Abantwana kufuneka babe nemida, bafumanise ukuba yintoni elungileyo nengafanelekanga, bafunde ukuhlonela imithetho yaye konke oku kufanele kufundiswe ngootata noomama kwasebuncinaneni babo. Ukunika yonke iminqweno yomntwana akumthandi ngakumbi, kuphuma kubumsulwa babazali, indlela elula yokumosha. Into eyenzekayo kwixesha elide, akayi kuba nemiphumo emibi kubomi bomntwana.
Ukuba uyathandabuza malunga nokuba uyamosha umntwana wakho, ngezantsi uya kufumana izitshixo eziya kukunceda ukusombulula onke amathandabuzo akho. Akukaze kube kudala kakhulu ukuphinda ulawule indlela yokuziphatha embi, kuba nangona kunokuba nzima, umvuzo ekugqibeleni uya kuba luncedo kuye wonke umntu. Ewe ngokunjalo, ngokukhawuleza uqalisa ukutshintsha imfundo yomntwana wakho, ngokukhawuleza uya kufumana iziphumo, kuba umdala, uya kuba nzima ngakumbi.
Ndimosha umntwana wam?
Enye yezona ziphambili iziphumo zokonakalisa abantwana Liye lifike ixesha apho baye baphelelwe yintlonipho, ingakumbi kumntu obatotosa kakhulu. Abantwana bafuna abantu abanegunya., ngaphakathi kwemida emiselwa ngumntu ngamnye, amele afunde ukuyihlonela. Ukunikezela kwizinto ezithile kuyinto eqhelekileyo, yinxalenye yolwalamano lomzali nomntwana.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuze kubekho umnyinyiva kufuneka kuqala kubekho umgangatho. Abantwana kufuneka bafunde ukwamkela imithetho ukuze baqhelane nobomi boluntu. Ngaphandle koko, Abayi kukwazi ukuhlonipha imithetho yokuhlalisana esikolweni, imigaqo yobomi ngokubanzi okanye kukho abantu abanegunya elithile, abafundisi-ntsapho okanye abaphathi babo emsebenzini kwixesha elizayo.
Nangona kungekhona malunga nokujonga ityala, kuyimfuneko ukucinga ukuba ukuba umntwana uchithekile ngenxa yoluhlu lwezigqibo ezimbi. Ukusuka apho, Ekuphela kwento eseleyo kukuqondisa kwakhona oko kuziphatha, ukutshintsha imikhwa ezibangele ingxaki kwaye ziqalise ukubeka izisombululo ngokukhawuleza. Ngotshintsho oluncinci, imithetho kunye nomonde omkhulu, isimo sengqondo somntwana sinokuphuculwa.
Izitshixo zokwazi ukuba uyamosha umntwana wakho
Bonke ootata noomama bayazi ngexesha elithile ukuba banomntwana owonakeleyo, kuba isimo sengqondo somntwana siphuma ekulawuleni kwaye sibonakala kakhulu. Ngelo xesha, lixesha lokuba uzibuze ukuba izinto zenziwa ngokufanelekileyo. Ngaba uyathandabuza ukuba uyamosha umntwana wakho? Ezi zitshixo ziya kukunika impendulo.
- Umnika yonke into ayifunayo: lala late, yitya lento uyifunayo, yonke into oyifunayo, nantoni na oyirhalelayo.
- Awubeki mithetho: Akanazibophelelo okanye uxanduva ekhaya, njengokuthatha izinto zakhe zokudlala okanye ukugqiba imisebenzi emincinci.
- Uncoma yonke into ayenzayo, nokuba iphosakele: Ukuba uyakuthuka uhleka endaweni yokuba umlungise, ukuba uyacaphuka aze akuthethe kakubi uyamvumela, awunikeli kubaluleka ukuziphatha kakubi, nto leyo esiya iqatsela.
- Uhlala uthatha icala lakhe: noba uyamazi ukuba wenze into embi, uphephe uxanduva umgqume umnqanda ukuba angafezi uxanduva lwakhe.
- Undiyeke ndiswele intlonipho: Umntwana owoniweyo uba nguzwilakhe, azikholelwe yena ngaphezu kwabanye, kuquka nonina. Ukuba uvumela umntwana wakho ukuba angakuhloneli ngaphandle kwemiphumo, inokukhawuleza ibe yimeko enzima kakhulu.
Indlela yokuqondisa ngokutsha imeko
Ukuba ngumzali akuyondlwan’ iyanetha, ngoko akufanele uzibek’ ityala okanye uzive kabuhlungu xa ufumanisa ukuba uyamosha umntwana wakho. Zininzi iimeko ezinokukhuthaza imfundo ephantsi., kodwa kuyo nayiphi na imeko into ebalulekileyo kukuyiqonda kwangethuba ukukwazi ukuqondisa kwakhona imeko. Musa ukucinga ukuba uya kuba ngumama okanye utata ombi ukuba uqala ukubeka imida yomntwana wakho, kuba kuya kuba yinto echaseneyo.
Umntwana wakho usenokungaluqondi olu tshintsho, unokwandisa ubuzwilakhe kwaye abe noburhalarhume kuwe. Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, ukufumana amazwi angendawo nokuziphatha kubantwana bakho kunzima, kodwa khumbula ukuba yeyona nto ilungileyo kuwe. Ikamva lakho njengomntu omdala onoxanduva lixhomekeke kwimfundo yakho ebuntwaneni. Indlela yokuba ngumama inde kwaye ibandakanya ukufunda rhoqo kumntu wonke.