Unyana wam wayehlala elusana olunobuthongo obuncinci kwaye ke mna nomlingane wam saba yinto eqhelekileyo "yabazali-zombies" iinyanga ezimbalwa. Ngoku ukuba mdala ulala ngcono, kodwa uyakuhlala evuka kwangoko, ngeeyure ezimbalwa zokulala zingaphezulu, kodwa ndiyakhumbula xa wayeselusana kwaye iphupha elibi yayikukumfundisa ukulala. Ekuqaleni kwakubonakala kunzima kakhulu kwaye xa kufika ubusuku kwakufana nomngeni, kodwa emva koko ndafumanisa ukuba kulula kunokuba sicinga.
Iintsana zifumana oko zikudingayo, thina bazali ikwangabo abangena kwimeko yoxinzelelo xa sibona ukuba silala iiyure ezimbalwa kwaye kungekudala kuzakufuneka sivuke kwakusasa siye emsebenzini. Kodwa umntwana akufuneki aqhelane neeshedyuli zakho ukuze aphumle, uyakuthanda ngakumbi okanye ngaphantsi, nguwe omele ukuziqhelanisa neeshedyuli zabo kunye neemfuno zabo. Ngaphezulu, usana lwakho lufuna ukhuseleko kunye noxolo yonke imihla ukuze lukwazi ukonwabela ukulala.
Ngexesha leentsuku zokuqala zobomi bosana olusandul 'ukuzalwa uza kugxila kokulungeleyo umntwana kwaye ukungalali ebusuku kubonakala ngathi yinto ekufuneka yenzekile. Kodwa xa usana lwakho luneeveki ezimbalwa ubudala kwaye yonke into ihlala injalo, xa kwinyanga yesithathu uqhubeka nokulala kakubi ... emva koko awusayi kwazi ukuba kunjani ukungadinwa. Kodwa kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba kukho abantwana (eyam ibingenguye kubo) leyo baqala ukulala ubusuku bonke xa befika kwiinyanga ezi-4, kodwa kuya kufuneka ubafundise ukuba bayenze ngothando nothando.
Kufuneka sikuphephe oko kwenziwa ngabazali abaninzi bengaqondanga, kwaye oko kukuthi banokuthi babandakanye imikhwa emibi yokulala eya kubangela ukuba abantwana babe neendlela ezimbi zokulala ezinokuqhubeka iminyaka emininzi. Ukuba umntwana wakho uneenyanga ezi-6 ubudala kwaye ujongeka njengesikhova sasebusuku, kuya kufuneka wazi ukuba akukaze kube kudala kakhulu (okanye emva kwexesha) ukufundisa izakhono zokulala.. Ngaba uyafuna ukwazi ukuba yintoni endisebenzeleyo kunye nesikhova sam esincinci? Ungalahli iinkcukacha kuba into yokugqibela oza kuyenza kukuba usana lwakho lukhala kakhulu okanye lunexesha elibi, kwaye nonke niya kuba neeyure ezingcono zokulala. Uya kudinga kuphela umonde kunye neveki (okanye mhlawumbi ngaphantsi).
Ukubaluleka kweenkqubo
Ukuba ufuna umntwana wakho azi ukuba kufuneka alale ebusuku, kufuneka umenze aqonde ukuba leliphi elona xesha lilungileyo lokulala kwaye oko kuya kufumaneka kuphela ngokwenza imizila embalwa yonke imihla. Uninzi lweentsana luneentsuku nobusuku obuxubeneyo kuba bathatha ixesha lasemini nasebusuku elinobude obufanayo kwaye bavuke kuphela ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zabo ezisisiseko. Kodwa abantwana banokufundiswa umahluko phakathi kwemini nobusuku ngaphandle kwebhokisi.
