Nangona kuncinci okwenzekayo, inyani yeyokuba kusekho abantu abacinga ukuba uxanduva lokhathalelo nokukhuliswa kweentsana ezisandul 'ukuzalwa kunye nabantwana ngokubanzi liwela kunina, nangona naye kufuneka aphumle asebenze ngokufanayo notata. . Akukho nto iqhubekayo kwinyani, uxanduva lokukhulisa umntwana kufuneka luwele ngokulinganayo koyise nakunina.
Ngelixa kuyinyani ukuba umama, ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuncancisa usana lwakhe, yinto anokuthi ayenze kuphela (ngaphandle kokuba uveza ubisi kwaye utata angalunika ebhotileni), konke (YONKE INTO enye), anganakho yenza notata. Ukongeza, kubalulekile ukuba wenze njalo.
Kutheni kubalulekile ukuba utata athathe uxanduva emva kokuba umntwana ezelwe
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abazali bathathe uxanduva lwabo emva kokuba umntwana ezelwe kuba kuphela kwendlela abanokukhathalela ngayo kunye nokukhulisa ubudlelwane bemilingo nabantwana babo. Ukongeza, ukuba ubunzima akufuneki buwele kumama kuphela ukusukela ngoko kungakho iingxaki kwesi sibini. Ngumsebenzi wesibini kwaye phakathi kwezi zimbini kufuneka wenziwe. Ayinamsebenzi ukuba utata usebenza ngaphandle kwekhaya, ebusuku bobabini umama notata kufuneka baphumle yiyo loo nto ukutshintshana ngokuba ngumzali yeyona nto isebenzayo kuye wonke umntu.
Ukongeza, nangona kusaziwa ukuba ubudlelwane phakathi kukamama nomntwana kubaluleke kakhulu kwaye kuyimfuneko ekukhuleni kosana kunye nasekuphuculeni ubukho boluntu, abazali banendima enkulu ekufuneka bayidlalile. Iintsana zifuna unonophelo nokhuselo lwabazali. Kuba besesibelekweni bayabamamela kwaye bayazi ukuba kusecaleni kwabo… Kwaye yile ndlela ekufuneka iqhubeke ngayo emva kokuzalwa.
Utata uba ngumkhuseli wosana
Emva kokuba umntwana ezelwe, unokuba ngumkhuseli phakathi kweqhina lakho nomntwana wakho, kunye nokubopha phakathi kukamama nomntwana. Ngexesha leeveki zokuqala ezisi-8 umama nosana banobudlelwane bokuthandana: usana luxhomekeke kunina ngokutya, intuthuzelo kunye nempilo yeemvakalelo kwaye umntwana unceda umama ukuba aqonde indima yakhe ebomini (kuloo mizuzu). Abazali abatsha basebenza njengezikhuseli phakathi kwabo kunye nehlabathi liphela njengoko bekhulisa olu manyano ... Kwaye nabazali nabo, ukubandakanyeka ekukhuliseni umntwana kwasekuzalweni nako kuya komeleza ubudlelwane obunomdla kunye neemvakalelo nosana.
Iindlela uTata anokuzikhusela ngazo i-Mother-Child Bond
- Uphendule umnyango xa enkqonkqoza
- Yenza imisebenzi ejikeleze indlu ukuze umama anakekele umntwana
- Uyazikhulula nomama ukuze anyamekele umntwana
- Ngentlonelo jika iindwendwe xa ingeloxesha lifanelekileyo
- Qonda kwaye uqonde utshintsho lwehomoni kunye neemvakalelo umama anokuzifumana
- Ugcina ukhathalelo lomzimba ngelixa umama echacha ekubelekeni okanye kwicandelo lokuyeka
- Uyayazi indlela yokwabelana ngexesha nomama nosana
Utata kufuneka akhe ulwalamano lwakhe nomntwana
Abazali abayikubeka nje 'imbewu encinci' kumama kwaye emva koko bayakhathala. Ngaphambili ngenxa yeendima zoluntu, utata washiya ukuze afumane imali yokuxhasa usapho kwaye umama ngoyena wayekhathalele abantwana, ukukhuliswa, indlu ... Ngaphandle kokuhlawula, kunjalo. Kodwa oku ngethamsanqa kuphelelwe lixesha kwaye indima yootata noomama itshintshe kakhulu malunga nokuba ngumzali kunye nendima ekhaya.
Ngoku ootata noomama banendima ethe tyaba apho bobabini benobunzima obufanayo noxanduva olufanayo kuqoqosho nakwinkxaso yosapho, kunye nasekukhuliseni abantwana. Kuya kuxhomekeka kusapho ngalunye ukuba ngaba iindima zimiselwe kakuhle, Kodwa emva kokuba umntwana ezelwe, izinto kufuneka zihanjiswe kakuhle kwaye ngaphezulu kwayo yonke loo nto, utata kufuneka anyamekele ubudlelwane bakhe nosana.
Abazali kufuneka bazenzele kwaye bahlakulele ubudlelwane babo nabantwana babo.. Oku kuqala ngokwamkela nokuthanda ukukhulelwa, ukukhathalela umama kwiinyanga ezili-9 zokukhulelwa kwaye emva koko wamkele kwaye unakekele bobabini umama nosana. Abazali banokuqhubeka nokuqinisa ubudlelwane babo nosana kwezi veki zokuqala emva kokuzalwa ngokwenza oku kulandelayo:
- Misela iindlela zokunyamekela ngokutya, ukuhlamba, ukutshintsha, ukulala, njl.
- Thetha nosana rhoqo ukunceda kuphuhliso lolwimi. Mvumeleni kwaye nimbeke ezingalweni zakhe
- Nikezela ngonxibelelwano lomzimba njengokungcangcazela, ukudlala, kunye nokuthanjiswa kwabantwana
Bonke abantwana banotata kunye nomama. Ngokumalunga notata, umntwana ngamnye unabazali ababini: utata omzalayo kunye notata wengqondo ... Kwaye kufuneka ibe ngumntu omnye ebomini. Abazali kufuneka baqiniseke ukuba bayayiphumeza indima yabo njengotata, umkhuseli kunye nomkhathaleli kungekuphela nje kwiiveki zokuqala zobomi bosana, kodwa kufanele ukuba kube njalo kwasekuzalweni naphakade.
Ukuba ngutata emva kokuba umntwana ezelwe akuthethi ukuthatha usana xa luphilile okanye xa lungalili kwaye ulunikele kunina xa imeko 'iba nzima'. Ukuba ngutata kuthetha ukukhathalela umntwana ngalo lonke ixesha sikunye nomama, ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zomntwana kunye nokukhumbula zonke izibophelelo zokuba umntwana eze kusapho. Ukuba ngutata akuthethi ukuthatha imifanekiso ukuyifaka kuFacebook nakwilizwe liphela ukuze ubone ukuba uphilile kangakanani… Kuthetha ukulala kancinci, ukudinwa kukudinwa kwaye wonwabele umzuzwana ngamnye wasetyhini, umntwana wakho kunye nomzuzwana ngamnye odlulayo … Kuba ela xesha alinakuze libuye kwaye lidlula ngokukhawuleza, kangangokuba xa ujonga ngasemva awuyi kukholelwa ukuba umntwana wakho akasekho njalo.