Abantwana kufuneka bafunde ukuba nezincoko zangaphakathi ezilungileyo kuba kuphela kwendlela yabo yokuqonda ukuba bafuna ntoni, bayifuna njani, kwaye baqonde iimvakalelo zabo nezabanye. Incoko zangaphakathi zisixelela ukuba singobani kwaye Basinceda siqonde indlela esifuna ukuhamba ngayo ebomini.
Incoko yangaphakathi inokuba mbi okanye ibe ntle. Xa bengenazo banokukhokelela kukuzithemba okuphantsi, ukudakumba nokwenza izigqibo ezingalunganga ebomini. Iingcinga ezingalunganga zinokubangela abantwana ukuba bakhulele kwisithunzi sokungazithembi ngokweemvakalelo, kubangele iziphumo ezibi zophuhliso kunye nokujongela phantsi impumelelo yabo.
Ngale ndlela, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ngamanye amaxesha abantwana babe neengcinga ezimbi, sonke sinazo amaxesha ngamaxesha! Kodwa kufuneka bafundise ukuhambisa ezo ngcinga ukuze zingabuphawuli ubuntu babo. Ukuze ufundise umntwana wakho ukujongana nezi ngcinga, kuya kufuneka kuqala ufunde ukujongana nazo, kuba kuphela xa uyazi ukuba ungayenza njani unokuyifundisa ngokuchanekileyo.
Xa unamathele kwingcinga ezimbi ngawe, cinga ukuba kukho umntwana omncinci ngaphakathi kuwe oxelela ezo zinto zimbi, emva koko uziqhelise ukumthuthuzela umntwana. Ungathini emntwaneni okanye osenyongweni ukuba umntu ebethetha nabo ngale ndlela? Kanye njengokuba ungafuni mntu ukuba athethe izinto ezibuhlungu emntwaneni okanye kumhlobo wakho osenyongweni, akufuneki uthethe kakubi nawe ngokwakho.
Ngokwesiqhelo, iingcinga zangaphakathi okanye amagama owathethayo komnye umntu aya kuba nobubele, athuthuzele, kwaye abe nemfesane, akuncede uthethe ngokwakho ngakumbi ngaloo ndlela. Kumntwana wakho, njengokuba sele engumntwana, kuya kufuneka umxelele ukuba angathetha ngoluhlobo kumhlobo olungileyo okanye ummelwane ... Kwaye ngendlela efanayo ebengayi kuthetha ngaloo ndlela kumhlobo okanye ummelwane, Naye akufunekanga athethe ngoluhlobo kuye!