Ukuba kukho into ebakhathaza kakhulu oomama okoko abantwana babo bazalwayo, ngaba kunjalo zikhule ngokufanelekileyo okanye hayi. Ukuba abanye unamawele, Amawele, okanye amawele, akunakuphepheka ukuwathelekisa, kuya kubonakala ngathi elinye likhulu kunamanye, okanye amawele akho akhuli.
Ukuze uhlale uzolile ngakumbi siza kukuxelela injani ukukhula kwabantakwabo abazalwa ngokuzalwa okuninzi, engatshintshiyo kulo naluphi na usana, kunye nomqolomba omnye: ezi ntsana zihlala ngaphambi kwexesha, ngokubhekisele ekukhuleni, oku kuyabachaphazela.
Ubungakanani kwiminyaka yobudala
Kuba ufumanisa ukuba unamawele okanye amawele, i Ungakhathazeki malunga nokuba ngaba ezi zinto zimbini ziya kukhula ziye esiphelweni. Kwaye kunjalo, ngokuqinisekileyo uvile ngesifo sewele eliphelayo okanye elilahlekileyo. Kukulahleka kwesibeleko kwesinye okanye ezingaphezulu iimveku ezingekazalwa ekukhulelweni okuninzi, okubuyiselwe ngokupheleleyo okanye ngokuyinxenye komnye umzi. Kodwa ukuba zombini iintsana zakho zifikile kwikota, awunakukhathazeka malunga noku kwaphela.
Ekuqaleni, ukuzalwa okuninzi kunye neentsana zokuqala zazingafakwanga kwiisampulu ezisetyenziselwa ukwakha iitafile zepesenti. Namhlanje ezi tafile zithathelwa ingqalelo, kodwa ziyaguquguquka. Kwimeko yamawele ukusukela ngeveki yama-28 ukuya phambili, ukukhula kwabo kuyacotha ngokubonakalayo, kodwa oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo, oko akuthethi ukuba nasiphi na isifo.
Umntwana uthathelwa ingqalelo encinci ngexesha lakhe lokukhulelwa, ozelwe ezinxaxhileyo ezimbini ngaphantsi kobunzima obuhambelana nexesha lakhe, okanye ngaphantsi kwepesenti ye-3 Kwimeko yamawele, inokuchaphazela enye okanye zombini, kwaye zihlala kunye, phantse zihlala zikho ngenxa yokuba zingaphambi kwexesha. Amawele ahlala engama-30% amancinci ekuzalweni kuneentsana ezizalwe ngokukhulelwa okukodwa.
Amawele akhula njani?
Xa amawele ezalwa emncinci kakhulu, enobunzima obuncinci, kodwa ukusukela kwiveki ye-37, aya kuba namaxesha okukhula kancinci kancinci kunalawo omntwana omnye. Kodwa oku akufuneki ukuba kuchaphazele ukukhula kwakho njengomntwana ofikisayo, ofikisayo kunye nokuba mdala kwaphela. Uphuhliso, ukuba akukho zingxaki zalo naluphi na uhlobo, ziya kuba njalo zifana nezinye iintsana.
Ukuba abantwana bakho abangamawele bazalwe benesisindo esincinci kwaye bekwanjalo Ngaphambi kwexesha, iingxaki ziya kuvela kule meko, hayi kuba bengamawele. Umzimba ngamnye uzimele kwaye uya kuba nenqanaba lokukhula kwawo, oluya kuthi luphenjelelwe zezinye izinto.
El Unyaka wokuqala wobomi bomntwana, nawo amawele, linqanaba lokukhula okukhulu. Lixesha apho umzimba ukhula ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngaloo nyaka, unokufikelela kwisiqingatha sobukhulu ngexesha lokuzalwa kwakhe. Uluvo lokuba kwinyanga nganye inyuka malunga neesentimitha ezi-2 ithathwa njenge "iqhinga". Indala kwiinyanga ezintandathu zokuqala kwaye iyehla njengoko isondela kunyaka omnye ubudala.
Ukukhula kweentsana ezizelwe ngaphambi kwexesha
Kuko konke ebesikhe sathetha ngako ngaphambili, ngoku siza kugxila kwindlela abantwana abakhula ngaphambi kwexesha abakhula ngayo, kunokuba babe ngamawele okanye amawele. Itafile elinganisa i ukuphakama kosana ngaphambi kwexesha kufanele kulungiswe ukuya kwiminyaka emibini, ukukhula komntwana kuya kulifumana nini abanye abantwana. Kuyacetyiswa ukuba ulinganise umntwana amaxesha ngamaxesha, ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi rhoqo kwiinyanga ezi-2, ade ade afikelele kubudala.
Ngokubhekisele kwigophe lokunyuka kwe Ubunzima beentsana ezizelwe ngaphambi kwexesha buyacotha kunosana olusisigxina, kuba uginya amasi amancinci kakhulu. Ngokubanzi, ngexesha lokuhlala esibhedlele, umntwana, ngamnye kubo unokuqala ukunciphisa umzimba. Kancinci kancinci iya kuqala ukuyifumana kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba bobabini bayayifumana ngesantya esinye.
Ukukuqinisekisa, siza kukuxelela ukuba uninzi lweentsana ezizelwe ngaphambi kwexesha ukufezekisa ukukhula okwaneleyo kwe-psychomotor, kodwa, nditya phantse yonke into ngesantya esicothayo kunezinye iintsana. Bahlala benentshukumo engalungelelaniswanga ekuqaleni, kwaye imilenze yabo ithe nkqi kwaye yaqina. Kodwa, ngokukhuthaza ngokwaneleyo uya kwenza yonke into ihambe kakuhle.