Xa ufumanisa ukuba umntwana wakho uyalwa ngexesha lokuphumla, oko kunokubangela ukungakwazi ukuzenzela nto kuba kuncinane onokukwenza emsebenzini okanye ekhaya. Kodwa inyaniso kukuba unokuphucula imeko ukusuka ekhaya ukuze umntwana wakho abe nekhefu elinempilo phakathi kweeklasi. Abanye abazali bayakhululeka ngalo mbandela yaye bakholelwa ukuba eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuhlangabezana nezi ngxaki kukuvumela abantwana babo bazilungise ngokwabo ngaphandle kokungenelela kwabo. Ngale ndlela abantwana banokuba neengxoxo zabo baze basombulule iingxabano njengoko bebona kufanelekile.
Yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba abantwana abancinci bafumane ubunzima bokwabelana, ukutshintshisana, kunye nokuchonga indima kumaqela xa bedlala kunye. Kubalulekile ukuba baziqhelanise nezakhono eziyimfuneko ukusombulula iingxabano ukuze kube yinto yesibini kubo kubo bonke ubomi babo kwaye ngale ndlela iingxabano ezincinci azibi ziintlekele ezinkulu zeemvakalelo. Ngesikhokelo esilungileyo esivela kubazali, nabantwana abancinci banokufunda izakhono ezisisiseko zokusombulula ungquzulwano… Kodwa kufuneka usebenze usekhaya kwaye ungajongi kwenye indawo.
Ukuzonwabisa kwabazali nabantwana
Kuyimfuneko ukuba ukuba ukrokrela ukuba umntwana wakho uneengxaki ngexesha lekhefu lesikolo, mbuze ngokuthe ngqo ukuba kwenzeka ntoni. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ube neencoko ezivulelekileyo nezinyanisekileyo kunye nomntwana wakho ukuze ufumanise ukuba le nto yenzekayo inzulu okanye hayi. Ukuba umntwana wakho akakuxeleli nto, ngoko thetha nomkhapheli womntwana wakho ukuze aphulaphule eklasini nakwixesha lokuphumla xa kunokwenzeka ukuba umntwana wakho okanye abanye baziphathe ngendlela engaqhelekanga.
Abazali beHelikopta bathanda ukundanda ngoloyiko phezu komntwana wabo kwindawo yokudlala, beqinisekisa ukuba abenzi bungozi kwinto abayibona iyindawo eyingozi. Kukho abazali abakwaziyo ukuza esikolweni ngexesha lekhefu ukuze bazibonele ngawabo amehlo into enokwenzeka baze bangenelele xa bebona kufanelekile. Aba bazali banenjongo yokukhusela umntwana wabo kwiziganeko ezenzeka ebaleni, kodwa oku kunokubathintela ekuphuhliseni izakhono eziyimfuneko, ezinjengokusombulula iingxaki kunye nokuhlola umngcipheko, esisigqibo esibi kwaye umntwana wakho unokuba nengxaki xa efikisa.
Kukwakho nabazali abangafuni nto iza kubaphazamisa kwimpumelelo yabantwana babo nabafuna bangasokoli nangantoni na emhlabeni. Ngokomzekelo, bangabazali ababa ndlongondlongo xa befumanisa ukuba abantwana babo babandakanyeke kwiingxaki zokudlala okanye xa kukho umntu obasongelayo. Abantwana baya kulwela ukuzikhusela kodwa akufuneki baxhomekeke kwinkxaso yabantu abadala... Kodwa kunjalo, Bafanele bazi ukuba baya kusoloko benenkxaso yabo babathandayo nabantu abadala ababathembileyo ngalo lonke ixesha beyifuna.
