Oomama abancancise ibele ephantsi okanye ephezulu bayazi ukuba sesinye sezahluko ezivaliweyo ngaphakathi kokona kubalaseleyo komama. Yeyona nto ibalaseleyo esinokuyinika abantwana bethu kwaye inqanaba sele livaliwe, kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa umntwana wakho Ufuna ukuncancisa kwakhona?
Akuthandabuzeki yinto ekhethekileyo, kodwa oomama abaninzi bayadlula kwaye babelana ngemeko engaqhelekanga. Akuqhelekanga ukuba umntwana abe neminyaka engama-6 okanye esi-7 ubudala, umzekelo, kwaye aphinde ayenze kwakhona. Isicelo sokuncancisa kwakhona.
Kutheni umntwana wam efuna ukuncancisa kwakhona?
Oku kwenzeka kakhulu kubantwana abanonamathiselo oluphezulu kunina okanye ukubuyela umva okuphezulu kwimeko ethile ebatyhalayo. Ukufika komntakwabo omncinci Kwakhona, olu hlobo lokuziphatha luvelisiwe kwaye ngenxa yezinye izizathu kuya kuba yimfuneko yenza ingcinga encinci Kutheni le nto kukho into efunwayo engafanelekanga.
Baninzi oomama abathi benze owabo umbuzo kwinethiwekhi, Unyana wakho oneminyaka emi-5 ubudala uphinde acele ibele, nanjengoko umntakwabo oneenyanga ezisixhenxe esenza njalo. Okanye ityala lomnye umama olumle umntwana wakhe oneminyaka emi-7 kwaye xa egqiba i-5 wabuza ukuba angaphinda ancancise na. Ukudibanisa konke oku kunye nenye intombi yakhe eneminyaka esi-9 ubudala, eba yinto eqhelekileyo kumantombazana. Abantwana bacinga ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukubuza ibele naxa ungekho ekhaya, nangona ukwiminyaka ethile kufuneka yiba yingqondi kwimeko enjalo.
Izizathu eziphambili ezinokubangela ukuncelisa
Esona sizathu siphambili sihlala sinxulunyaniswa kuxa kukho ubukho bomzalwana. Unobangela ngumona, ukuphulukana nodumo awayenalo ngaphambili kunye nenjongo yokufumana ingqalelo yabazali.
Ihlala ivela kubantwana abaneminyaka emi-3 ubudala xa beqala inqanaba labo lesikolo. Lixesha elihambelana notshintsho olukhulu kwaye apho ungabona khona ukuba uyaluphala. Ukuqala kwesikolo asilotshintsho olukhulu kuba abantwana bafunda ikakhulu kwimidlalo emininzi. Kodwa abanye abantwana bayayinxibelelanisa nento engaziwayo, Utshintsho olukhulu kwaye luyaboyikisa.
Kukho abantwana abathi kwinqanaba le-3-5 leminyaka baqwalasele ukuqala okukhulu koxanduva. Baziva bengenakukwazi ukuthatha uxanduva olufana nolwesikolo kwaye baqala ngohlengahlengiso kunye noloyiko lokukhula. Mhlawumbi ndiyazi bafuna ukuziva "iintsana" kwakhona Kwaye kulapho bafuna ukuncancisa kwakhona, bafuna ukusela ubisi kwibhotile okanye ukubuyela ekuthatheni i-pacifier.
Esinye nesona sizathu sibangela usizi kuxa benako ukuziva ulahlekelwe lilungu losapho. Ukuba umntwana waziva encamathiselwe kakhulu kwaye enobudlelwane obuhle, unga ndiziva ndididekile kwaye ndibhidekile. Ukubuyela kwimikhwa yakudala yindlela yokuphinda wenze loo mizuzu ikunike ukhuseleko olukhulu.
Ukuba abazali bahlala besilwa kwaye akukho buhlobo bulungileyo, unokufumana ukungazinzi ekhaya ngenxa yemilo kwaye oko kuyadala uloyiko nokungazithembi. Abantwana batsala umdla ngokufuna ukuba ziintsana kwakhona, bathethe ngokungathi ngabantwana abancinci kakhulu, balale kakubi, bathathe imikhwa yosana kwaye bazimanzise
Sinokwenza ntoni thina bazali xa kukho ukubuyela umva?
Zininzi iindlela zokusombulula kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke ukuzama ukuba nomonde kakhulu. Kuya kufuneka uzame sukungxolisa umntwana kwaye uphephe amabinzana amabi. Ukuba abazinikeli kwiminqweno yabo, kufuneka siwaqonde kwaye sichaze ukuba kukho izinto ezingasahambelaniyo nobudala babo, kwaye zihlala zinothando.
Ngokuqinisekileyo umntwana ifuna ingqalelo engakumbi kunye nexesha nabazali babo kwaye ukuba kunokwenzeka emandleni akho kufuneka uyenze. Kodwa sukugxininisa kwisimo sokuba ulusana okanye usebenzise amagama anje ngo "ulusana", kufuneka ube nomonde kakhulu, uzolile. Kufuneka uzive uthando nembeko ngento abavakalelwa ngayo kwaye ubalathise ngegunya abasinike lona ukuze babenakho ukukhokela ebomini babo.