Ngamanye amaxesha akukho lula ukweyisela okanye ukukhuthaza abantwana ukuba benze izinto ekhaya okanye imisebenzi yesikolo, kodwa ingxaki ikuko: uzama ukumenza ukuba enze into kwaye uziva enyanzelekile ukuyenza. Abantwana (kunye nabantu abadala) ukuze bakwazi ukwenza izinto kakuhle bafuna inkuthazo eyaneleyo yokuba bazenze. Yiyo loo nto ukukholisa abantwana ukuba benze izinto kunokuba ngumceli mngeni kwaye uyeke ukwenza ezinye izinto abafuna ukuqhubeka nokuzenza kunokuba nzima ngakumbi.
Kodwa ukuba ufuna abantwana bakho baphucule indlela abaziphethe ngayo kwaye baqale ukwenza izinto ukuza kuthi ga ngoku kunzima ukubakholisa ... Qhubeka ufunda, kuba izinto eziyimfuneko njengokuxubha amazinyo, ukukhupha inkunkuma, ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo owenzelwa ekhaya okanye ezinye izinto, Azisayi kuba yingxaki ekhaya okanye isizathu sengxoxo.
Ukuvuzwa okanye ukunyoba akusoloko kuyindlela elungileyo yexesha elide
Imivuzo
Zibonakala zifana kodwa kuyafuneka uzahlule, ekuqaleni ungacinga ukuba zibaluleke kakhulu ukuze abantwana bakwazi ukwenza imisebenzi abayinikiweyo ngokuzithandela kwaye bathi chu benze umkhuba wokuyenza ngaphandle kwesidingo ukubavuza (endaweni yokunyoba kuya kuhlala kufuna ngakumbi nangakumbi kuwe). Kodwa lumka, ngamanye amaxesha iziphumo ezilungileyo zemivuzo zihlala ixesha elifutshane.
Abantwana banokuba neendlela zokuziphatha ezixhomekeke kumvuzo kwaye ke ngekhe benze isimilo esinqwenelekayo ukuba imbuyekezo iyaphela. Kulula njengokuqonda ukuba emsebenzini wakho (njengomntu omdala) bayekile ukukubhatalela ukwenza imisebenzi yakho, ungaya kusebenza simahla?
Ukunyoba
Ukusetyenziswa kwezinyobo kuyafana nemivuzo, kwixesha elifutshane ayonto imbi umzekelo ukuba ufuna umntwana wakho ayeke ukuba nomsindo embindini wevenkile, kodwa ayizukubumba isimilo somntwana wakho kwaye ayizukumnceda ukuba aqonde ukuba kufuneka abe negumbi elicocekileyo, umzekelo.
Kufuneka kwenziwe ntoni?
Kuyimfuneko ukuba umntwana wakho azive ekhuthazekile ukuba enze izinto oziva zilungile ngaphakathi. Kungenxa yoko le nto imeko efanelekileyo kufuneka yenziwe ukuze uzive wanelisekile ngokufunda isakhono esitsha kunye nomsebenzi owenziwe kakuhle. Kubalulekile ukuba uzive wonwabile xa usenza izinto, hayi kuphela xa ufikelela kwiziphumo.
Xa umntwana efunda isakhono esitsha njengokudlala ngaphezulu kokujikeleza, banokuziva bonwabile malunga nokuphumelela kwaye baya kufuna ukukwenza nokuphinda. Imvakalelo yolawulo kunye nokufumana isakhono esitsha yeyona nto ikhuthazayo.
Yamkela ukungafezeki kwabo kunye nesingqisho sabo
Uninzi lwabantwana abancinci bayakonwabela ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo ukuba awunyanzelwanga kubo kwaye ngakumbi ukuba awubanyanzeli ukuba bawenze kakuhle okanye bawenze ngokukhawuleza. Kubuhlungu kakhulu ukubona abantwana abaneminyaka emi-3 bephulukana nothando okanye umnqweno wokwenza into kuba besoyika impendulo yabazali. Ngamanye amaxesha umntwana ofuna ukufunda ukuzinxiba anganikezela xa abazali bakhe benyanzelisa kakhulu okanye behlala bengxamile ... akazukubona thuba lokwenza kakuhle. Umntwana ufuna ixesha kunye nomonde kwicala labazali ukuze afunde izakhono ezitsha.
