Ukuba ungabachazela abantwana bakho ukuba yintoni uthando, siza kukucela ukuba usixelele. Ngamaxesha athile bayakwazi ukubonisa le mvakalelo inzima ngendlela elula kubantu abadala. Kwaye sikwathetha ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zothando, phakathi kwabantakwenu, izalamane, kunye neqabane ... nakwiminyaka eyahlukeneyo ... ngokufutshane, incoko enomdla njengoko inzima.
Ungayichaza njani intabatheko
Kukho incwadi entle enomxholo Ethandweni, eboniswa nguRebeca Dautremer kwaye ipapashwe yiKokinos apho ichazwa kakuhle kakhulu ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga intombazana ukuba yintoni ukuthandana. Ngaphandle kwethenda kunye nobuhle bemifanekiso, amaxabiso kunye Iinkcazo ezinikiweyo ngothando kulula kakhulu ukuziqondar yabancinci, abakwaziyo ukuchonga ezi mvakalelo. Ukuba ungayifumana, siyacebisa, kwaye sithi ukuba ungayifumana kuba indala kwaye isenokuphela.
Kucacile ukuba nokuba mdala kangakanani, ungasoloko uthetha ngokuthandana ngamabali, ngamabali okanye ngomculo. Kodwa kufuneka ubenayo lumkela umbono wokuthandana, ukuzincama, amaqhawe kunye nale ngcinga yokubandezeleka ukuyenza inyaniseke. Thetha nabo ngokwendalo nangokuzithemba, kwaye udlulise umbono wokuba ukuthandana yinto enokufikelelwa kwaye enobuntu.
Amakhwenkwe namantombazana baziqonda izenzo ngaphezu kwamazwi. Ke njengesincomo, endaweni yokumnika intetho malunga nokuba kukuthandana ntoni, mnike imizekelo wento oyenzayo kunye neqabane lakho. Ngale ndlela uyakuqonda ukuba kukho ukunikezela kunye nokuzincama, ukuba akukho mvuzo ufunwayo.
Imizekelo yezinye iintlobo zothando
Uthando phakathi kwabantakwenu, oomakhulu nootatomkhulu, izalamane, izihlobo ziyimizekelo yothando abantwana abaluthatha kakuhle xa ufuna ukubanika imizekelo yothando. Ukuba ekhaya unayo mascotas Oku kunokuba luncedo olukhulu kuwe. Ungamxelela umntwana wakho ukuba nini feed okanye isilwanyana sakho sasekhaya sikhathalela kwaye sithanda enye. Ukongeza, uya kumfundisa nemida, umzekelo ungachaza ukuba awuyivumeli injana ibaleke ngokungathi iphambeneyo esitratweni, itye iitshokholethi kuba ingamenzakalisa. Yindlela yokuqonda ukuba uthando lolo khathalelo ngabanye bebazi ubuthathaka babo.
Ukusuka kwisandla sothando kuhamba ntlonipho. Kubalulekile ukuba inkwenkwe okanye intombazana ihlale kusapho, ingeyiyo le yootata okanye oomama kuphela, kodwa namanye amalungu osapho, abamelwane, abo bafunda nabo, iinkcubeko ezahlukeneyo. Ukuhlonipha omnye asikokumphatha ngokungathi akanamandla okwenza into kwaye umamkele njengoko enjalo.
Dlulisa uthando lwabo kwezemidlalo, uncwadi, ubugcisa, indalo kunye nazo zonke ezo zinto xabiso esiyithatha njengebalulekileyo lelona lifa lilungileyo sinokusinika abantwana bethu. Iya kubakhokelela ukuba balithande kwaye balixabise ilizwe kwaye iya kuba negalelo kukhathalelo nasekulondolozweni kwala maxabiso.
Ngaba uthando luyaphela?
Enye yezona zinto zixhalabisayo ebantwaneni kukuba ingaba uthando luyaphela, okanye luyachithwa kwaye kwenzeka ntoni emva koko. Asinakho ukuwutyeshela lo mbandela, kuba ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuba nabahlobo nabazali abahlukeneyo, okanye kusenokwenzeka ukuba uyadlula kwelo nqanaba. Into ebalulekileyo kukuqhubeka ukubonisa oko uthando alunakuphatheka, ukuhlala kunye kuphela kwaphulwe.
Baxhalabile yenze imidaUkuba uyamthanda, ngekhe umthande umzalwana wakho okanye udadewenu, okanye kungenjalo, kuba ekubeni umthanda umzalwana wakho, awumthandi naye. Enye indlela yokubacacisela ukuba uthando alunamida kukusebenzisa umzekelo welangatye lekhandlela, elisetyenziselwa ukukhanyisa elinye ikhandlela, kunye nelinye nelinye, kwaye oko akusetyenziselwa oko.
Njengoko besitshilo ekuqaleni, lo ngumcimbi onzima, onokuchazwa kuphela ngezenzo nangokusuka entliziyweni.