Imeko yomzali othanda ukuba krwada isenokuba luphawu abazali abaninzi abalujongi, kuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba nale ndlela yokuziphatha ngaphandle kokuyazi. I-Narcissism izalwe ngabantu abaninzi Kwaye zisenokubufanela ubomi bethu Kodwa uninzi lwazo lubandakanyiwe kwinto echazwe ngokwenene kwaye kunokuba njalo ichaphazela indlela yokuziphatha kwabantwana bethu.
Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, eyona nto ifunwa ngabazali yeyona ube nabantwana abaphumeleleyo kwaye bafuna ukwenza oko ngeemfuno zabo zokuzingca. Abazi kucinga ukuba ekuhambeni kwexesha abapheleli ekubeni baluncedo kubantwana kwaye oko kunokukhokelela kuko iinjongo ezingenamveliso okanye ezixabisekileyo.
Iimpawu ezisisiseko zomntu othanda ukuzonwabisa
Zininzi iimpawu ezenza ukuba kucace ukuba umntu uyimbalasane. Kwimeko katata othanda ukuxhaphaza, ihlala ikhokelela kwinto yokuba ngabantwana ngokwabo Andiqondi ukuba bahlala kunye notata onjeya.
Ngamanye amaxesha, sisibini eso uyaphika ukuba nendoda yakhe enolu phawu Kwaye awufuni loo mntu njengotitshala wabantwana bakho. Bangabantu abalambathayo, bahlala bethetha ngeziqu zabo kuba Bacinga ukuba bangaphezulu kwabo.
Njalo basebenzisa abantu ukuze baxhamle kwaye xa ifanelekile. Bayathanda ukufumana ingqalelo yabantu ukuze babe nakho ube kwindawo ephambili ke ukwazi ukoyisa impumelelo yakho
Ngokucacileyo ezi ayizizozona mpawu zilungileyo zinokunikwa umntwana njengomzekelo, kuba banokukhula noluhlu hayi kuthintelwe kakuhle amaxabiso. Banobungqina bokungafumani kugxekwa kakuhle kwaye baba nomsindo omkhulu.
Utata wenza njani phambi kwabantwana bakhe?
Umzali okrexezayo unokubangela ekugqibeleni imfundo enempumelelo ezimbalwa kakhulu, abantwana banokubonakala ngathi banemfundo eqhelekileyo, kodwa hayi nzulu ngaphakathi banokufikelela koku yonakele ngokwasengqondweni. Bonke abazali bafuna okona kulungileyo kubantwana bethu kwaye babukele bekhula kwaye bephumelela. Abazali baseNarcissistic abaqondi ngokubanzi ukuba badala abantwana abaneemfuno ezifanayo ukuzingca okuboniswayo. Babafundisa ngenjongo yokuba babe ngabantwana abayimodeli kwaye ke bazalisekise amaphupha afanayo abafuna ukuwafezekisa.
Ngale ndlela abantwana abakhuli ngamaphupha abo kunye neenkxalabo. Abayi kukhula benenjongo ezifanayo kwaye baya kuxabisa izinto ngokwesiNtu, baya kukhatshwa yimilinganiselo efanayo engafanelekanga njengoyise.
Umntwana Ungakhula ufumana udumo oluninzi kwicala lotata, kwaye ngexesha lokuqonda ukuba le Isimo sengqondo siyanyamalala. Ugqibela ngokuqonda ukuba yenziwe kakhulu. Ngokukhula kwabo, baya kuthelekisa abazali babo kwaye bazame ukufikelela kwimpumelelo efanayo. Okona kubi kakhulu ngutata ayizukuziva ikratshi Kwaye inokuchaphazela kakhulu ubudlelwane phakathi kwezi zimbini.
Umama oxhalabileyo wenza njani notata othanda ukulala?
Kukho oomama abachaphazelekayo malunga nalo mbandela kunye nabasetyhini abazama phelisa ubudlelwane bakho ngesi sizathu. Kwiimeko ezininzi, bafuna ukuphelisa ukunxibelelana ngokupheleleyo okanye ukunciphisa unxibelelwano phakathi kukabawo nabantwana bakhe, kuba bengabantu abangquzulanayo. Ihlala isenzeka ukuba ihlala igqabhuka kwimilo kwaye le meko kufuneka ithintelwe kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Kwezi ntlobo zezizathu akukho manyathelo ngqo wendlela yokwenza, kodwa kukho uthotho lweengcebiso ezinokuthi zisetyenziswe, kuba kubalulekile ukuthetha nomntu onjalo xa kukho imfuneko. Kuzo zonke ezi ngxoxo, yonke into enxulumene ngokungqongqo nokuba ngumzali iya kuxoxwa.
Kunzima Khokela abantwana kwicala elingcono Baye bahamba ngendlela yokukhulisa abantwana ngokuzonwabisa, kodwa akukho nto ingenakwenzeka. Ixesha elingaphezulu unokuseta imigangatho kwaye khokelela abantwana okona kulungileyo. Bamele bazame ukuchitha ixesha elincinci kangangoko kunokwenzeka naba bantu, kuba abazixabisi iinyani ngendlela elungileyo. Kananjalo abavumeli ukuba baphile ngokukhululekileyo nangokuzingca. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba kufuneka qinisa amaxabiso aqinisekileyo ukwenzela ukuba abantwana bakhule bezinzile kwaye bayayazi indlela yokuhlonipha imithetho yoluntu.