Oomakhulu nootatomkhulu ngootata besibini kubantwana abaninzi, into esisiseko egcwalisa umsebenzi wootata noomama kumaxesha amaninzi. Kumntwana, ukuba nethuba lokukhula kunye notatomkhulu osondeleyo kuye ngamava axabisekileyo ebomini. Nangona kunjalo, inani lotatomkhulu nomakhulu lingayingxaki ukuba uthotho lwemida alusekelwanga.
Phantsi kwesiseko samava, uthando kunye nokukhohlisa ngokwabelana ngemfundo yabantwana, ootatomkhulu noomakhulu banokudala ukungavisisani. Ngokukodwa kwezo meko apho bangenelela khona, bethintela igunya labazali okanye badlula kwimiba ethile. Ngenxa yokuba akukho meko kufanelekile ukuba uyilibale loo nto imfundo yabantwana kufuneka ihlale nabazali kwaye ootatomkhulu noomakhulu kunye nezinye izalamane, kufuneka kuphela zincedise isangqa sothando.
Ndingababeka imida kootatomkhulu noomakhulu?
Unako, ukuba uyenza ngendlela efanelekileyo kwaye uthathela ingqalelo zonke iimeko ezinokuvela. Ukuthetha nabazali bakho akufani nokuthetha nabazali beqabane lakho. Amagama anokuchazwa gwenxa kwaye umbono ayikokudala ingxaki yosapho, kodwa kukufunela abantwana okona kulungileyo. Ukubeka imida kootatomkhulu kuyafuneka kwiimeko ezithile.
Umisela umgangatho kumntwana wakho kwaye oomakhulu nootatomkhulu myeke umntwana awudlule. Isenzo esiba ngumkhwa, esingasiyo into eyedwa efana naleyo mva kwemini umntwana akafuni ukuba nento yokutya. Umzekelo, uthatha isigqibo sokuba umntwana wakho atye ngendlela ethile kwaye utatomkhulu nomakhulu abavumi. Emva koko ootatomkhulu noomakhulu badala ingxabano kunye nokudideka emntwaneni, ogqibela ngokungazi ukuba makathobele bani.
Ngamanye amaxesha, xa abantwana sele bebadala noko, ootatomkhulu noomakhulu banokungenelela ngokugqithileyo kubomi bomzukulwana. Yintoni enokwenza umntwana azive ebukele kakhulu okanye elawulwa kwaye azive ngathi bahlasela imfihlo yabo. Ootatomkhulu, ngakumbi abo sele beneminyaka yobudalaUkuba umntu ofikisayo unenkululeko ethile kusenzima ukuyifumanisa. Kodwa ngootata noomama abanoxanduva kunye nelungelo lokuchaza imigaqo kunye noxanduva lwabantwana babo.
Indlela yokubeka imida ngaphandle kokucaphuka
Xa ujongene nomcimbi, kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhetha umzuzu namagama afanelekileyo. Awudingi ukubagqitha ootatomkhulu noomakhulu bakho phambi komntwana wakho, kuba baya kuziva bethotyiwe. Kukhethwa ukuba ulinde de ube wedwa kwaye ujongane nalo mbandela ngokuzolileyo. Bacacisele ukuba le yindlela ogqibe ngayo ukujongana nalo mba nomntwana wakho kwaye kufuneka bayihloniphe.
Inokwenzeka kananjalo ukuba ootatomkhulu noomakhulu babakhusela ngokugqithileyo, esisisenzo sothando. Nangona kunjalo, kunyanzelekile ukuba umntwana aphonononge umda wakhe wokufumana indlela yokulungileyo nokubi, kwaye yile nto yenzelwe abazali bakhe. Ukuba utatomkhulu nomakhulu bayangenelela, cacisa ukuba akukho kwanto yenzekayo, ukuba sele umfundisile ukuba enze ntoni embuzweni kwaye ukuba kuyonakala, uyawa, wenza impazamo, unokuhlala eyilungisa.
Hlala ngaphambi kweziganeko
Abantu babazi kakuhle ekuhambeni kwexesha, nokuba ngabazali bakho okanye elinye iqela, uya kuba sele unombono ocacileyo wokuba baya kuba njani ngootatomkhulu noomakhulu. Oku kukuvumela cacisa izinto ezithile phambi kokuba lifike ixesha, kunye nolindelo lweziganeko luya kukuvumela ukuba usete imigaqo kwangaphambili. Ukutya, umsebenzi wasekhaya, uxanduva okanye imigaqo zihlala zingumthombo wengxabano phakathi kwabazali noomawokhulu.
Beka uncumo ebusweni bakho, ufumane bonke ububele bakho kwaye uhlale ubuso ngobuso nootatomkhulu. Ngokucacileyo, uthando, intlonipho kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke, ukuzimisela okuninzi, unokubeka imida noomawokhulu. Ekupheleni kosuku, kumalunga nokujonga ezona zinto zilungileyo ebantwaneni kwaye, niyakuvuma nonke.