Ngamaxesha amaninzi abazali bayazenza iimpazamo kwaye abaziphathi kakuhle nabantwana babo. Ingxaki xa oku kusenzeka kukuba bayalibala ukuxolisa ebantwaneni babo kwaye benze ngathi akwenzekanga nto. Benza kakubi, abaxolisi kubantwana babo kwaye ke ngoko abathathi xanduva ngezenzo zabo. Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuyitshintsha le nto.
Ukuba ufuna abantwana bakho bafunde ukuxolisa kwaye bazixolele kunye nabanye, kuya kufuneka ube ngumzekelo omhle woku kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla. Uxolo asilolizwi nje 'uxolo' okanye 'uxolo'. Umenzi wobubi kufuneka achaze ukuba kutheni enyanisekile kwaye esuka entliziyweni. Kuya kufuneka uye kumntwana abamenzakalisileyo, utsho ukuba kutheni uxolisa, cela uxolelo kwaye emva koko umange, ukuba umzekelo umzalwana owenzakeleyo.
Ngaphezulu, emva kokuba omnye exolele, kuya kufuneka baziphathe kakuhle ukuze baqhubeke ngemvisiswano. Ngale ndlela, ubudlelwane phakathi kwaba bantu babini buza kusebenza ngcono, kubalulekile ukuba abantu, ngakumbi usapho, bafunde ndicela uxolo ngokusuka entliziyweni kwaye sikhuthaze ubuchule bokuhlala. Oku kuyakubanceda abantwana ubomi babo bonke kuba bayakuqonda ukubaluleka kokuthatha uxanduva ngezenzo zabo.
Abantwana kufuneka bafundiswe ukuxolisa ngezinto ezincinci ezenzeka mihla le, ke baya kukulungela ukuxolisa nokuxolela xa kukho iziphoso ezinkulu xa bekhulile. Ukuba abafundanga ukuxolisa ngokuzithandela njengabantwana, ngekhe balunge ekuxoliseni njengabantu abadala. Ukubafundisa obu buchule buxabisekileyo kuya kubanceda ukuba bakwazi ukulungisa ubudlelwane babo xa ezinye iimeko zeemeko zenzeka. bayaphikisana njengoko bekhula, hayi ekhaya kuphela kodwa nakweyiphi na enye imeko yentlalo.