Abantwana abanoxanduva besebancinci bafumana izakhono ezikhawulezayo ezibanceda ukuba bakhule ngokulinganisela kunye nolonwabo. Nangona kunjalo, kucacile kuthi sonke ukuba umntwana ngamnye unesingqi sakhe sokuvuthwa, kwaye ayingobantu bonke abalandela amaxesha afanayo.
Ngoku, oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka siwujongele phantsi umba woxanduva, kuba siyakholelwa okanye akunjalo, imfundo iqala kwiinyanga zokuqala zobomi. Inkqubo elula yokubanika izikhokelo, ukuphumla, ukutya kunye nemikhwa yokuzonwabisa, sele ibeka imigangatho ecacileyo yento elindeleke kubo, kunye nendlela abanokuyiphumeza ngayo impilo yabo kunye nezo mpumelelo ezincinci zemihla ngemihla. Ukufundisa luhambo, kwaye kwi «Madres Hoy»Sifuna ukukubonisa indlela esinokulukhuthaza ngayo uxanduva ebantwaneni.
Abantwana abanoxanduva kufuneka bakwazi ukuthatha isigqibo
Kukho ootata noomama abacinga ngokungalunganga, lonto Uxanduva lwenziwa ngokuthobela okungagungqiyo. Asiyonyani, kwaye ke kufuneka sithathele ingqalelo le miba ilandelayo:
Ukufundisa akuthethi ukulawula. Ukufundisa kukwazi indlela yokwenza umzekelo, ukuba sisikhokelo esinoxanduva esikwaziyo ukukhuthaza ukufunda ngothando nangokuthemba
- Ukuba silandela uhlobo lwemfundo esekwe ekuthobeleni nakwimithetho engaguqukiyo elawula zonke iinkalo zomntwana, Siza kuvotela amandla abo okuba noxanduva. Ukuchasana nje nokuba sizenza ngathi.
- Xa sizikhusele kakhulu, abantwana baba nokungazithembi, Ukungazithembi kwenza abantwana bazibone ngathi abanako ukuzenzela izinto ezininzi.
- Kufuneka sibavumele babenakho ukunika uluvo lwabo, ukuba nokuzimela mihla le ukuze baqonde ixabiso lomzamo. Yayo, Kuya kufuneka ubanike ukuzithemba kunye nokuqinisekiswa okuqinisekileyo njengaye "Ungayenza," "umdala ngokwaneleyo ukuba uxanduva lwezinto zakho."
- Xa abantwana bethu bekwazi ukukhetha enye into kunenye, iya kubenza babone ukuba banyanisile na okanye benze impazamo. Kubalulekile ukuba ixesha nexesha ubavumele ukuba "benze iimpazamo" ukuze bafumane eyona ndlela yokufunda ibalaseleyo ngale ndlela.
- Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba xa useta imigangatho, umzekelo kunye namava akho anamandla ngaphezu kokuthetha okulula. Kuxhomekeka ekubeni badala kangakanani, kuyakuhlala kufanelekile ukubanika iilayisensi ezithile, iimvume ezithile eziza kuthi zithwale uxanduva.
Babonise ukuzithemba
Iziphumo zamanqaku okugqibela zisenokungabi zintle. Abona bazali bangakhulanga abanezakhono zokufundisa ezihlwempuzekileyo baya kunciphisa isohlwayo somntwana kwaye uthi "uyaphambana okanye uyonqena." Asimele senze ngale ndlela.
- Ukuba umntwana uziva engakhuselekanga okanye engaziwa kwindawo yosapho, uya kuzithemba ngokuzithemba. Ukungazithembi kuhlala kudala iimvakalelo zokungaphumeleli, enokuthi ibe sisizathu seengxaki.
- Abantwana bethu banelungelo lokwenza izinto ezingalunganga, banokwenza iimpazamo kwaye basilele nathi. Ngoku, ukuba impendulo yethu kukusebenzisa isohlwayo, ukunyanzela okanye ukudelela, siya kuvelisa ngakumbi iimvakalelo ezimbi.
- Banike iindlela zokuzithemba kunye nezokuphucula. Thetha nabo, ubabuze ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kodwa ngaphandle kokugweba. Umntwana oziva ekhuselekile kwaye ekhathalelwe uvulekile ngakumbi, unovelwano ngakumbi.
- Xa umntu eqaphela ukuba abanye bayathemba amandla abo okuphucula, ukuphucula kunye nokufezekisa izinto, ukuqonda kwabo kuyaphucuka. Ukhuseleko lomntu siqu, uxanduva olukhulu. Le yinto ekufuneka siyisebenzisile imihla ngemihla.
