Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo yingxaki ekhulayo echaphazela abantu bayo yonke iminyaka, kodwa ixhaphake ngakumbi kulutsha nakwishumi elivisayo. Ukuba ayishiywanga inganyangwa, inokunyuka kwaye ikhokelele kwiingxaki ezimbi ngakumbi, ezifana ne-Sexual Harassment kunye nokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo. Ngokubanzi, iSexual Harassment luhlobo lweSexual Harassment olwenzeka xa umntu okanye iqela labantu lihlukumeza abanye ngamagqabantshintshi nangezenzo zesondo ngokwendalo. Ukongeza, iSexual Harassment inokwenzeka kwi-Intanethi okanye ngobuqu.
Umntu ofikisayo olixhoba lesinyanzeliso sesincwaso uya kuziva ethotyiwe, ekhathazwa, ethukwa, engahoywanga, ekhutshelwa ecaleni, ehlazekile kwaye esoyikiswa. Ngokungafaniyo nokuhlukunyezwa ngokwasemzimbeni, I-Sexual Harassment kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukuyifumana kuba akukho zimpawu zibonakalayo kwaye ixhoba lisenokuziva lineentloni lokuchaza okwenzekayo.
Xa isenzeka
I-Sexual Harassment idla ngokwenzeka xa kungekho bantu badala. Ngesi sizathu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abazali bathethe rhoqo nabantwana babo malunga ne-Sexual Harassment kunye nokukhula okunempilo kwezesondo. Xa abakwishumi elivisayo bengamaxhoba eSexual Harassment, bafuna amathuba amaninzi okuthetha ngale meko. Abazali kufuneka babe nomonde kwaye mamela yonke into ethethwa ngabantwana bakho kuwe, ungagwebi okanye ugxeke.
I-Sexual Harassment ibuhlungu kakhulu kwaye ihlala ihlazisa umntu omncinci kwaye abanakuxelela mntu ngayo. Kuba kunolwazi oluthe kratya malunga noku, kubonakala ngathi banobuganga bokukuxela ngaphambili, kodwa kubalulekile ukuqhubeka nokwazisa abantu ukuthintela ezi meko zithob 'isidima.
Yintoni
Imifanekiso yezesondo, iziqhulo zesini, intetho engamanyala okanye izimvo… zithathwa njengezingalunganga ngesizathu… Ukuba ngokwesondo ngokwendalo kwaye injongo kukwenza ixhoba lingaziva lingonwabanga, linochuku, lihlazo, liphakuzele… Emva koko sithetha ngezesondo ukuxhatshazwa. Ungabandakanya la manyathelo alandelayo kunye nezimvo:
- Ukwenza iziqhulo zesini okanye izimvo malunga nomntu
- Ukwenza izimbo zomzimba zesini komnye umntu
- Yenza amagqabantshintshi ngokhetho lomntu othile ngokwesondo okanye ngesondo
- Ukubiza umntu ngegama elichazayo ngesondo
- Ukuthinta ngabom isondo, ukubamba, okanye ukucofa umntu
- Ukuthatha impahla yomntu okanye ukubonisa intshukumo ngokuchasene naloo mntu ngendlela yesondo
- Ukusasaza amarhe ezesondo okanye ukuhleba ngobuqu, ngokubhala umyalezo okanye kwi-Intanethi
- Ukuthumela izimvo zesondo, iifoto, okanye iividiyo kwiindawo zosasazo zasekuhlaleni ezinjenge-Instagram okanye i-SnapChat
- Ukuthumela imiyalezo engamanyala ngokwesini kunye nemifanekiso engafanelekanga ngemiyalezo (yokuthumela imiyalezo)
- Cinezela umntu ukuba abandakanyeke nokuthumela imiyalezo ngefowuni ukubonisa ukuzibophelela okanye uthando
- Ukuthumela imiyalezo engamanyala ngokwesini kunye nemifanekiso engafanelekanga ngombhalo okanye nge-imeyile
- Ukubhala izimvo zesondo malunga nomntu kwiiblogi, kumagumbi okuhlambela, okanye kwezinye iindawo zikawonke-wonke.
