Ukuthetha-thethana nolutsha kufuneka yehlisa umoya kwaye umazi kakuhle. Siyazi ukuba ixesha lokufikisa ayilo nqanaba elilula, nokuba ngoonyana kunye neentombi, nokuba ngoomama. Kuyinto elula fumana ibhalansi phakathi kwekhaya nobomi bemihla ngemihla, kunye nomdla wabo. Kuye, kuya kufuneka uthethathethane, kwaye kufuneka uyenze kumacala omabini.
Ukuthetha-thethana nomntwana ofikisayo ayingomsebenzi olula Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukuzama ukufikelela kwisivumelwano kunokukhokelela kungxabano ngakumbi kunye noxinzelelo. Sikuxelela ezinye iindlela zokuxoxisana oko kunokuba luncedo kuwe, kodwa khumbula ukuba eyona nto iphambili lulwazi kwaye ukuzithemba onayo nonyana okanye intombi yakho.
Izitshixo ezibalulekileyo zokuthetha-thethana nolutsha
Masikhangele ekhangelelwa ngumntwana ofikisayo la thethwano. Ekuqaleni uya kuzama ukumisela indlela yakhe kwaye siya kuva ukuba "awuqondi." Ukumenza aqonde ukuba ukuba kufikelelwe kwisivumelwano, imeko iya kuphucuka linyathelo lokuqala. Ukuba awuzimisele ukwamkela olu thethwano, noluvavanyo lokuthatha inqanaba elithile lenkululeko, ukwamkela okanye ukwala ukhetho, kuya kufuneka ulandele imigaqo.
Uthethathethwano kufuneka lwenziwe kwi imeko yokungathathi cala, ukuyenza phakathi komsindo kunye nomsindo akusayi kusisa ndawo. Nokuba ikwishumi elivisayo okanye thina boomama. Abantu abadala kufuneka bahlale beligcina ilizwi lethu, kuphela kwendlela yokugcina umzekelo. Ukuthetha-thethana, ukuthembana nokungaguquguquki kubalulekile.
Kwaye okokugqibela kodwa kungaphelelanga apho, sazi umdla wonyana okanye wentombi yethu. Ngale ndlela sinokuziqhelanisa ngcono neemfuno zakho kunye neminqweno onayo. Kwangelo xesha ukuvavanya ukuba kwenzeka nini na. Ayifani ukuxoxa impelaveki kunye nabahlobo ukuba siyazi ukuba ngumhla wokuzalwa komnye wabo kunokuba yinto eqhelekileyo, umzekelo.
Iindlela ezimbalwa ezifanelekileyo zokurhweba
Usapho ngalunye lwahlukile, kodwa kukho iindlela ezithile zokuthetha-thethana nomntwana wakho ofikisayo ezinokukunceda, okanye onokuziqhelanisa nazo. Kodwa lumka! kuba akukho buchule buya kwenza iimpazamo.
Enye yezi ndlela zezi "Le ayisiyiyo yonke into". Ngokusisiseko iquka mnike isibonelelo, ngaphambi kokuba umcele. Umzekelo, ukuba ufuna ukujongana nomba wokunxiba nabo, into enzima kakhulu kulutsha (ngakumbi ukuba ungumfazi). Ewe, inokwenzeka into yokuba ubanike iiyure eziziimobhayili, okanye uthotho, kwaye xa ixesha elifanelekileyo lidlulile, ujongane nomcimbi kwaye ubacele kumzamo wokuba bangachithi kakhulu kwimpahla okanye benganxibanga ngaloo ndlela.
Inkqubo ye "Slam umnyango ebusweni." Ngobu buchule into yokuqala kukuba sicacile malunga nenjongo yethu, kwaye yenza isicelo esikhulu kwinto esifuna ukuyiphumeza. Siyazi ukuba awuyi kwamkela kwaye kulapho uthethathethwano luqala khona. Ngokunikezela, naye uya kubuyekeza nathi. Enye yeenzuzo zolu hlobo lothethathethwano kukuba umntu ofikisayo uziva enoxanduva lwesigqibo esenziweyo. Kubalulekile ukuvala uthethathethwano kwincoko enye. Isiluleko esinye, cofa kancinci, yeyona idumileyo: ayisiyakho, ayindim.
Ezinye iindlela zokuthetha-thethana nolutsha
Unako mcele ukuba amenzele ubabalo olubonakala lungabalulekanga kuni nobabini, iyintlekisa, incinci kakhulu, kodwa inxulumene noko sifuna ukufezekisa. Umzekelo, ukuba sifuna ukuba undwendwele umakhulu notatomkhulu wakho, ungabacela ukuba beze emnxebeni ngelixa uthetha nabo, ukubabulisa nje. Ngokuqinisekileyo uyabuqonda ubuyatha benceba ngokwakhe kwaye enegalelo elingaphezulu kokucelwe kuye.
Olunye uluvo yile ikunikeze imveliso ikwimeko entle kakhulu, ukuze kungabikho nto iphikisayo kuwe. Umzekelo, siya elwandle ngeempelaveki kwaye uthathe abahlobo bakho abambalwa. Ukuba ufuna ukuyifumana, sikucela indleko yokuqala, umzekelo: kufuneka ucoce kwaye ucoce igumbi lakho. Into ehlekisayo kukuba xa besamkela bayakwazi ukuqhubeka nokwenza ezinye izinto. Kumntu ofikisayo, umvuzo, ukuba uyawufuna ngenene, ubaluleke kangangokuba uya kwenza umzamo wokuwufumana.
Kukho ezinye iindlela, usapho ngalunye kwaye kwimeko nganye unokufaka enye okanye enye. Kuyacaca ukuba into esebenze kumntwana omdala ayinakusebenzela elandelayo, yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuba wazi abantu.