Abantwana Baziva belusizi nabo, nangona bonakalisa usizi ngokwahlukileyo kunabantu abadala. Usizi yimvakalelo esisiseko ekungekho mntu uphuma kuyo kwaye asinako ukuyiphepha, kwaye thina nabantwana bethu asinakuyiphepha. Ukuyamkela, ukwazi ukuyifumana nokuyilawula kuya kusinceda ukuba sinxibelelane neemvakalelo zethu kwaye sibe nempilo entle ngokweemvakalelo. Masibone indlela abantwana abalubonisa ngayo usizi.
Usizi ebantwaneni
Njengoko sibonile ngaphambilana, usizi yimvakalelo esisiseko. Zonke iimvakalelo ezisisiseko banenye umsebenzi oguqukayo nowendalo njengoko ufunda kwinqaku "Iimvakalelo ezisisiseko, zezantoni?" Usizi kwikhonkrithi lusebenza ukubonisa, ukunxibelelana nathi kunye nokuziqhelanisa nenyani entsha. Inxalenye yenkqubo yeemvakalelo esingenako ukuyiphika okanye ukuyiphepha.
Kungenxa yoko le nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba sifundise abantwana ukulawula iimvakalelo kunye nathi. Akukho mntu usifundise ukulawula iimvakalelo zethu, xa siya kubhenceka kubo ubomi bonke. Kwiimeko ezininzi siye sizame ukufihla ezethu iimvakalelo ebantwaneni ukuze bangasiboni. Kwaye oku endaweni yokubanceda, kuthintela ubudlelwane babo neemvakalelo. Ungalifunda inqaku "Kutheni le nto singazifihli iimvakalelo zethu ebantwaneni."
Indlela abantwana abalubonisa ngayo usizi
Abantwana banokuluchaza usizi lwabo ngokwahlukileyo kunabantu abadala. Ngamana ungabonisa ngaphezulu ezantsi, onomoya ophantsi, oneentloni, ongenaludwe kwaye elila; Okanye mhlawumbi okuchaseneyo kungabonakaliswa lixhala, liyacaphuka, lidlamke kakhulu, lide libe ndlongondlongo. Ndiyakwazi ukulala kancinci kunesiqhelo kwaye ulahlekelwe ngumdla wokutya.
Kulula ukudida ezi mpawu, ngakumbi ngenxa yomahluko kwindlela thina bantu badala esivakalisa ngayo usizi. Kunzima nokuba umzali aqonde ukuba umntwana wakhe ulusizi, xa abantwana alindele ukuba bonwabe kubumsulwa babo. Oku kwenza ukuba kube nzima kubantwana ukuba baphathe ngokufanelekileyo ngokweemvakalelo, kuba Abazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kubo kwaye akukho mntu ubancedayo ukuba bakwazi. Njengabazali kufuneka sibancede kulawulo lweemvakalelo ukuze bazisebenzise ngokufanelekileyo ezo mvakalelo neemvakalelo.
Indlela yokusingatha iimvakalelo
Kwenzeka ntoni amaxesha amaninzi kukuba abantu abadala abazi ukuba bazilawule njani iimvakalelo zabo. Akukho mntu usifundisileyo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Into esinokuyenza thina bantu badala funda njengoko sifundisa abantwana indlela yokwenza. Masibone ukuba ngawaphi amanyathelo ayimfuneko kulawulo lweemvakalelo:
- Chonga iimvakalelo. Asizukukwazi ukuyiphatha xa singazi ukuba kwenzekani kuthi. Kufuneka sibancede bathethe ngomlomo indlela abavakalelwa ngayo. Baxelele ukuba usizi yimvakalelo eyimfuneko njengovuyo, kwaye sonke sinalo.
- Yamkela imincili. Ngamanye amaxesha iimvakalelo ezimbi zinokusenza sizive sinetyala kuba nje sizive. Siyayigatya ngokungathi asinalungelo lokuziva kwaye oku kudala ukubandezeleka okuninzi. Cela umntwana wakho ukuba aqwalasele iimvakalelo zabo ngokungathi zibonwa kude. Oku kuyakuvumela ukuba wamkele imvakalelo njengenxalenye yakho kwaye ungayiyeki. Njengoko sibonile kwinqaku "Ukubaluleka kokunyaniseka kweemvakalelo ebantwaneni" linyathelo elibaluleke kakhulu qinisekisa imvakalelo, endaweni yokusebenzisa amabinzana ukunqanda imvakalelo: abantwana abakhulu abalili, ayisiyakho ukuba ube njalo, ...
- Yiva imvakalelo. Vumela ukuba uzive, uzivelele emzimbeni wakho. Ke imvakalelo inokuwenza umsebenzi wayo kwaye ishiye. Mbuze ukuba uziva phi uvakalelo emzimbeni wakheMakhe abone ukuba imvakalelo imchaphazela njani. Ungaziva ukuba zisentloko, esifubeni, esiswini…. Ke xa uziva iimvakalelo ezifanayo, kuya kuba lula kuwe ukuba uchonge iimvakalelo.
- Veza imvakalelo. Iimvakalelo azicinezelwa, zichazwe. Ukuthetha ngomlomo kuyasinceda ukuba sinxibelelane neemvakalelo zethu kunye nabanye. Ukumnika igama nefani kuyasinceda ukunciphisa umthwalo wethu weemvakalelo.
Kungenxa yokuba khumbula ... sikholelwa ukuba abantwana bakhuselekile kwiimvakalelo ezimbi ngenxa yobumsulwa babo, kodwa ngelishwa abanjalo. Asinakubathintela abantwana bethu ekubeni neemvakalelo ezingakhiyo kodwa sinokubanceda bakwazi ukubalawula.