Xa sicinga ngesihloko sokuxhatshazwa, sidla ngokuhlala sicinga kwicala labantwana abaxhatshazwayo. Nangona kunjalo, bambalwa abazali abazibuza umbuzo wokuba "Ndingenza ntoni xa ndifumanisa ukuba umntwana wam uxhaphaza umntwana afunda naye?"
Asisoloko sikuqonda ngendlela ebesingathanda ngayo oko abantwana bethu bakwenzayo okanye abangakwenziyo eklasini nendlela abanxulumana ngayo noontanga babo. Maxa wambi ootitshala baziva becinezelekile yaye oku kubangela ukuba iingxaki zibonakale ziphelelwa ukubaluleka yaye zigqunywe “njengezinto zabantwana.” Kuxhaphake ngakumbi kunokuba kubonakala ngathi abazali bomntwana ongcungcuthekiswayo abaqondi ukuba umntwana wabo unjani eklasini.
Umzali akaqondi njani ukuba umntwana wakhe ungumxhaphazi?
Njengabazali, umsebenzi wethu kunye noxanduva lwethu kukubona nokubalungisa, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ngumsebenzi onzima, abasoloko bewenza lula.
Maxa wambi ukungcungcuthekiswa akudluli ngaphaya kwamazwi awoyikisayo, angazange abonwe nguye nawuphi na umntu omdala. Kwanomntu omhluphayo usenokungazi ukuba le nto ayenzayo kukungcungcuthekisa ngokwenene., kuba ucinga ukuba yiloo nto afanele ayenze ukuze ahlonelwe okanye athandwe aze amkelwe ngabo bonke afunda nabo.
Ngelishwa, into abayenzayo kukuziphatha okomeleza ukhuseleko kunye nokuzithemba komntu oxhaphazayo, ukuze abazali babo babone umntwana wabo, oqhelekileyo, onwabileyo, kwaye bangafumani sizathu sakukhathazeka. Kwakhona kusenokwenzeka ukuba singaqondanga sizijongele phantsi iintetho ezinyelisayo abantwana bethu abanokuba nazo koontanga babo., okanye ukuziphatha ndlongondlongo, kuba maxa wambi kuba nzima kuthi ukujongana nenyaniso.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba siqhelane nabo afunda nabo kwaye sithethe nabo ukuze sifunde nangendlela anxulumana ngayo nabahlobo bakhe. Enoba baxoka kangakanani na, ngenye imini siya kuphawula into engaqhelekanga size sikwazi ukwenza okuthile ukuze umntwana wethu aqonde ukuba akanandlela ichanileyo yokuzalana naye.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo yokuziphatha ekufuneka iqwalaselwe zezi:
- Ubundlongondlongo kwabanye.
- Ukunqongophala kovelwano nabona babuthathaka okanye abo bahlukileyo kuye.
- Ukuthetheleleka kokuziphatha ndlongondlongo nabanye abantu, njengokuthi "ufanele ngenxa yokuba ...".
- Uyaphindezela okanye ajike ukukhathazeka kwakhe komnye xa esilela ukufezekisa iminqweno yakhe.
Ukuqala phi emva kokuyifumana?
Emva kokuba uqinisekisile ukuba umntwana wakho ngokwenene akaziphathanga kakuhle nomnye umntu, mhlawumbi uya kothuka kwaye ungazi ukuba wenze ntoni. Kufuneka uhlale uzolile kwaye uhlolisise ubunzulu bokuziphatha komntwana wakho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba singabhabheli ngumsindo size senze imeko ibe mbi ngakumbi.
Eli ziko liya kunceda omabini amaqela ukuba alawule nakuphi na ukungaboni ngasonye okunokubakho kwaye enze mbi ngakumbi ubudlelwane phakathi kwabalingane. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba bonke abo babandakanyekayo basebenze njengeqela, beyila intsebenziswano eyakhayo ukuze kubekho ubudlelwane obuhle phakathi kwamaqela omabini.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uyalufuna, iziko lisenokukucebisa ngohlobo oluthile lonyango, ukuba kuyimfuneko ukulawula ubundlongondlongo okanye ukungabi naluvelwano kwakhe. Akufanele woyike xa kufuneka njalo, asingabo bonke abantwana abazalwa belingana kwaye asingabo bonke abasabela ngendlela efanayo kwizivuseleli. Kwimeko apho umntwana wakho wonzakele ekuphuhliseni kwakhe ngenxa yeyiphi na imeko, eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukuyibona ngokukhawuleza kwaye uyisombulule, oku kuya kuphepha iingxaki ezinkulu.
Ukuthintela, ukwazi
Ukuba sele ubonile ukuba umntwana wakho wenze iphutha, uthathe amanyathelo kwaye wakwazi ukucombulula ingxabano, siyabonga!
Imisebenzi ye-dynamics yeqela isetyenziselwa ukufundisa ukubaluleka kokusebenza kunye njengabalinganayo.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba umntwana wakho usenokuziva ebuhlungu xa eqonda aze asiqonde into embi ayenzileyo komnye afunda naye. Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuthuthuzela oku kungathandeki mkhuthaze ukuba akhulise ulwazi phakathi kwabo bonke afunda nabo ngengxaki yokungcungcuthekiswa. Oku akuyi kukunceda kuphela ukuba uphephe ezinye iimeko zokuxhatshazwa, kodwa kuya kukunceda ukuba uqinisekise ukuzithemba kwakho kwaye uqhubele phambili ukukhula kwakho, ukufunda ukuba sonke singakwazi ukuphucula njengabantu nokuba siyazenza iimpazamo.