Kwimisebenzi abayithandayo ukuyenza ...
Ukuba ufuna abantwana bakho bazive bekhuthazekile ukuba benze umsebenzi wabo wasekhaya, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba uyabancoma umzamo wabo ngaphezulu kwesiphumo kwaye ukuba bafuna uncedo, banike ... kodwa ungabenzeli nje kuba ungxamile okanye ngenxa yokuphelelwa ngamandla. Kananjalo, ukuba kukho imisebenzi ekhaya ayithandayo umntwana wakho, kutheni umenza enze into angayithandiyo? Ukuba ufuna ukukhupha inkunkuma okanye ahlambe izitya… makayenze ukuba umdala ngokwaneleyo ukuba angayenza. Yimpumelelo!
Kwimisebenzi abangathandi ukuyenza ...
Ukuba kukho imisebenzi ekhaya abantwana abangathandi ukuyenza, kuya kufuneka uyenze cinga ngaphandle kwebhokisi ukwenza le misebenzi ibe nomtsalane kubo kwaye banokuzenza ngokuzithandela. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho akathandi ukondlula ibhedi, unganokhuphiswano ukubona ukuba ngubani ogqibezela ngaphambi kokwenza owakhe.
Kwakhona singangumbono olungileyo ukubonelela ngezinye iindlela, Umzekelo, ungamnika eminye imisebenzi emibini anokuyenza (abayaziyo ukuba akayithandi kodwa kufuneka ayenze) kwaye wenza le ayithandayo. Njengoko inguye okhetha umsebenzi ukuba wenziwe, kuyakumxabisa kancinci ukuwenza kwaye uya kuziva ekhuthazekile kuba akazukuwuva njengoko unyanzelwe. Olunye uluvo kukuba ukuba kuya kufuneka wenze umsebenzi, ewe okanye ewe, unikwe ukhetho lwexeshaUmzekelo, ukuba kufuneka ukhuphe inkunkuma ungagqiba ekubeni uyenze ngaphambi okanye emva kwesidlo sangokuhlwa, okanye ukuba kufuneka uhlambe amazinyo ungayenza ngaphambi okanye emva kwexesha lokuhlamba.
Kuphephe ukulwa ngamandla
Uloyiko, umzabalazo wamandla okanye isandla esomeleleyo ngekhe sibe lukhetho olufanelekileyo lokukhuthaza abantwana. Ukuba umntwana enze into ngenxa yokoyika iziphumo ayisiyondlela eyaneleyo yokumkhuthaza kuba uya kufumana kuphela xa ebona ukuba angazisusa iziphumo, uyeke ukwenza into oyifunayo. Umzabalazo wamandla awudingeki kwaye uhlala uphela ngamagama onokuzisola ngawo ngokuthethileyo.
Akukho mntu uthanda ukuziva ulawulwa, ubuncinci kubo bonke abantwana abancinci! Kuya kufuneka baphonononge ilizwe labo kwaye bafunde ukuba zeziphi iindlela zokuziphatha ezifanelekileyo, kodwa ngaphandle koxinzelelo okanye amandla. Ukusuka kuqeqesho olufanelekileyo kufezekiswa iziphumo. Abantwana abancinci bayathanda ukukhula bekwazi ukuba banamandla okhetho lwabo kwaye akukho mntu unyanzelisa nantoni na kubo.
Ewe, awungekhe ulibale ukuba ukuba ufuna ukukhuthaza abantwana bakho ukuba benze izinto ... kuya kufuneka ube ngowona mzekelo mhle kunye nomzekelo.