Inkcazo yokumanga kukucinezela imilebe ngokuchasene nomphezulu wento. Njengomgaqo ngokubanzi, umphezulu uhlala ulusu lomnye umntu, kodwa oku akuyomfuneko ngokungqongqo. Ngokubanzi ihlala inxulunyaniswa nokuziphatha eluntwini, kuba yindlela yokubonisa iimvakalelo.
Ukuba lusuku lwehlabathi lokuncamisa, asinakukuphepha ukuthetha ngayo yonke into enokuthiwa malunga nokuncamisa. Sithetha ngeentlobo ezahlukeneyo zokumanga ezinokunikwa, kuxhomekeke kwifom okanye kwisizathu esivuselelayo. Siza kuthetha kwakhona ngezibonelelo zayo kwaye ewe nokuba yintoni enokubangela. Emva kokumanga, zinokubakho izinto ezininzi, iinjongo ezingaphandle, ukunyaniseka okanye ukusilela kwako, nkqu nezigulo ukuba sigxila kwimbono yebhayiloji engakumbi.
Iindidi zokwanga
Zininzi izinto ezincamisayo njengokuba kukho abantu emhlabeni, nganye ibanika ngendlela yabo. Masingakulibali oko ziyindlela yokubonisa iimvakalelo kwaye ke, wonke umntu unendlela yakhe kunye nendlela yakhe yokuyichaza. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba sifuna ukwahlula ukwanga ngandlela thile, sinokukwenza ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
Enye indlela yokwahlula ukwanga kukuhambelana nenkuthazo ebaqhubayo:
- Ukwanga njengokubulisa: Kweli candelo bonke abo bancamisayo bavela kwindibano yezentlalo ethi imibuliso leyo ihlelwe. Zininzi iindlela zokubulisa ngale njongo, ngapha koko, ilizwe ngalinye linenkcubeko namasiko kwaye benza ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Ngelixa eRashiya umzekelo kulisiko ukwanga emlonyeni, apha sinika ukwanga okubini esidleleni. Enye indlela yokwanga njengombuliso kukuncamisa isandla, isenzo esinokubonisa ukuthobela, ukunyaniseka nembeko.
Izilwanyana zasekhaya zinokufakwa kuthando lobuzalwana. Izibophelelo ezinamandla kakhulu zenziwa phakathi kwabantwana nezilwanyana
- Ukwanga njengokubonakaliswa kothando lobuzalwana: ukwanga kwabantakwenu kuqhelekile, kumnandi kwaye kuyimfuneko kubuntwana bomntwana ngamnye. Ewe kulungile akulungile ukuba uzinyanzele ukuba uphuze, Kuyacetyiswa ukuba eli siko liqiniswe, ukuze ubudlelwane bemvakalelo phakathi kwabo buqiniswe.
- Ubuhlobo bomtshato: Kukuncamisa okwenziwa ngothantamiso kunye nothando, ichaza imvakalelo yomntu okhethekileyo owabelana namaxesha amnandi kunye nawe kunye nalowo kufuneka uluvakalise ngandlela thile.
- Ukwanga lothando kunye nothando: Zizo ezo kisses ezinqwenelwa ngumntu wonke, ukubonakaliswa kothando esivakalelwa ngalo liqabane lethu, inkampani yethu ebomini. Zizo ukwanga okusishukumisayo ngaphakathi kwaye kusisondeza kolo lonwabo lokukhetha loo mntu yonke imihla. Ukwazi ukuba ungaphila ngaphandle kwakhe, nangona kunjalo, zezo kisss ezikwenza ukhethe ukubakho kwabo. Kukuncamisa okubonelela ngokusondelelana kwesi sibini, eyona nto idala ukuba la manyani ahluke kuleyo onayo nabanye abantu.
- Ukuzanga kothando lwabazali: abanyanisekileyo, abasulungekileyo, abo bavele nje. Ukumanga okwabelana nabantwana bakho kuxabiso, kodwa mhlawumbi yeyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu onokuyabelana nabo. Zithande rhoqo.
- Ukwanga ukungcatsha: Ngabo banikezelwa ngokuzinikela, xa bengeva, xa bexoka. Zezona zibuhlungu kakhulu, nangona zisenokubonakala ngathi zezona zimnandi ngelo xesha.
- Ukwanga ngokwenkolo: Zininzi iinkcubeko zonqulo apho kulisiko ukwanga into. Umzekelo, kwinkcubeko yamaSilamsi, kulisiko ukwanga ilitye elimnyama, ngelixa kwinkcubeko yamaKatolika, kulisiko ukwanga umsesane kaPopu.
Izibonelelo kunye neengozi zokuphuza
Kuyimfuneko ukuba uthathe ingqalelo uvakalelo imilebe yethu. Ngenxa yenani elikhulu lokuphela kwemithambo-luvo edlula kubo, zisetyenziswa kwingqondo yethu ukubona inani elikhulu lesikhuthazi. Oku kuthetha ukuba naluphi na unxibelelwano lunokudala impendulo.
Kuhlala kukho ifayile ye- ukukhutshwa kwe-oxytocin, dopamine, kunye ne-adrenaline, iihormoni ezaziwa ngendima yazo ngexesha lenkqubo yokubeleka, kunye nomtsalane wesini okanye uthando lomama. Ukukhutshwa kwehomoni kuvelisa iziphumo zomzimba, kuluncedo emzimbeni wethu. Ezi hormone zii-anti-depressants zendalo, ezisisiseko ekunyuseni imithambo yegazi, yiyo loo nto zikwanegalelo ekunciphiseni iintlungu.
Kwelinye icala, kufuneka ulumke nococeko, kuba ukunxibelelana ngomlomo kunokuba yindlela yokusasaza izifo. Kubalulekile ukugcina ucoceko olulungileyo kunye nezinye iindlela zokukhusela xa uncamisa okanye uncamisa, ipheUkuthintela ukosulelwa zizifo zokungunda, iintsholongwane okanye iintsholongwane.
Yintoni efihliweyo emva kokwanga?
Emva kokumanga unokufihla nantoni na, kwimbonakalo yentlalo, enjengokubulisa okanye isenzo sokuncoma phambi komphathi, njengoko besesitshilo. Kodwa kwakhona unokufihla iimvakalelo zomntu ngamnye. 
Njengendlela yokubonisa, ukwanga kunokuthetha izinto ezininzi. Ukumanga okufudumeleyo kunokuthetha ukuxhaswa ngokungenamiqathango. Obandayo kukungcatsha okanye ukuvalelisa okukrakra. Olo phuzo lothando lunokuthetha utshintsho ebomini. Uthando olutsha oluqala okanye olungenakwenzeka, kodwa olunomlilo kunye nomlingo womzuzwana omangalisayo. Ukwanga kungabinanto kwaye kuyomise intliziyo okanye kuyizalise ngeenyembezi. Inokugcwala kwaye ikugcwalise ngoncumo namandla okulwa onke amadabi alandelayo.
Ukiss kugcwele izinto, zibalulekile, zabelana ngazo, nabahlobo bakho, iqabane lakho kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke nosapho lwakho.