- Ukwabelana ngeevidiyo ezingafanelekanga okanye iifoto
- Ukuzenza abanye abantu kwi-Intanethi nokwenza amagqabantshintshi ngesondo okanye ukubonelela ngabo
Kutheni ulutsha luyenza loo nto
Zininzi izizathu zokuba ulutsha okanye ulutsha lubandakanyeke kwi-Sexual Harassment. Ezona zizathu ziphambili zihlala zizama ukuphucula imeko yezentlalo kwiziko lezemfundo ngokuthotywa kwabanye, kunokwenzeka ngenxa yomona okanye umona komnye umntu. Ezinye izizathu zinokuba yimfuno yokuqwalaselwa rhoqo okanye ukoyika isini sakho. Nangona zikho nezinye izizathu.
Yiva amandla
Ngamanye amaxesha ulutsha luyabahlukumeza abanye xa baziva bebuthathaka okanye bengenamandla. Inokwenzeka kwakhona kuba babekhathazwa okanye bexhatshazwa ngokwesondo kwixa elidlulileyo. Ukuze ndi Ukufumana kwakhona ulawulo kubomi babo, bajolise kwabo bababona bebuthathaka kunabo.
Oku kuvumela ukuba babonise ulawulo ebomini babo kwaye bazive benamandla. Ngamanye amaxesha, ulutsha lucalucalulo malunga nesini esithile okanye indlela yokuphila kwaye baya kuxhaphaza abanye ngokwesondo ngokusekwe kwezi nkolelo.
Ukuvela oqolileyo ngokwesondo
Kumakhwenkwe namantombazana afikelela kwinqanaba lokufikisa, abeka ukubaluleka okukhulu kwindlela abajongeka ngayo nakwintanga yabo abacinga ngayo. Injongo kukubonakala kukhulile kwaye kwamkelwe ngabanye. Nje ngeziphumo, bahlala benikezela kwingcinezelo yoontanga kunye neemfuno zeqela.
Amakhwenkwe, ngakumbi, ahlala ehlukumeza amantombazana ukuze afumane ukwamkelwa ngoontanga babo okanye babonakale benamava ezesondo. Amantombazana kwelinye icala, angagxila ekuhlukumezeni amanye amantombazana ngokuwabiza ngamagama abonisa isondo ngeenzame zokuthoba inqanaba lentlalontle kwixhoba, mhlawumbi ngenxa yomona okanye umona.
Fumana unonophelo
Abanye babaxhaphazi ngokwesondo kwinqanaba lokufikisa bahlala behleba okanye bexoka kuba nje befuna ukuhoywa ngabanye. Ukuba babelana ngeemfihlo okanye babalisa amabali, bayayonwabela ingqalelo eza nokwazi into abanye abangayenziyo. Bangabantu abonwabileyo ukukhathaza abanye abantu kwaye ukongeza kwi-Sexual Harassment bakwakhuthaza ukukhathazwa. Xa oku kusenzeka, mhlawumbi kungenxa yomona nomona.
Kwezi meko, iSexual Harassment kukufihla ukuziva ungonelisekanga kunye nokuzithemba okuphantsi. Umzekelo, umntu ohluphayo unokuziva engakhuselekanga ngomzimba wakhe okanye ukukhula ngokwesini kwaye uya kuhlasela abanye ngaphambi kokuba bafumane ithuba lokumhlasela.
Xa becinga ukuba abanye bayakhuphisana
Amaxesha amaninzi, amantombazana ahlukumeza enye intombazana kuba enekhwele ngayo. Mhlawumbi baziva ngathi mhle ngakumbi, ulumkile, okanye uthandwa kakhulu ngabafana. Nokuba siyintoni na isizathu, amantombazana ajolise kwenye intombazana ukuze ayenze ibonakale inqweneleka kakhulu kwabanye. Olu hlobo lokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo kubandakanya izinto ezinjengokwabelana ngeemfihlo zesondo okanye ukusasaza ubuxoki kunye namahemuhemu malunga nezinto ekujoliswe kuzo ngokwesondo.
Xelisa abanye
Amakhwenkwe ngamanye amaxesha athatha inxaxheba kwisincwaso ngokwesondo ngenxa yento abayibona isenziwa ngabanye. Banokuphenjelelwa yiyo yonke into, ukusuka kubantu abadala ebomini babo ukuya kwinyani kamabonwakude, ifilimu kunye nomculo. Nokuba yinkqubo ye-TV yokwenyani, umzalwana osele ekhulile, umhlobo, umzali, okanye iqela labamelwane, abantwana bahlala bemodareyitha indlela abaziphethe ngayo ngokusekwe phambi kwabo… yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuba ngumzekelo olungileyo!