Ungamfundisa njani umntwana ukuba angaluma

Umama onomntwana kwimfuno ephezulu

Ukuba uthatha umntwana wakho uye kumgcina, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ukhe wafika ekhaya ephethe ukutya okulula emzimbeni. Kwiminyaka eyi-18 ubudala kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba abantwana balume, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba abazali bawuyeke lo mkhwa ngokukhawuleza, kuba ngumkhwa ombi kwaye ihlala inengxaki.

Abantwana abancinci bayathanda ukuziva izinto ngomlomo wabo kuba yindlela yabo yokujonga ilizwe elibangqongileyo. Kubo, ukuhlolwa ngomlomo kuyindlela yokufunda malunga nehlabathi, kunye nomthombo wentuthuzelo, ngakumbi xa amazinyo abo ekrwada.

Abanye abantwana nangona, ukuluma kuba luhlobo lonxibelelwano lwethutyana. Xa abantwana beluma kwiinyanga ezili-18 abayenzi ngobubi. Abantwana abakule minyaka yobudala abanazo ngokwaneleyo izakhono zolwimi ukuze bakwazi ukuveza izinto abazivayo kwaye balume ukubonisa iimvakalelo zabo ezingalunganga, ngesiqhelo xa beziva bekhathazekile, bexhalabile okanye bekruqukile.

Iimeko apho abantwana baluma khona zinokubanzi. Abanye abantwana baluma bodwa emakhaya kuba yindawo ekhuselekileyo apho banokuchaza khona iimvakalelo zabo. Rhoqo, kunokwenzeka ukuba abantwana balume xa bekunye noontanga babo, xa bedlala okanye bekwiiseti zokuzonwabisa. Umntwana ohamba nokunakekelwa kwemini unokuluma rhoqo okanye afumane ukulunywa kwabanye abantwana.

Xa uluma

Abantwana bayaziluma ukuveza izimvo zabo, into yokuqala ekufuneka bayenzile ukuyamkela. Dfter, fumana izisombululo zokusombulula ingxaki ngaphandle kwesizathu sokungxolisa okanye ukohlwaya umntwana. Mncinci kakhulu kwaye uzama ukunxibelelana okanye ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakhe, ukumthethisa okanye ukohlwaya kuya kumenza azive ekhathazekile kwaye funda ukuba ukuveza iimvakalelo zakho akuyona into elungileyo ukuyenza. 

Kufuneka sibavumele abantwana bathathe izigqibo malunga nokuba babange okanye babange nini abanye

Kufuneka kwakhona kuthathelwe ingqalelo ukuba ukuluma kuhlala kuyinto edlulayo, ke ngaphezulu kokuqhekeza umkhwa emntwaneni, ngabazali ekufuneka beyazi indlela yokwenza ukuze umntwana ayeke ukuyenza. Ukuba umntwana wakho uyaluma kukho iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokujongana nale ndlela yokuziphatha kwaye wenze izinto ngcono ngaphandle kokuziva zibi ngayo.

Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyithathele ingqalelo kukufumana ukuluma. Ukuba umntwana uluma omnye, kuya kufuneka uye kwixhoba ulithuthuzele, ungaphenduli kwisenzo sokuluma akuyi kuyomeleza le ndlela yokuziphatha. Emva koko kuya kufuneka uyirhoxise ngokuzolileyo le meko kwaye umnike umzuzwana wokubuyisa ukuzola kwakhe. Emva koko, ngelizwi eliqinileyo nelizolileyo, thetha into enje kumntwana olumileyo: 'Ayilumi kuba ibuhlungu'.

Ungaze ulume umntwana 'ukumbuyisela ngento ayenzileyo', kuba ukongeza ekubeni ayisebenzi, bubundlongondlongo. Ukongeza, umntwana uya kufunda ukuba ukuluma kulungile kwaye kunokujika kumkhwa wokudlula ukuya kwindlela yokuziphatha enoburharha kunye nokufunda.

