Ulutsha kunye nolutsha luhamba notshintsho oluninzi, kokubini ngokwasemzimbeni nasengqondweni. Kwakhona lixesha apho baqala ukubonisa iingxaki zokuziphatha, ezifana nobudlova, ukuguquka kwemizwelo, ukuphikisana kunye nemingeni enzima.
Njengomzali, kuyindalo ukuba ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zibe liziko lokuqwalaselwa kwakho: ziingxaki ofuna ukuzisombulula. Kodwa kungcono kungcono ungagxili kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha. Endaweni yoko zama ukuqonda imbono yabantwana bakho.
Ukubazi ngcono abantwana bakho, kuya kufuneka uziqhelanise nokumamela kakuhle. Ukuphulaphula ngenyameko kwenzeka xa sinikela ingqalelo epheleleyo kwinto ethethwa ngumntu. Oku kuthetha ukuba awusebenzi kwimisebenzi emininzi ngelixa abantwana bakho bethetha nawe. Kuthetha ukuba awukhangeli kwifowuni yakho okanye ubhale uluhlu lwezinto ekufuneka uzenzile.
Ukumamela kakuhle kuthetha ukuba ungabaphazamisi abantwana bakho xa bethetha. Kuthetha ukungabagwebi okanye ukungaziphathi kakuhle ngento abayenzileyo. Kuthetha ukunganiki ngcebiso ungacelwanga. Ungabonisa abantwana bakho ukuba ubanika ingqalelo yakho yonke ngokuthetha izinto ezinje "Qhubeka" kwaye "undixelele nangakumbi." Amaxesha ngamaxesha, shwankathela ukuqonda kwakho okwathethwa ngabantwana bakho. Umzekelo, ungathi, "Kubonakala ngathi kukho iqela elikhulu labantwana kwiklasi yakho, kwaye uziva ushiywe ngabo."
Oku kuxelela umntwana wakho ukuba umamele ngenkuthalo. Ikwayindlela yokuqinisekisa ukuba uyayiqonda into ayithethayo. Abanye abazali bacinga ukuba ukuba banokwenza abantwana babo baqonde umgaqo osisiseko, ingxaki yonke izakudlula. Kodwa rhoqo into efunwa ngabaselula nolutsha kukungaqondi; kufuneka bazive beqondwa.
Xa bengaziva beqondakala, bayadelela. Kwelinye icala, xa baziva beqondwa, yenza indawo apho baziva bekhuselekile. Kwaye loo nto, Yenza imeko apho zivulekileyo ukujonga ingxaki ngokwembono entsha.