Abantwana banobunzima bokwabelana phantse ngendalo, ngakumbi ukuba abantwana bancinci. Ngapha koko, iyinxalenye yesiqhelo yophuhliso lwabo kwaye bafuna, ngaphezulu kwako konke, isikhokelo esivela kubantu abadala ukufezekisa unxibelelwano kunye nezakhono zokusombulula ungquzulwano ukuze bakwazi ukuphucula kumkhwa wokwabelana. Ukwazi nokwamkela eli linyathelo lokuqala lokunceda umntwana wakho ukuba abe ngumntu onesisa.
Nangona ngoku kubonakala ngathi umntwana wakho unengqondo kunye namandla, inyani ngaphakathi kuye inokwahluka kakhulu. Kodwa kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba ukwabelana kulungile, kodwa akufuneki ukuba wabelane ngayo yonke into nawo wonke umntu. Abantwana kufuneka bathathe isigqibo ngento abangayifuniyo ukwabelana nabanye, okanye ngaba abantu abadala babelana ngayo yonke into nabo bonke abantu?
Ukuzingca kuza ngaphambi kwesisa
Bonke abantwana bafuna ukuba ngabakho kwaye babe nezinto ezizezabo. Ngexesha lesibini nelesithathu, njengoko umntwana eqala ukuzazi ngakumbi kwaye ebeka isazisi esahlukileyo kunina, izinto ezininzi ezinje: 'yeyam' ziqala ukuviwa. Ngapha koko, igama elithi 'eyam' lelinye lamagama okuqala awayiva ephuma emlonyeni womncinci wakho.
Umntwana okhulayo uvelisa uncamathiselo kwizinto nakubantu. Obu buchule bokwenza ukunamathela okuqinileyo kubalulekile ekubeni ngumntu ophilileyo ngokweemvakalelo. Unyaka omnye ubudala banobunzima ekwabelaneni nomama wabo, kwababini banobunzima bokwabelana nge-teddy bear ...
Abanye abantwana banamathela kakhulu kwinto yokudlala kangangokuba nokuba ingunodoli omdala kwaye ugugile kubonakala ngathi yinto ebalulekileyo yomntwana. Oku kunokudala ukungazithembi xa uxelela umntwana ukuba abelane ngale nto yokudlala ixabisekileyo nabanye abantwana. Ke ngoko, kukho izinto zokudlala okungcono ukuba ungabelani nabanye ngazo, kuba akukho mfuneko yokuba wenze njalo, ezinje ngoonopopi.
Ungaze unyanzele ukuba wabelane
Endaweni yokunyanzela umntwana ukuba abelane xa engafuni ukwenza njalo, yenza imeko-bume kunye nendawo ekhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba afune ukwabelana nabanye. Amandla ukubakho nokuba yeyakho iithoyi. Kumntwana, yingqokelela exabisekileyo nethathe iminyaka ukuyidibanisa. Hlonipha ubume obuqhelekileyo babantwana ngelixa ukhuthaza kwaye ufunda kwimodeli yakho.
Okulandelayo, kuya kufuneka ujonge indlela umntwana wakho asebenzisana ngayo kwindawo yokudlala yeqela (uya kufunda into ayifunayo ngokubukela nje). Umntwana wakho uya kufunda ukuba abanye bafuna ukudlala naye okanye ukuba uhlala elixhoba okanye kufuneka afunde ukuthi 'hayi'. Xa abantwana bekwiminyaka yobudala bokuya esikolweni, kufuneka bazi ukuba ukwabelana kulungile kwinkqubela phambili yezentlalo kwiziko lemfundo.
Nxibelelana nomntwana wakho
Umntwana ufunda kumzekelo kunye nendlela abazali bakhe abanxibelelana ngayo naye. Abantwana abafumana uncamathiselo lwabazali kwiminyaka emibini yokuqala kunokwenzeka ukuba babelane. Abantwana abaye bafumana isisa balandela imodeli abayinikiweyo kwaye babe ngabantu abanesisa. Kwakhona, umntwana oziva elungile kunokwenzeka ukuba abelane. Umntwana onomzekelo olungileyo kubazali bakhe uya kuba nokuzithemba ngakumbi, kuba izinto ezincinci ziyafuneka ukuqinisekisa ukuzithemba okuhle.
Ke ngoko, ukuba ngumzekelo omhle kuya kufuneka uboleke izinto zakho kwaye umntwana wakho abone ukuba wenza njani. Kuya kufuneka wabelane nabantwana bakho ukuze nabo bafunde ukwabelana njengentsapho.
Yabelana ngemidlalo
Ukudlala isabelo lukhetho olufanelekileyo. Unokwenza imidlalo apho, umzekelo, iibhloko okanye iithoyi ezisetyenzisiweyo ekufuneka kwabelwene ngazo ukwenza umdlalo ube mnandi ngakumbi. Inokuba nabazali okanye nabantakwenu. Okona kubalulekileyo kukuhambisa umyalezo wokuba ukwabelana ngobomi obuqhelekileyo kulungile kwaye kuzisa uvuyo kubo bonke abo babelana nabo nabo bafumanayo.
Ungena nini ukuze umntwana wakho abelane
Khumbula ukuba ukungenelela akuthethi ukunyanzelwa konke konke. Sukulindela ukuba umntwana wakho omncinci ahlale esabelana, kodwa ungasebenzisa lonke ithuba ukuzama. Fundisa umntwana wakho indlela yokunxibelelana neemfuno zakhe koontanga bakhe. Umzekelo, ungamxelela ukuba omnye umntwana udlala esikolweni ngento yokudlala kwaye uyayifuna naye, angabuza ukuba izophela nini, zolula ulinde, thetha notitshala ukuba umxelele ukuba ufuna nokudlala ngento yokudlala ukuze afumane ithuba lakhe, njl.
Xa umlo wokudlala uqalisa, maxa wambi kububulumko ukungangxami ngokungenelela. Nika abantwana ixesha nendawo yokuzama ukusombulula ingxaki bebodwa. Unokuma ubukele okwenzekayo ngononophelo. Ukuba amandla asendleleni elungileyo, awudingi ukungenelela kwaye ube ngumbukeli olungileyo. Ukuba endaweni yoko, imeko iya isiba mandundu, kuya kufuneka ungenelele ukuze bafunde ngesikhokelo sakho ukuba sisiphi esona sisombululo sisiso kwimeko ethile.
Khusela umdla wabantwana bakho nokuba ubafundisa ukuba babelane
Ukuba umntwana wakho ubambelela kwimpahla, kuya kufuneka uyihloniphe loo nto yokuncamathisela kwangaxeshanye umfundisa ukuba nesisa. Ngokufundisa kakuhle, kancinci kancinci angaba, kodwa kufuneka ube nomonde kwaye ungamnyanzeli ukuba enze izinto angazifuniyo. Kuqhelekile ukuba umntwana azicingele ezinye iithoyi kwaye abe nesisa kwezinye. Beka into yokudlala oyithanda kakhulu, awunyanzelekanga ukuba wabelane ngayo, kwaye ukuba omnye umntwana uyayithatha, kuya kufuneka iphinde ithathwe.
Phambi kokuba umdlalo uqale, nceda umntwana wakho akhethe iithoyi azokwabelana nabanye abadlala naye kwaye afuna ukuzigcina okanye azigcinele zona. Ngale ndlela uya kuziva ehlonitshwa kwaye uyazi ukuba uyaqonda ukuba kukho iithoyi angafuni ukwabelana ngazo ngelixa efunda ukuzenza nabanye.