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Yiba ngumzekelo omhle

Nangona kuyinto ebonakalayo, kuyimfuneko ukuba njengesigulana okanye umama ube ngumzekelo obalaseleyo emntwaneni wakho. Into oyenzayo okanye indlela oziphatha ngayo yeyona nto ibalulekileyo kuye, yile nto ayifundayo ngokwenene. Ngale ndlela, khumbula ukuba awusoze wamluma umntwana wakho ukuba abuyisele ukuluma. Akayi kusiqonda ukuba kutheni usenza, uya kuqonda kuphela ukuba uyamenzakalisa ... oyena mntu ubalulekileyo ebomini bakho kunye naye onamandla kwaye uzinzileyo kwi-bond bond uyakukhathaza kwaye akulume, ngaba unokucinga ukuba yintoni enokuyenza kuphuhliso lwakho lweemvakalelo?


Ngawaphi amagama alula ebantwaneni xa beqala ukuthetha

Khuthaza amagama

Nokuba abanazakhono zilungileyo zokuthetha, kunokwenzeka ukuba amanye amagama abenako ukubatsho ukuze ubakhuthaze ukuba bathethe amagama ambalwa xa beziva benomsindo okanye bekhathazekile. Tshela umntwana wakho omncinci-kwaye unyanzelise kuba uya kufuna ukuba uphinde izinto amaxesha amaninzi-ukuba xa enomsindo okanye enye into imkhathaze, angaba nenye indlela yokuluma njengokuthetha izinto ezinje: 'Andifuni' okanye 'andiyithandi'. Ngale ndlela abanye banokukuqonda ngcono okwenzekayo kuwe.

Cinga ngeemfuno zabantwana bakho

Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana bayaluma xa bediniwe okanye becatshukisiwe. Ngale ndlela, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba ukubetha ngokugqithisileyo kungoyena nobangela wokuluma. Ngesi sizathu, kubalulekile ukuba ube nezicwangciso ezizolileyo zomntwana wakho kwaye uzame ukuqinisekisa ukuba uphumle kakuhle kwaye unesikhuthazo esifanelekileyo kuphela, ngale ndlela uya kuba mancinci amathuba okuba usebenzise amazinyo akho. 

Nika indawo yokubamba

Umntwana wakho ufuna ukubambela endaweni yokuluma, enje ngokubetheka. Ngezikhumbuzo ezimnandi, angaqala ukuluma isithethi endaweni yomzimba walowo adlala naye, abazali bakhe, abazala bakhe, okanye nawuphina umntu omngqongileyo ngexesha lokuziva ecaphukile okanye ekhathazekile.

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Khangela izinto ezibangela

Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uthathele ingqalelo izinto ezinokubangela ukuba abantwana bakho balume abanye. Umzekelo, ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntwana wakho uyaluma xa umhlobo ethatha into yokudlala ayithandayo ukubonisa umsindo wakhe, unokuba neethoyi ezimbini ezifanayo kwaye xa oko kusenzeka anganenye indlela. Kodwa ukuba ukuluma kuba sisifo esinganyangekiyo, izizathu aziyi kuhlala zicaca. 

Ukuba umntwana wakho uluma ephindaphinda kodwa awazi ukuba yintoni enokubangela, ungaqala ukusebenzisa imbuyekezo ngokuziphatha kakuhle kodwa kwakhona, kuya kuba kuhle ukuba umse kugqirha wabantwana ukuze azi ukuba yonke into ilungile. Kungenzeka ukuba, umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho uthatha amayeza athile aya kumenza abe nomsindo ngakumbi kwaye mhlawumbi utshintsho kunyango luya kuba ngaphezulu.

Kusenokwenzeka ukuba umntwana olumayo wenza oko kuba enoxinzelelo lwesizathu esithile njengokulunyulwa, ukufika komntakwenu omtsha okanye nayiphi na enye into. Kuya kufuneka unike ingqalelo ekhethekileyo ukuze ufumane ukuba yintoni into eza kwenza umntwana wakho alume, kwaye nje ukuba uyifumane ... kuya kuba lula ukuyisombulula.


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