Ndikhumbula xa ndandifunda i-Oedipus complex yaseSigmund Freud ekholejini ukucacisa inqanaba lokukhula komntwana. USigmund Freud wathatha eli gama kumdlalo wakudala wamaGrike obizwa ngokuba ngu-Oedipus the King. Kulo mdlalo, umcebisi wenhlanhla uqikelela ukuba umntwana u-Oedipus uza kubulala uyise aze atshate nonina. Ukuthintela le ngxaki, umama ka-Oedipus unika usana lwakhe kubelusi abathile ukuyalela ukumbulala.
Aba balusi banovelwano ngobomi bomntwana kwaye babukhulise kwaye ekugqibeleni ikamva liyazaliseka ngaphandle kokuba umfana azi nantoni na malunga nekamva elimkhusele. UFreud ujonge ukufana kweli bali xa wayechaza kwiingcinga zakhe inqanaba lokukhula komntwana xa ezinikele kunina. Kodwa, Ziintoni iimpawu ze-Oedipus complex?
Yintoni i-Oedipus syndrome?
Isakhiwo seOedipus ihlala ibonakala phakathi kweminyaka emi-3 kunye nesi-7 emntwaneni kwaye kwinqanaba eliqhelekileyo lokukhula okunomdla omncinci omele ayidlulise. Incinci iqala ukuziva inqwenela ukuhlala ngakumbi kunina kwaye inokuvelisa ubutshaba ngoyise.
Eli nqanaba njengoko liqala, kufuneka inyamalale. Inyaniso yokuba umntwana akoyisi ngokwaneleyo inokukhokelela kubudlelwane obungenampilo kunye nonina. Oku kunokuba kubi ngokuhamba kweminyaka kwaye kuvelise ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kwincinci.
Ukuba oku kuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kwenzeka, akuyi kukuvumela ukuba ukhule ngokufanelekileyo. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwexesha oku kulahlwa kukatata kuyanyamalala kwaye kancinci kancinci uyakuqala ukuzichaza notata kwaye agxile kuye njengomzekelo wabantu abadala.
Ubunzima be-Oedipus: intsomi yamaGrike kunye nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo
Kwintsomi yamaGrike, UKumkani uLaius wafumanisa ngendlebe ukuba uza kubulawa ngunyana wakhe sele emdala kwaye uza kutshata nonina. Yiyo loo nto umyalelo wokuba mababulale umntwana, kodwa oku akwenzekanga kuba abelusi babusindisile ubomi bakhe kwaye xa unyana kaKumkani ebuyela eThebes wasizalisekisa isiprofetho engazi. Wabulala utata wakhe watshata nomama wakhe engazi ukuba ngumama wakhe.
Xa sibhekisa kuphuhliso lomntwana, iOedipus complex inokwenzeka kwiminyaka yokuqala yobomi. Umntwana uya kuziva elahliwe nguyise, ukwaliwa okuya koyiswa xa echonga noyise ngaphandle kokuziva umnqweno kunina.
I-Oedipus kunye ne-Electra
Ukongeza kwi-Oedipus complex, i-Electra complex iyaziwa. Luhlobo olufanayo olunzima kodwa kwabasetyhini. Yenziwe nguCarl Gustav Jung kunye iyaqondwa njengaxa umfazi omdala onobunzima be-Electra enobudlelwane obomeleleyo notata wakhe, efana nomtsalane wothando. Kwangelo xesha, aba bafazi banokubambana okunamandla noomama babo, kuba bayamjonga njengotshaba.
Iimpawu ze-Oedipus complex kubantwana
Umntwana ithanda ukutsala umdla kunina kwaye iqale ukubonisa ubutshaba kuyise. Iimpawu kubantwana abancinci zezi:
- Umntwana ufuna ingqalelo kunina.
- Uthi ufuna ukutshata noMama.
- Uziva ephethwe ngumama wakhe.
Iimpawu ezinzima ze-Oedipus kubantu abadala
Kodwa kukwabalulekile ukwazi ukuba kuyenzeka na emntwini omkhulu. Ukwazi oku, ungaphoswa ziimpawu okanye iimpawu eziqhelekileyo:
- Ukusondela kakhulu kunina kunye nokumncoma
- Banikela ngokubaluleka kunina ngaphezulu kwayo nayiphi na enye imeko okanye umntu ebomini babo
- Bahlala becela umama nengcebiso kunye nemvume kuyo yonke into, abazi ukuba bazenze njani izigqibo zabo
- Baneengxaki zesini kunye namaqabane kuba abanazi nto kwaye bacinezele iminqweno yesini ngoonina
- Bavame ukuba nobudlelwane bobuqu obunobungozi kunye nolwalamano aluhlali ixesha elide
- Bavame ukuthandana nabantu abangenakufikeleleka
- Ngamanye amaxesha baxhomekeke kunina, nangokwezoqoqosho njengomntu omdala
- Abaze bazive begcwele
- Bavame ukuba namaqabane amadala kunabo
- Basenokuba noloyiko lokusondelelana nomnye umntu
Ubunzima be-Oedipus: xa ingoyiswa
Kukho abantwana abasoloko bebambekile kweli nqanaba kwaye abakwazi ukoyisa. Oku kuthetha ukuba ngaphezulu kweminyaka engama-30, umzekelo, bahlala bebambekile kwinqanaba lobomi babo apho baziva bezinikele kunina kwaye bayamcekisa utata. Xa oku kusenzeka kufuneka inyangwe ukuze kuthintelwe ukuba kungabikho sifo.
Iziphumo zokungoyisi ubunzima be-Oedipus
Kubalulekile ukuba inyangwe ukusuka ebuntwaneni ukuthintela iziphumo ezichazwe kwinqanaba elidlulileyo. Ngaphandle koko, iziphumo ziya kubakho ebomini bomntu ochaphazelekayo. Ukongeza, uya kuba neengxaki zengqondo eziya kumthintela ekugcineni ubomi obuqhelekileyo kunye nokugqibeleleyo. Inokuchaphazela indawo enye okanye ngaphezulu ebomini bakho.
Enyanisweni, uya kuba ngumntu ongekavuthwa onesimilo esibuthathaka soloko exhomekeke kunina. Awusoze ukwazi ukuzimela kwaye awuyi kuba nezixhobo zakho zemali. Uya kuba ngumntu okhathazekileyo ngokungazi ukuba ubukhokela njani ubomi bakho ngokuchanekileyo. Kwakhona, ukuba uneqabane uya kuba neengxabano ngokuqhubekayo. Iinjongo okanye iinjongo ozibekayo aziyi kufikelela kuzo kwaye uya kuziva ungalunganga kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho.
Iya kuba ngumntu ongazinzanga kunye nokuba sesichengeni ngokweemvakalelo, ukuvuthwa ngokweemvakalelo ... kodwa uya kuba nokungakhuli kwinqanaba leengqondo kunye nezesondo. Konke oku, ngaphandle konyango, kunokubangela iingxaki zeemvakalelo ezinzima, kwanokubandezeleka kolunye uhlobo lokuphazamiseka kwengqondo kwixa elizayo.
Ukuba ingxaki imile nzulu, isisombululo siya kuthatha ixesha elide ukufika, kodwa ngokuzimisela kunye nokuhambelana kunokwenzeka ukufezekisa ngoncedo lweengcali ezifanelekileyo ebonelela ngezikhokelo emazilandelwe imihla ngemihla. Inyathelo lokuqala kukuqonda ingxaki, yeka ukufuna ukuba ngumntwana kwaye uthathe uxanduva lobomi bakho.