Xa umntwana eneempawu zokuba ndlongondlongo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba abazali bakhathazeke malunga nokuba ingaba umntwana wabo unochuku okanye uliqonga. Baqhekeza izinto, babethe, balume ... indlela yokuziphatha ukuba ikwedwa ayifanelanga ukuba nexhala kodwa ukuba iya isiba lixesha lokuba mandundu. Namhlanje sithetha malunga abantwana abanengcwangu, ukuba bayazalwa okanye benziwe kunye nesizathu sokuziphatha.
Abantwana abanengcwangu
Ubundlongondlongo luphawu lwendalo abazalwa benalo abantu. Sonke siyakwazi ukwenzakalisa abanye okanye iziqu zethu. Okwahlula kuko kukuba masenze ntoni kobu buchule kwaye ukuba siyakwazi ukwahlula phakathi kokulungileyo nokungalunganga.
Xa umntwana ezalwa, yonke into ithambile kwaye inothando. Bavusa imvakalelo emnandi yokhuseleko kunye nothando olungenamiqathango. Kodwa kule minyaka idlulileyo, uthotho lweendlela zokuziphatha ezingathandekiyo zinokuvuswa ezinokuqala ukusuka kumncinci kakhulu. Ukuya kuthi ga kwiminyaka emi-5 iya kuthathwa njengenxalenye yenkqubo yesiqhelo yophuhliso. Okwangoku abanalo ulwimi olukhuliswe ngokwaneleyo ukuze bakwazi ukuvakalisa izimvo zabo kwaye abanazo naziphi na izixhobo zokuzibamba. Ke xa baziva behlaselwe yimvakalelo enamandla kakhulu ngamanye amaxesha banokwenzakalisa abanye abantu okanye nabo ngokwabo.
Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha abantwana abanengcwangu baya ngaphaya kweminyaka emi-5 kwaye baziphethe ngendlela esingenako ukuyivumela. Xa umntwana eziphatha ngogonyamelo kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba kutheni yale ndlela yokuziphatha ukuze ubancede.
Kutheni umntwana enobundlobongela?
- Ngokuxelisa. Ukuba umntwana ubona iimeko ezinobundlongondlongo kunye nobundlobongela ekhaya, kulula ukuba afunde ukuziqhelanisa nokuzikopisha kwingxelo yakhe. Baya kusombulula iimeko ngendlela efanayo oyibona ngayo, ngendlela enobundlobongela.
- Ubunzima bolwimi. Njengoko sele sibonile, ulwimi yinxalenye ebaluleke kakhulu yokuthetha ngokweemvakalelo. Ukukhubazeka kokufunda kunokubakhokelela ekubeni bazivakalise ngomsindo.
- Ukubonakaliswa kobundlobongela. Zininzi iindlela zokuziveza kubundlobongela kunokubona abazali bakho. Abantwana babukela umabonwakude, imidlalo yevidiyo, iimuvi ezinobundlobongela obukhulu. Abantwana abawuqondi umahluko phakathi kwenyani kunye neentsomi ezinokuchaphazela ukuxeliswa kwabo kamva. Umabonwakude unempembelelo enkulu ebantwaneni, ke kubalulekile ukuba ucofe luhlobo luni lomxholo obonwa ngabantwana bethu.
- Amandla amancinci okusombulula ukungavisisani. Njengoko sikhula silungelelanisa izixhobo kunye nezakhono eziququzelela ubudlelwane bethu ekuhlaleni kunye nokusonjululwa kwengxabano. Ukuba asizifumani, ziya kuzisombulula ngendlela eziyazi ngayo.
- Unyamezelo oluphantsi lokukhathazeka. Ulawulo olungelulo lweemvakalelo lweemvakalelo luya kubakhokelela ekubeni baqhume ebusweni beemvakalelo ezinamandla kwaye basabele ngogonyamelo.
- Inqanaba loxinzelelo oluphezulu. Umntwana ovezwe kumanqanaba aphezulu oxinzelelo uhlala enobundlobongela.
Abantwana bafunda ubundlobongela
Abantwana abazalwa benogonyamelo, kodwa bafunda ukuba. Ngethamsanqa, kanye njengobundlobongela obufundwayo, nezinye iindlela zokuziphatha ezilungileyo zinokufundwa. Imeko-bume inefuthe elibalulekileyo kuqheleke kunye nokusetyenziswa kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha, imfundo efunyenweyo, imeko-bume ekhaya, izihlobo, izigcawu ezinobundlobongela kumabonwakude nakwimidlalo yevidiyo ...
Imfundo enemiqathango kunye nemilinganiselo, iinqobo ezisemgangathweni, uvelwano, imfundo yeemvakalelo nokuzithemba kubaluleke kakhulu ukuze abantwana bethu bangabinobundlobongela. Bancede bakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo, bazichaze ngokufanelekileyo, bazive bethandwa kwaye bethandwa, ukusombulula ukungavisisani ngokufanelekileyo, ukubonisa intlonipho kunye neenqobo zabantu.. Ukuba umntwana abone kubazali bakhe umzekelo abayidingayo kubalulekile. Amaxesha amaninzi asiziboni iindlela ezithile zokuziphatha esinazo phambi kwabo. Bazokubona ukuba uzisombulula njani iimbambano zakho kwaye ukuba uzisombulula ngokuchanekileyo, ngaphandle kokufumana ukungamkelwa, amagama amabi, ukungxola nokungafaneleki. Zininzi iindlela zobundlobongela, hayi nje ngokwasemzimbeni. Hlalutya uhlobo lokuziphatha olubonwa ngabantwana bakho kuwe.
Kuba khumbula ... uya kuba ngowona mzekelo ubalaseleyo womntwana wakho.