Umzekelo sesona sixhobo silungileyo abazali abanaso sokuhambisa ulwazi kubantwana bethu. Sisisalathiso sabo esiphambili kwaye baya kuzama ukusixelisa kuyo yonke into, kubandakanya neenqobo zethu zokuziphatha. Yiyo loo nto namhlanje sifuna ukugxila kuyo imizekelo yokufundisa abantwana kwiinqobo zokuziphatha ngaphakathi kwinxalenye yosapho.
Usapho aluniki kuphela ezona mfuno zisisiseko (ukutya, indawo yokuhlala kunye nokutya), kodwa likwanelisa iimfuno zovakalelo nezengqondo ukuze abantwana bakhule ngokuchanekileyo. Kwaye ukukhulisa umntwana akusoloko kulula, njengoko bengezi nencwadi yemiyalelo kwaye sinokwenza iimpazamo ngokulandela iipateni esizuzwe njengelifa. Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka sime apha endleleni, sihlalutye kwaye siqwalasele ukuba loluphi uhlobo lwemfundo esilunika abantwana bethu kwaye ukuba iyahambelana nale nto sifuna ukubanika yona. Imalunga nokuyeka ukuziphatha ngokuzenzekelayo ngaphandle kokucinga, ukusenza siqonde ukuba izenzo zethu zineziphumo kwaye ngakumbi phambi kwabantwana bethu. Uninzi lwempilo yabo yeemvakalelo luya kuchatshazelwa koko abantwana bakubonileyo nababe nakho ukusukela bebancinci kakhulu.
Amaxabiso yilemigaqo yokuziphatha ekhokela indlela esiziphatha ngayo. Ngokwamaxabiso esinawo, siya kuziphatha ngoluhlobo, kwaye baya kusinceda ekusombululeni iingxabano nokujongana nobomi. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba sibe neenqobo ezisemgangathweni ebomini ezisinceda sazi ukuba yintoni echanekileyo nengafanelekanga.
Kubalulekile ukuba uyazi ukuba yeyiphi imilinganiselo yokuziphatha enqwenela ukuyinika abantwana bakho ukuze ibe ngabo abaphambili ebomini bakho ukuze ubabonise nabo. Nje ukuba sibakhethe lixesha lokuba sifundise abantwana ixabiso labo. Akukho ndlela ibhetele yokufunda kunaleyo yemizekelo yabantu abasondeleyo kuthi. Masibone eminye imizekelo yokufundisa abantwana ngeendlela zokuziphatha.
Imizekelo yokufundisa abantwana kwiinqobo zokuziphatha
- Njengoko sele sibonile, into yokuqala ekufuneka siyenzile yile Chonga ukuba yeyiphi imilinganiselo esifuna ukuyifundisa abantwana bethu. Imalunga nobuhlobo, imbeko, isisa, imfundo, unyamezelo, ukuthanda indalo, ukuthobeka, umbulelo, ... Kukuwe ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba zeziphi ocinga ukuba zezona zibalulekileyo emntwaneni wakho ukuba abe nazo kweli hlabathi.
- Nje ukuba ubacinge, Ngaba ndenza ngokuvisisana neli xabiso? Umzekelo, usafuna ukuba unyana wakho anyaniseke, kodwa emva koko uve usoloko exoka. Umyalezo obanika wona uyaphikisana ngokupheleleyo kwaye oko bakubonayo kuya kuhlala kuhleli ngaphezulu kokuvayo. Ke ukuba ufuna ukuba unyana wakho anyaniseke, kufuneka uqale ngokwakho kwaye uyisebenzise ebomini bakho.
- Babuze ukuba bayakuqonda na. Ukucacisela amaxabiso kubantwana akusoloko kulula. Zizinto eziqhelekileyo ezinokubangela ukuthandabuza. Eyona nto intle kwezi meko kukuba ubuze ukuba banayo nayiphi na imibuzo ukuze ubacacise. Ukwazi ukuba bayakuqonda ungabeka imizekelo yeemeko ukuba abantwana bakhethe indlela yokuziphatha okanye enye. Ngale ndlela baya kufunda ukwahlula phakathi kweendlela zokuziphatha kwaye bazi ukuba yeyiphi efanelekileyo.
- Musa ukubanyanzela ukuba benze ngendlela ethile. Kuba ngelo xesha ngekhe babe ngamaxabiso, baya kuba yimithetho. Amaxabiso kufuneka enziwe ngaphakathi kwaye ahlengahlengiswe, kucingelwa ukuba yeyona nto ilungileyo kuwe nakwabanye. Asinakubanyanzela kuba iya kuba yinto engenampumelelo. Abantwana kufuneka bazenzele izigqibo kwaye benze iimpazamo xa kukho imfuneko. Asinakubathintela ekwenzeni iimpazamo ebomini, kodwa singabanceda ukuba baphakame xa besenza.
- Banike imizekelo. Ngokuqinisekileyo kwimihla ngemihla imizekelo emininzi iyenzeka kuwe apho banokubeka khona ezo zithethe uzikhethileyo ukuba zisebenze. Okanye ngokuchaseneyo, unokubona iimeko apho loo maxabiso adlulisiweyo. Baxelele ukuze ukwazi ukuyiqhelanisa kwaye uyiqonde ngcono intsingiselo yayo. Ukuba uyakuqonda ukubaluleka kwayo kunye nexabiso layo.
Kuba khumbula ... oko abantwana bakubonayo ekhaya kuya kuba sisalathiso sabo ebomini.