Abantwana kufuneka bafunde ukuba izenzo zabo zineziphumo kwaye nangona benokukhetha ukukhetha uncedo kufuneka bafunde kwiimpazamo zabo, ukuba bahlala behlangulwa abayi kufunda uxanduva ngezenzo zabo. Ukuba wenza yonke into kubantwana bakho kwaye uhlala ubakhusela ngokugqithiseleyo ngaphandle kokubanika izixhobo eziyimfuneko zokuphucula ngokwabo, ngoko abayi kufunda ukuzikhusela okanye ukufezekisa izinto ngokwabo.
Yintoni onokuyenza xa kukho ungquzulwano kwibala lokudlala?
Xa kuvela ingxabano, kubalulekile ukuba abantwana ababandakanyekileyo bafumane ithuba lokuchaza oko kwenzekileyo, ukuze abanye baphulaphule ngaphandle kokuphazamisa. Akuba umntwana ngamnye enethuba lokuthetha, umzali (okanye umntu omdala okhoyo) unokuyenza lula ingxaki ebantwaneni ibe sisivakalisi esinye okanye ezibini ukuze bayiveze ngokucacileyo loo ngxaki nokuze bayiqonde kakuhle into eyenzekileyo.
Abantwana bafanele bakhunjuzwe ukuba nabo kufuneka baphulaphule ngoxa abanye bethetha. Ngale ndlela incoko kwiqela iya kuququzelelwa kwaye ngale ndlela isisombululo esihle sinokukhethwa kubo bonke abathathi-nxaxheba. Ukuba awukwazi ukwenza oku ngenxa yokuba ungekho esikolweni, ungathetha notitshala womntwana wakho uze ubacele bakuthathele ingqalelo oku.
Emva kokuba kuvunyelwene ngecebiso elifanelekileyo, abantwana bafanele banconywe ngokusebenza kunye ekucombululeni ingxaki yabo. Baya kuziva bekhululekile ukuphumeza isisombululo esikhethwe ngabo bonke, esiya kulunga kwaye silingane kubo bonke. Abazali bafanele bajonge abantwana bedlala ezipakini kananjalo kwaye basebenzise ezi zicwangciso-qhinga ukuze baqinisekise ukuba akukho ngquzulwano lungakumbi luvelayo. Ukuba isisombululo asibonakali sisebenza, iqela lifanele linikwe ithuba lokuphinda lixoxe ngesisombululo esahlukileyo.
Ngoxa kuyinto eqhelekileyo ngomntwana oselula ukuba abhenele kwizinto ezingokwasemzimbeni ukuze aphumeze usukelo lwakhe, ezinye iziganeko zinokuba nzulu ngakumbi, ingakumbi ukuba ziphindaphindwa ngumntwana omnye. Kule meko, kunokuba luncedo ngakumbi ukuba loo mntwana athunyelwe komnye umsebenzi kwibala lokudlala, okanye kwimeko yezenzo eziqatha ezifana nokuluma, ukumbamba, ukukhaba okanye ukumbetha, umntwana kufuneka asuswe kwindawo yokudlala kwaye Wena. kuya kufuneka ukuba amnike ixesha lokucinga ngezenzo zakhe phambi kokuba abuyele kwindawo yokudlala, apho aya kuqhubeka ejongwa ngabantu abadala. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuba umntwana abe noxanduva kwaye acele uxolo ngezenzo zakhe xa kuyimfuneko.
Bonke abantwana bafuna ukuziqhelanisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuze bafunde izakhono zokusombulula impixano. Ukusonjululwa kwempixano sisakhono sentlalo esiyimfuneko Kuya kunceda abantwana bazi ngakumbi kwaye babe novelwano kwiimfuno neemvakalelo zabanye, ngaloo ndlela besebenzela ekubeni novelwano nokomelela. Ukuzithemba komntwana kukhula xa efunda ukucombulula iingxaki zakhe ngendlela eyakhayo neqinisekileyo. Baphuhlisa izakhono zonxibelelwano kunye nezakhono zokuphulaphula ngelixa befunda ukucinga ngokuyilayo kunye nokuvavanya izisombululo.