Abanye abantwana abavuthiwe ngakumbi okanye baneendlela zokuziphatha zobuntwana kwiinkalo ezithile, xa kuthelekiswa nabanye abantwana abalingana nabo. Oku kunokuba yinto eqhelekileyo, kuba nganye inenqanaba lokukhula kunye nobuntu bayo ekwaphembelela inqanaba labo lokuvuthwa. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuvavanya izimo zengqondo ezinokuba luphawu lwesilumkiso lokuba into ayisebenzi njengoko kufanelekile.
Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakala engakhuli ngenxa yobudala bakhe kuba exhomekeke ngakumbi, mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba eqala ukukhala xa into ingahambi kakuhle okanye ngenxa yokuba indlela aziphethe ngayo inobuntwana ngakumbi kunabanye abantwana abakwiminyaka yakhe, kuya kufuneka uqaphele ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha. Ukukhula komntwana kulinganiswa kungekuphela bubuntu bakhe, kodwa ngophuhliso lwezakhono ezithile ekufuneka zihambisane nokukhula.
Ukwazi njani ukuba umntwana wam akakakhuli ngeminyaka yakhe
Kukho amanqanaba athile okukhula komntwana ngalawo anceda ukumisela ukukhula okuchanekileyo kwamakhwenkwe namantombazana kwinqanaba ngalinye lobuntwana. Nangona ingekuko ngokuthelekisa, kodwa malunga fumana indawo ekhonkrithi apho ubeke khona inqanaba lokukhula kwabantwana. Umzekelo, kuqikelelwa ukuba ukusuka kwiminyaka ethile abantwana ngokubanzi banokuvuthwa uqeqesho lwangasese.
Oko kungathethi ukuba bonke abantwana kufuneka bayifikelele kwinqanaba elifanayo. Njengabanye abaninzi izakhono abantwana ekufuneka beziphuhlisile, uqeqesho lwangasese luyakhula. Kule meko luphawu lokungakhuli. Ukongeza koku, kukho eminye imiba enokuba luphawu lokuba umntwana unjalo engekakhuli ebudaleni bakhe.
- Iingxaki zolwimiUkususela kwiminyaka ethile kulindeleke ukuba abantwana benze izivakalisi ezinamagama ama-2 okanye ama-3. Umntwana ongakhulanga ngeminyaka yakhe angabonisa ukulibaziseka kulwimi okanye ubunzima bokuchaza amagama anamalungu angaphezu kwesinye.
- Ulungelelwaniso olubi lweemoto: Abantwana abahlala rhoqo ungqubane neendonga kwaye bahlala bekhubeka xa behamba.
- Ukulibaziseka koqeqesho kwindlu yangasese: Esinye seziganeko ezibalulekileyo ezinxulumene nokukhula kwengqondo kunye nomzimba. Umntwana ongakhulanga kakhulu kubudala bakhe unokuba naye unengxaki yokubeka ilweyile.
Yonke le micimbi inxulumene nokungakhuli engqondweni kwaye inokuba luphawu lwengxaki ekufuneka inyangwe ziingcali. Ukusuka kulibaziseko lokuvuthwa ukuya kwi-Autism Spectrum Disorder, ekufuneka ihlolwe ngugqirha wabantwana ngokukhawuleza.
Ukungakhuli kakuhle okanye ubuntwana nje?
Kukho abantwana abangakakhuli kakuhle, kodwa banobuntwana ngakumbi kwaye babonisa ekuziphatheni kwabo. Le yimeko yabantwana abangazithembanga, abafuna ukuhoywa rhoqo kunye Bakholelwa ukuba ngokuziphatha njengomntwana baya kuligcina eliqwalaselo ngokulula ngakumbi. Inokunxulunyaniswa nobudala, kuba esikolweni umntwana unokwahluka phantse ngonyaka ngokubhekisele kwabanye abafundi afunda nabo.
Abantwana abangakhulanga ngeminyaka yabo bahlala beziphatha gwenxa, kuxhomekeka kulindeleke kubo xa befikelela kubudala obuthile. Ukulawula naziphi na ezinye iingxaki zophuhliso, into yokuqala yokwenza kukunxibelelana nodokotela wabantwana. Ekhaya, unokunceda umntwana wakho ukukhula ngemisebenzi kunye nemisebenzi ekunceda ukuba uzimele ngakumbi.
Ukwenza uluhlu lwezinto oza kuzenza onokuthatha uxanduva kunye nokufumana ukuqiniswa okuhle emva koko sisiqalo. Unokuzama ukunxibelelana nomntwana wakho, nizame ukumenza afunde ukunxibelelana ngendlela ezolileyo, echaza ngokuzolileyo umhla wakhe. Bonisa umdla kwizinto zabo, ukuze bazive bexabisekile. Xa umntwana wakho eziphatha kakuhle, mvuze ngamazwi alungileyo, kuba uya kuqonda ukuba le yindlela ukufumana ingqalelo kwaye ungaziphathi okomntwana.
Kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, hamba nomntwana wakho kwindlela yokukhula. Mncede ukuba akhule, asebenze ngokuzithemba kwakhe ukuze azive ekwazi ukwenza nantoni na. Kuba ukuthanda wena kufanele kukhuthazwe ukuze abantwana bafunde ukuzixabisa kwaye bakholelwe kwiziqu zabo. Eli linyathelo lokuqala lokuba umntwana wakho abe ngumntwana okhulileyo kwaye ozimeleyo.