodwa umntwana akafuni ukubanoxanduva lolo sana kamva. Ingayiyo sisihloko esicingisisa kakhulu, kuba iinjongo zalowo mncinci kukugqiba izifundo zabo kwaye bakwazi ukukhangela umsebenzi olungileyo kamva.

Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba uthethe nomntu ofikisayo, uphakamise zonke iinketho kwaye funa olona ngcebiso lungcono ukuba kuyafuneka. Kukho abantu abafanelekileyo abanokunceda aba bantwana ukuba bafumane esona sisombululo silungileyo, kubandakanya Isayikholojisti okanye unontlalontle.


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