Iingenelo zokuwola xa abantwana bakho benomsindo

Izibonelelo zokuwola

Xa abantwana bakho benomsindo, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuphelelwa lithemba, kuba ngamanye amaxesha sijonga umonde apho ungekho khona. Ngoko ke, ukuba asiyazi indlela yokwenza okanye ukuba sizibeka kancinane kwinqanaba labo, ngendlela enomsindo, izinto zisenokuya phambili. Kungoko ngaphambi kokuba sijonge ezinye iintlobo zemilinganiselo okanye ubuchule esinabo izibonelelo zokwamkela.

Ewe, nangona kubonakala kucace kakhulu, kubonakala ngathi ukwanga ngexesha kunokusisindisa kwiimeko ezinzima nabantwana bethu. Into esifuna ukuyiphumeza kukubathomalalisa, akunjalo? Kodwa kwangaxeshanye kufuneka sikhokele ngomzekelo. Ngaba uyazi ukuba uqale njani? Siyichaza inyathelo ngenyathelo.

Phakathi kweenzuzo zokuwola kukukhusela

Ngamanye amaxesha xa i-tantrum ifika ebomini bethu asazi ngokwenene ukuba kutheni. Kwabancinci, le ngqumbo yindlela yokubonakalisa umsindo kwinto ethile. Kodwa abasoloko beyazi indlela yokulawula kwaye ngenxa yoko, akukho ntuthuzelo ixesha elide, okanye ngoko sicinga. Kodwa ke kukuba xa nomsindo kukwakho nemiyalezo abayiphosayo, nangaphandle kwamagama. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, mhlawumbi uvakalelwa kukuba ngokhuseleko oluncinane ingxaki inokuconjululwa. Ke, i-hugs ihambelana nokhuseleko olunjalo, ngoko sinokuhlala sizama. Ewe kufuneka sehlise umoya kwangethuba singabagxeki ngokuziphatha kwabo kuba ke sizakube sibuya umva endaweni yokulungisa lomzuzu.

Umsindo ozolileyo

Kukulungele ukuzithemba kwakho

Njalo Kufuneka sikhathalele kwaye sikhusele ukuzithemba ebantwaneni nakubantu abadala. Siyayazi loo nto kakuhle, ke ngoko ukunika i-hug yenye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokugcina ukuzithemba kwakho kwisitayile. Kuba njengoko siye sagqabaza, amazwi abonisa ukuba siyabathanda okanye sibakhathalele ngaphezu kokuba becinga. Ke, ngesijekulo esilula esifana nokuwola, singatsho konke oku nokunye. Kwangaxeshanye baya kuziva bekhuselekile. Ukongeza, siyazi ukuba bafuna zombini ukwanga kunye namagama athambileyo kunye nokuphululwa ukuze ukuzithemba kwabo kuqinisekiswe ngakumbi nangakumbi yonke imihla.

Nciphisa uxinzelelo

Olunye uncedo olukhulu lokuwola kukuba lunciphisa uxinzelelo. Ewe, ukuba ubungazi, lixesha lokuyongeza kwiimbonakaliso zakho zothando nangaphezulu, kunye nabo bantu okanye abantwana obonayo uvalo oluncinci. Ukuba banomsindo, kuyacaca ukuba yonke imizwa yabo iya kuphuma kwaye yinto esinokuzola ngayo. Kubonakala ngathi, amanqanaba e-cortisol aya kuhla kwaye le yi-hormone ejongene nokulawula uxinzelelo lwethu.

Kuphephe ukucaphuka ngokuwolana

Zongeza uvuyo olungakumbi

Ngokuqinisekileyo oko Ayisosihlandlo sokuqala ukuba xa usondela kubo ukuze ubawole kakuhle, uphele ubanyumbaza okanye udlale ixeshana.. Ewe, konke oku kuhambelana nokusondelana, uvuyo kunye nolonwabo ngakumbi kwabancinci. Baya kuziva bebhetele ngakumbi, ngakumbi abo banomsindo okanye badakumbile. Endaweni yokuyeka yonke loo nto ngokukhala, ungayenza ngokuyeka ukuhleka. Ngoko lolunye ukhetho olunokuqwalaselwa.

thoba ukuziphatha kwabo

Njengoko sesitshilo, xa abantwana bakho benomsindo uya kufuna ukuba iphele ngokukhawuleza. Ewe, ihug ayinguye oza kulungisa isimilo ukusuka komnye umzuzu ukuya kwesinye, kodwa sisixhobo sokuthomalalisa okwenzekayo. Ngenxa yoko, wakuba ezolile okanye ezolile uya kukwazi ukuthetha okanye ukumfundisa ngendlela enempumelelo ngakumbi. Kuba sisazi ukuba xa sonke sixinezelekile asiyi kufumana siphumo esisilindeleyo, kodwa hayi kwelinye icala okanye kwelinye. Iingalo zootata noomama zihlala ziyeyona ndawo yokuzifihla. Ngenxa yokuba abancinci baya kuziva bekhululekile kwaye bekhuselekile, ngoko baya kuqala ukulawula ezo mvakalelo abazi ukuba baziphathe njani. Kuyinyani ukuba i-hugs ayinakunyanzeliswa, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva omncinci uya kuhamba. Ngoku uyazazi iingenelo zokuwola!


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