Namhlanje bendifunda amazwi kaSören Kierkegaard, isazi sefilosofi senkulungwane ye-XNUMX, owathetha njalo iyeza lonyango lala maxesha lalile: Yenza ukuthula. Namhlanje sabelana ngemiboniso apho ingcinga yesi sithandi sobulumko saseDenmark isikhokelela kuyo. Kuba yinyani engenakuphikiswa.
Siphila kwihlabathi elinengxolo, apho ungayiyeki khona, apho ungaphulaphuli khona. Nditsho nemifanekiso igcwele yingxolo. Konke oku kuyasichaphazela ngokweemvakalelo, kunjalo nakubantwana bethu. Kuyingozi kubo ukuba bayeke bakhule ngaphandle kokufunda ukudala ukuthula, bengazi ukuba mabazimamele njani.
Yenza ukuthula kwaye ufunde ukumamela
Obunye bobubi obuphambili beli xesha lethu kukuba sibaleka kakhulu kwaye asimisi simamele. Kunqabile ukuba sifumane ulwazi olupheleleyo kwaye senze izimvo ngokusekwe kulo, siphinda-phinda siwela kwiimpazamo ezinokuphetshwa. Ngamanye amaxesha siyenza neendaba, ngaphandle kokujonga ngokufanelekileyo imithombo, abanye, nabantu.
Kuqhelekile kuthi ukuthetha nabantwana bethu okanye abazali bethu, abahlobo okanye usapho, kubonakala ngathi sinikele ingqalelo kwinto abasixelela yona. Sisebenzisa ukumamela ngokusebenzayo kwaye umthumeli aqonde ukuba siyawuqonda ngokupheleleyo umyalezo wakhe. Nangona kunjalo… Kukhe kwenzeke kangaphi ukuba ungakhumbuli ukwenza idinga nabo kuba ubungaphulaphulanga? Kwenzeka ngokuqhubekayo. Lihlabathi lokukhawuleza, uxinzelelo, ukudinwa kwengqondo, ukuba asiyeki, iingqondo zethu ziyaqhawuka zodwa. Sifuna ukuthula, ngenye indlela okanye enye.
Ukuzithemba, ukwanela kunye nokuzithemba, izizathu ezintathu zokumamela wena
Ezi zinto zintathu ezingasayi kukhula ngokwaneleyo ukuba umntu akazi ukuba angazimamela njani. Zizinto ezincinci zepuzzle ezintsonkothileyo ezenza ubuntu bethu. Nangona kunjalo, zincinci njengoko zinjalo, zibaluleke kakhulu. Njengokuba singenakho ukuqonda ubuso obupheleleyo ukuba amehlo alahlekile, asinakho ukuqonda umntu opheleleyo kwaye onwabile ukuba akazithembi okanye uxhomekeke ngokweemvakalelo. Nokuba kuncinci ukuba akukho ukuqinisekiswa kwaye ucinga ukuba uluvo lwakhe luya kuhlala lungaphantsi kolomnye.
Abantwana bethu kufuneka bazive bekhuselekile, begqibelele kwaye benaye el inqobo ngokwaneleyo ukwenza izigqibo zakho. Kanye njengokuba siyidinga, ngamanye amaxesha ingxolo ivelisa amathandabuzo yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuba sizenzele owethu umzuzu wokuthula.
Mamela eyakho, ukuba akukho cwaka, yikhangele
Siyazi ukuba kunzima, kule mininzi yemisebenzi, iiklasi, imisebenzi yangaphandle kunye nengxolo ephazamisayo, ngamanye amaxesha ayinakwenzeka. Kodwa abahlobo bakho, usapho lwakho kunye nesiqu sakho, kufanelekile ukuthula, mamela wena. Oko kuya kuthintela ukungaqondani nabanye. Abantwana bakho baya kuziva bekhathalelwe kwaye uya kuziva ubhetele ngesiqu sakho, kuba ukumamela ngokwenyani sisiseko sonxibelelwano kunye nonxibelelwano kubalulekile ebantwini. Ilungele eyakho kunye nawe.
Yenza ukuthula kwakho
Ngokwenyani, kunzima kakhulu ukwenza ukuthula phakathi kwayo yonke ingxolo. Kodwa ukuthula kuwe kunokuba yingoma, kunokuba ngumzobo, nokuba ngumntu. Yinto enokudibanisa nawe, ngokungapheliyo, ngengcinga yakho okanye ngelizwi elingcwele. Oko kukudibanisa nengaphakathi lakho, nesiqu sakho, esikunika uxolo kunye nokucaca kwengcinga.
Sisifundo esisempilweni ukuba abantwana bethu babafundise ngomzekelo wokukhathalela uzinzo lweemvakalelo zabo. Mababone kuthi ukuba kukuthini ukuhlala siphulaphule ukuthula kwethu, oko kukhokelela ekubeni sive ilizwi lethu, ubunyani bamaphupha ethu kunye neminqweno yethu. Le yeyona nto iya kukhanyisa indlela yobomi bethu, eya kuhlala isikhokelela kwisigqibo esifanelekileyo, okanye ubuncinci esona silungele isazela sethu. Yindlela yomlingo yokulala uzolile kwaye wonwabile ngento oyenzayo, ukwazi kunye nokulwela into ekwenza uzive wanelisekile.
Ekugqibeleni, sonke kufuneka simamele ukuthula ngamanye amaxesha. Kuya kufuneka uthulise ingxolo kunye namanye amazwi kwaye uve uxolo ngokwenza into ocinga ngayo, Iziva njani. Kubalulekile ukufumana uxolo lwethu kwaye silugqithisele ebantwaneni bethu.