Iminyaka yeshumi elivisayo lelona xesha lingathandekiyo ebomini bomntu, Kwaye umntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo usenokuba ukhathazwa kukungazithembi. Utshintsho lwebhayoloji kunye nokuqala kokufikisa kunokwenza ukuba umntu ofikisayo azive enexhala kwaye kumkhokelele ekuthinteleni nantoni na enokumenza abonakale.
Kunokuba nzima ukugxila ekuhlaleni usebenza xa ufuna ukungabonakali! Uxinzelelo loontanga nakule minyaka yobudala kunokuba bubundlobongela, Kwaye umntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo usenokuba ujongene noxinzelelo lwentlalo esikolweni ukuze aziqhelanise noko kuthathwa njenge "kuhle".
Kuya kufuneka uncede umntwana wakho afumane into azive ekhuselekile kuyo. Cinga ngamandla onawo kwaye wakhe kuwo. Gcina imizila yonxibelelwano ivulekile ukuze akwazi ukumnceda asombulule nayiphi na imiba ngokuzithemba kwakhe okuphantsi. Mnike inkxaso xa eyifuna, kwaye mqinisekise ukuba uyakwazi ukuphumelela.
Nje ukuba umntwana wakho athathe isigqibo ngomsebenzi, Kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba ucwangcisa kwangaphambili kwaye uzinikele ixesha kuyo. Ulutsha luhlala luxineke ngumsebenzi wasekhaya, imisebenzi yasekuhlaleni, njl. Ukuba wenza umzamo wokwenza umthambo ulungele umntwana wakho ofikisayo, kunokwenzeka ukuba bakubone njengenxalenye yemihla ngemihla.
Abantwana abancinci bakholwa ukuba okukhona bezama ngakumbi, kokukhona baya kuba ngcono. Kodwa njengokuba abantwana besiya kwinqanaba lokufikisa, indlela abacinga ngayo iyatshintsha; Baqala ukukholelwa ukuba isakhono silungisiwe ukuba ukuzama ngakumbi kuthetha ukuba abanako ukwenza oko.
Ngokucacileyo, eli nqaku lokujonga linokufumana indlela yenkuthazo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kutheni uhamba imayile eyongezelelweyo ukuba awuqinisekisi ukuba uza kuyifumana? Khumbula ukukhumbuza umntwana wakho ukuba akufuneki abe yimbaleki yeenkwenkwezi, okanye okhethekileyo ngokukodwa kwimisebenzi oyikhethileyo. Into ebalulekileyo kukwenza umzamo kwaye wonwabe.
Yiba ngumzekelo wabo
Ngaphezu kwako konke, khumbula ukuba ngumzekelo womntwana wakho. Abazali ngabona bantu babaluleke kubo njengomzekelo kubantwana babo, abadla ngokuxelisa indlela abaziphatha ngayo abazali babo. Ngokuziqhelanisa nokuziphatha okusempilweni nokwamkela amandla akho, umisela umzekelo umntwana wakho ukuba awulandele, ngethemba lobomi.