Amathuba amatsha mihla le
Ukukhula, ukuba nomhla wokuzalwa, kubandakanya kungekuphela nje ukuthenga iimpahla ezintsha. Ukwaluphala unexabiso elongeziweyo lokuba uxanduva ngakumbi yonke imihla, kwaye le yinto ekuza kufuneka siyazi ukusukela oko bafika emhlabeni. Kuya kufuneka ubone ukuba ukhula njani umntwana wakho kwaye zeziphi iimfuno ezinxulumene nokukhula kwakhe. Ayingabo bonke abantwana abafanayo, kwaye abayi kusebenzisa icebiso elifanayo ukuze babe noxanduva.
- Kuya kubakho abantwana abangenakuphumla, abalibeleyo kwaye baxhomekeke kakhulu kuthi. Njengokuba bekhula, kuyakufuneka baxhomekeke kancinane koomama kwaye bafumane ukuzimela: ukuze bakwazi ukugcina ucwangco egumbini, ukuzinxiba, ukukhumbula ukubeka yonke into kubhaka wesikolo ...
- Abanye abantwana, kwelinye icala, bahlala begxile kwaye benoxanduva ukusukela bebancinci kakhulu. Kule meko, into abaya kuyidinga kukukhuthaza kunye namathuba amatsha okukhula ngaphakathi. Kungaba kuhle kakhulu ukuba babhalise kwikhosi yomculo, kwipeyinti, okanye kumdlalo. Imalunga nokuyivulela kwihlabathi ukuze bafumane izakhono ezitsha.
Ke, kufuneka sithathele ingqalelo iimfuno zomntwana ngamnye. Asinguye wonke umntu okhula ngendlela efanayo, ayinguye wonke umntu unobuntu obufanayo okanye ubona izinto ngokufanayo nabantakwabo. Kuya kufuneka sazi indlela yokwenza i-intuit, ukubazi kakuhle kwaye ubanike oko bakufunayo.
Bahloniphe ubuntu babo, abantwana abafani nabazali
Abantwana bethu abayonxalenye yethu kwaye akufuneki babelane ngemilinganiselo yethu efanayo okanye ukhetho. Umcimbi wobuntu babantwana ngumba osoloko uvelisa inkxalabo enkulu kubazali.
Kutheni le nto eza kuba ndlongondlongo kwaye angxami xa mna notata wakhe sizolile kwaye sigxile? Eli lelinye lawona mabinzana aqhelekileyo aqhele ukwenziwa ngabazali, bothuswa kukungafani kokuziphatha kwabantwana babo.
Into ekufuneka siyazi njengabazali ngabantwana bethu yile ilandelayo:
- Abantwana bethu bahlukile kwaye bangabantu abahle. Umsebenzi wethu kukulungiselela indlela yabo mihla le ukuze babe ngabantu abadala abanoxanduva abanakho ukonwaba kukhetho ngalunye abalwenzayo.
- Umsebenzi wethu ayikokubekwa ecaleni kwendlela yabo okanye ukucofa amaphiko abo. Ukuba umntwana wakho uyaphupha kwaye akanakukwazi, sukunyanzelisa ukuba awathabathe amaphupha akhe okanye avume okanye adelele ukungabikho kwengqondo kwakhe. Mncede ukuba aqole, abe yile nto ayifunayo ngelixa ehlonipha iimpawu zakhe.
Ukuba sinyanzelisa ukutshintsha ubuntu bomntwana siya kuvelisa uxinzelelo, umbono ophantsi wokuzithemba kunye nentando encinci eya kuba noxanduva. Bangabantwana abangaziva baziwa, kwaye oku kunokubangela ukuba kuguqule ukungoneliseki kumsindo okanye kwimvukelo, okanye kurhoxe kuye.
Ukuze kufundiswe abantwana abanoxanduva, kubalulekile ukuba senze «uhambo lwangaphakathi» lokuzibonakalisa ukuze siqwalasele le miba:
- Kuya kufuneka usoloko ungoyena mzekelo ubalaseleyo kubo.
- Ukuba abazali bakho benze iimpazamo kunye nawe, sukufuna ngenkani. Beka ecaleni uloyiko lwakho, kwaye uthembele kuwe, kwimo yakho kwaye ngakumbi kuthando lwakho lwabantwana bakho. Ngamanye amaxesha "iziporho zakudala" zisibangela ukuba siphuhlise uloyiko olungafanelekanga.
- Xa useta imithetho, unikezela ngoxanduva, unomvuzo, ukomeleza okanye ukohlwaya, Kuyimfuneko ukuba nobabini neqabane lakho nivumelane ngayo yonke imiba.
Ukukhulisa abantwana abanoxanduva kufuna umonde, ulwazi oluninzi lweemvakalelo kunye nomnqweno wokufunda yonke imihla nomntwana wakho. Akukho mntu uza kweli hlabathi esazi ukuba ngumama kanjani, yinto ephilwa yonke imihla kwaye yinto entle ukuba kufanelekile ukuba iphile.