Ukunqongophala kwenkuthazo, ukuzithemba okuphantsi okanye ubunzima ekwenzeni imisebenzi ethile kuhlala kungunobangela wokuba umntwana onqene. Konke oku kungumceli mngeni xa kufikwa ekuphumezeni umsebenzi wabo wasekhaya, umsebenzi wasekhaya okanye nawuphina umsebenzi ofuna umgudu. Ukuvumela umntwana ukuba onqabe kakhulu yinto eyingozi ngokwenene, kuba esi simo sengqondo sinokukwenzakalisa ubomi bakho bonke.
Kule meko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uzibuze ukuba ngaba ikhona into enokubangela ukuba umntwana wakho abe livila kakhulu. Ukusukela, ngokubanzi abantwana bayasebenza ngendalo. Nangona kukho abantwana abashukunyiswe ngakumbi kunabanye, into eqhelekileyo kukuba banamandla aphuphumayo. Umnqweno wokufumanisa, ukwenza kunye nokufunda kuba yile minyaka yokuqala yobomi ebandakanya.
Ke ngoko, xa ujongene nesimo sengqondo somntwana, kubalulekile ukukhangela ukufumanisa ukuba kungakho ingxaki na okukufuphi oko kubangela ukungabikho kwenkuthazo kunye nokuzimisela emntwaneni. Oonobangela banokuba baninzi, kodwa kuphela ukuba usebenza kuyo uya kuba nakho ukunceda umntwana wakho ukuba akhulele eyakhe inkululeko, ukuzithemba kwakho, ukuqonda uxanduva kunye namandla. Zonke ziyimpawu ezifunekayo kuphuhliso lobuntu.
Ungamkhuthaza njani umntwana wam ukuba uyonqena
Rhoqo ngabazali ngokwabo abakhulisa abantwana abangamavila. Ngazo zonke iinjongo ezilungileyo emhlabeni, ngenjongo yokwenza ubomi bakho bube lula. Sisimo sengqondo sendalo, kodwa esinokuba yingozi kakhulu ebantwaneni ekuhambeni kwexesha. Ukubanceda bakhule kubandakanya ukubanika uxanduva, imisebenzi, imisebenzi kunye nemisebenzi efuna umgudu.
Kuba kungenjalo bahlala ngaphakathi, fumana ukuba kulula kangakanani ukufumana yonke into endaweni yokungenzi nto. Kodwa, xa kuvela imeko enzima apho abazali bengenakho ukuyikhathalela, bengazi ukuba balawula njani olo xinzelelo kunokuba yingxaki enkulu emntwaneni. Ngotshintsho oluncinci unokunceda umntwana wakho kwaye atshintshe isimo sengqondo sokungahambi.
- Mfundise ukulungiselela: Ukucwangcisa sisitshixo sempumelelo xa kusenziwa izinto ezininzi. Xa umntwana ejongene nemisebenzi emininzi, banokuziva bebhlokiwe ngokungazi ukuba bangamelana njani nayo. Mncede azilungiselele, yenza ishedyuli yezibophelelo zakho zemihla ngemihla kwaye wenze izixhobo ofunda ngazo ukwahlula ngcono ixesha lakho.
- Sukwenza umsebenzi wakho wesikolo: Endaweni yokwenza umsebenzi wakhe, mncede awugqibe ngokwakhe. Awuyi kumnceda ngokwenza imisebenzi yakhe, kodwa ewe ungamfundisa ukuba enze njani kwaye ube secaleni kwakho ukuze uzive ukhatshwa kukufunda kwakho.
- Xabisa iinzame zabo: Ukuba ubonakalisa umdla kwimisebenzi yakhe, nokuba ayenziwa kakuhle, kuya kufuneka ukuba uyixabise imizamo yakhe yokumkhuthaza ukuba aphucule. Umntwana kufuneka aqwalasele ukuba uyazenza izinto ebefanele ukuba uzenza, ayayifumana na ukuqiniswa okukunceda ukuba uzityhale ukuphucula.
- Mnike ixesha lokugqibezela le nto ayiqalayoUkukucinezela ngeshedyuli okanye umda wexesha kunokuqhubeka kukuthintela. Ukuba ucinga awuyi kukwazi ukuyenza Ngexesha olibuzayo, kunokwenzeka ukuba banikezele ngaphambi kokuba uqale.
- Mfundise ukuthatha uxanduva: Ukuba ukhupha into yokudlala esitalatweni, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba ikhathalelwe kakuhle kwaye uyigoduka nayo. Ngumzekelo woxanduva, ethi inokusetyenziswa kokubini kubantwana abancinci nakwaphambi kokufikisa.
Ukuzibanga, uqeqesho kunye nokuzithemba
Ubuvila bunokoyiswa, ngoqeqesho, nokuzithemba okuqinileyo okubafundisa ukuba baxabisekile. Ukuba izinto abazenzayo zixabisekile kwaye kufanelekile umgudu wokufumana nawuphina umvuzo. Fundisa abantwana ukuba bazifunele, ngundoqo kuphuhliso lwabo lobuqu. Kuba ukuba ngabasebenzi, uzabalazela ukufezekisa eyona nguqu yakho, kuya kuvula iingcango zobomi obugcwele impumelelo kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho.
Ukwenza ubomi bube lula ebantwaneni akuthethi ukuba ubakhuthaze ukuba babe ngamavila. Ngezimbo zomzimba ezincinci, njengokukhetha iimpahla zakhe yonke imihla, ukufezekisa imisebenzi yasekhaya, uxanduva olufanelekileyo ngokweminyaka, kancinci kancinci abantwana baya kufumana inkuthazo abayifunayo ukoyisa ubuvila kwaye ke uya kuyeka ukuba nomntwana owonqena.