Umntakwethu ngamnye uthwala umthwalo owahlukileyo kwimeko yosapho kodwa ubhuti omdala uhlukile kwaye ukhethekile. Kubaluleke kakhulu uxanduva lwakho phakathi kwabazalwana, kuba isukile yiba ngumntwana okuphela kwakhe ukuba ngomnye umzalwana. Kodwa kule meko bakuthatha oko kuzinikela njengomthwalo ngokweemvakalelo.
Indima yabazali ibalulekile, Kungabonakala kungabalulekanga ukuba umzalwana okhulileyo angathwala ubunzima obukhulu, kodwa kunjalo. Ayinamsebenzi iminyaka, nokuba sisini kwaye ngokungazi ngamanye amaxesha abazali bayasifaka isicelo olo hlobo loxanduva pokanye bafuna uncedo oluncinci abanokuluzisa ekhaya.
Amalungelo obhuti omdala
Esinye sezizathu esikhokelela kuye zibeke ngasemva Kuxa kuzalwa umzalwana omtsha. Ukuhlawula ngakumbi lo mzalwana mtsha akufuneki ndithathe inyhweba ukubangomnye nokukhathalelwa ngokulinganayo iimfuno eziphambili.
I nyaniso ukubeka phambili iimfuno zakho zokuqala Kwaye ukuba uziva ekhathalelwe kuyanceda ukunqanda ukubangisana kwabantakwabo. Umona uyavela kwaye sisiganeko esiqhelekileyo esenzeka kuzo zonke iintsapho, kodwa singazinciphisa ezi ziganeko.
Ubhuti omdala une ilungelo lokuqondwa njengabanye abantakwabo. Kufuneka ibe ngu umzekelo onokuwuxelisa usapho lonke kunye nabazali sinokwenza nantoni na ukuze sive wanconywa kwaye njengomzekelo omhle onokuwulandela.
Inokwenziwa inxaxheba kuzo zonke ezo zibophelelo ocinga ukuba ubungenakuyenza. Kuya kufuneka unike iinkcukacha kuzo zonke iintshukumo ezinokubakho Ndiyakwazi ukwenza kwaye ngokumalunga nabanye abazalwana bakhe. Musa ukumngxolisa ngenxa yeempazamo onokuthi uzenze. Okwangoku okwangoku njengomzalwana osele ekhulile mhlawumbi luxanduva lomzalwana okulandelayo.
Uxanduva ekufuneka uluthathile
Umkhuluwa kufuneka misela umzekelo ofanelekileyo kumzalwana okanye kwabanye abazalwana. Indlela oziphethe ngayo ibalulekile kwaye umahluko wobudala phakathi kwabantakwenu kunokuba ngumlo onzima. Lo mahluko mkhulu wenza Andiziqondi iimbambano ezininzi phakathi kwabo kwaye benza enye ibambe enye, ubunzima kwimilo yemihla ngemihla.
Imiyalelo kufuneka izalisekiswe ngokubhekisele kwinqanaba lobudala. Bonke abantakwenu ngaphandle kobudala babo kufuneka baphathe uxanduva lwabo kubhaka wabo, ekufuneka ubenjalo hamba kuvunyelwene kwasekuqaleni nakwingxoxo nabazali. Oku kuya kuthintela umsindo wexesha elizayo.
Omnye umsebenzi obalulekileyo kukunceda umzalwana kuyo yonke imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla (ukunxiba, ukuzilungisa, ukutya ngokufanelekileyo, umsebenzi wesikolo, ...) ukhulisa yonke intsapho ngumsebenzi obalulekileyo kulwakhiwo lonke. Umkhuluwa akanalo olona xanduva kodwa unakho ube luncedo olukhulu ngokweemvakalelo kumzali wosapho.
Ungabukhuthaza njani ubudlelwane obulungileyo phakathi kwabantakwenu
Usapho kufuneka luboniswe ukuba indima yomkhuluwa ayingowona mthwalo mkhulu, kodwa kukwenza iqabane elihle kunye nesalathiso.
Kufuneke ube ngumzekelo ocacileyo Kunokubona umntakwabo omncinci. Kucacile yonke into iya kufana nokulinganisa njengoko ubhuti omdala esenza iya kuba luxanduva oluphezulu indlela abantwana abancinci abaziphatha ngayo. Imizekelo inokufakwa njengokuziphatha kwabo esikolweni, indlela abatya ngayo, intsebenziswano kwimidlalo, ...
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