Beka ibhedi yomnyango kufutshane nefestile ukuze umvuse ngemitha yelanga eza kuthi inombulelo wokuba iimfama ziphakanyiswe (kodwa ungaze uvumele ilanga likhanye ngqo kulo). Ukukhanya kwendalo kuya kunceda iintsana ziququzelele isingqisho sabo sokujikeleza. Ukuphumla emini kuya kufuneka kube kunye neefestile phezulu kunye nengxolo yesiqhelo endlwini. Ukuba uvuka ebuthongweni emini uya kwazi ukuba lixesha lokuba uvuke, ukuba uvuka ebusuku ebumnyameni uya kufunda ukuphinda ulale.
Ebusuku Kuya kufuneka ubandakanye amasiko athuleyo ngaphambi kokumfaka ebhedini yakhe, Kuya kufuneka ukuba ibe ziinkqubo ezithile. Mnike isidlo sangokuhlwa, ubeke iipyjama zakhe emva nasemva kokucula ingoma okanye ubalise ibali umbeke ebhedini yakhe kucinywe izibane.
Yahlula ubusuku nemini
Kwinqaku elidlulileyo ndihlomla ngeendlela ezithile ezithi umntwana wakho ahlule ubusuku emini kodwa zininzi. Ebusuku kuqhume kuyadingeka ukuba umondle ngaphandle kwesikhuthazi, kunye nezibane eziphantsi ukuze uphumle. Ngexesha lokutya kosuku ungayenza isebenze ngakumbi, ehlekisa iinyawo zakhe, ukumculela iingoma, njl. Ngale ndlela usana luya kuqala ukuqaphela umohluko phakathi kokondla ngexesha lasemini kunye nokondla ebusuku.
Mfake ebhedini ngoku usavukile
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba xa uyokubeka umntwana wakho ebhedini yakhe ungaze uyenze xa elele ngokupheleleyo, kuba ke ngalo lonke ixesha evuka ebusuku uya kufuna ukuba wenze okufanayo kwaye uya kufuna ukuba ulale ngokupheleleyo . Ukuba uyamlala ngekhe ukwazi ukufunda ukulala wedwa, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba awungekhe umwange, umwange, umthande kwaye umculele rhoqo.
Emva kwemizila yobusuku ngabunye, ungamwola, umculele, umbalisele ibali, ube secaleni kwakhe okwethutyana… kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umbeke ebhedini yakhe ngelixa esahleli evukile. Kungenzeka ukuba amaxesha okuqala alile kodwa kuya kufuneka ube secaleni kwakhe kwaye umxelele ukuba umama uzakuba secaleni kwakhe ngalo lonke ixesha, kodwa makhe alale yedwa. Kuya kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba kufuneka uhlangabezane nazo zonke iimfuno zakhe ukuze imeko yokhuseleko inganciphisi, ungamlali, umi ecaleni kwakhe xa ekhala, umhlise umoya uhambe, kodwa musa ukujika ukukhanya, kwaye ungamkhuphi ebhedini.
Iintsana zifunda ukubambelela
Ukuba ukhe wanikezela umyeke alale ethangeni lakho, okanye umsuse ebhedini xa ekhala ukumlalisa kwaye umhlise umoya, kuya kufuneka wazi ukuba iintsana ziya kukhumbula ukuba ukukhala kwazo kuvelisa iziphumo kwaye kuya kulila ngakumbi kwaye Okubaluleke ngakumbi ukufezekisa injongo yabo kukuba umlalise. Kubalulekile ukuba xa umntwana wakho eqhankqalaza wandise ixesha lokuphendula kancinci kwimizuzu embalwa ade akwazi ukulala yedwa.
usana oluhle oluhle
Uya kubona indlela onothando nothando oluninzi ngayo, umntwana wakho uya kufuna iindlela zakhe ngaphambi kokuba ayokulala kodwa xa ilixesha lokumshiya ebhedini, uya kwazi ukuba ngoku lixesha lokulala kude kube kokondla okulandelayo ... kwaye uzolala yedwa.