Wonke umntu uyavuma ukuba akukho nto ibuhlungu kwaye kunzima ukuba isibini siphulukane nomntwana ngexesha lokumitha. Ukongeza kusizi lokulahlekelwa lusana olunqwenelekayo, kukwakho nemvakalelo yabazali yokuziva benetyala ngokungakwenzi konke okusemandleni ukusindisa ubomi balo mntwana unqwenelekayo.
Ngamaxesha amaninzi, Ukufumana isisu ngokungalindelekanga kuya kufuna uncedo lwengqondo ukwenza isibini sibone ukuba kuhlala kukho iingozi ekukhulelweni.
Inkqubo yokulila emva kokufumana isisu
Emva kokuphulukana nosana olwalulangazelelwa nokulahlekelwa sisisu, esi sibini sililela ixesha elifana nelo laxhwalekelwa kukuswelekelwa ngumntu omthandayo. Esi sibini siya kufuna uncedo lwengqondo ukuguqula iphepha kunye nexesha elithile lokufumana kwakhona kulahleko lubaluleke kangaka. Iingcali ngalo mbandela zichaza uthotho lwezigaba ukuba nasiphi na isibini esitsala isisu sihamba:
- Isigaba sokuqala apho abazali bengakholelwa khona ngokulahlekelwa ngumntwana wakhe wexesha elizayo.
- Inqanaba lesibini linqanaba lokukhangela apho uthotho lweziqendu ezinje nge intlungu, ityala, uloyiko okanye umsindo. Ezi ziqendu ziyancipha njengoko ixesha lihamba kwaye bayayeka ukucinga malunga nokuba kwenzeke ntoni.
- Isigaba sesithathu kukungalungelelanisi kwaye kuyo abazali bazama ukubuyela kubomi obuqhelekileyo nangona iimvakalelo ezinje ngokudabuka, iintlungu, ukukhala okanye ukungazixabisi zisekhona.
- Inqanaba lesine nelokugqibela le-duel kukwamkelwa kwento eyenzekileyo. Esi sibini siyakwamkela ukuphulukana nosana kwaye baqala ukuhlala ngokwendalo kwaye bazama ukwakha ubomi babo. Bayayamkela into yokuba ubomi buyaqhubeka kwaye abanakwenza nanye into kwityala elinje. Emva kwesi sigaba, i-duel inokugqitywa.
Iingcebiso zokulandela ukoyisa isisu
Emva koko sinika iinkcukacha iingcebiso ezithile enokukunceda woyise isisu:
- Kuqhelekile ukuba buhlungu kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uphumle kangangoko unako ukufumana kwakhona ngokukhawuleza.
- Kuhle ukujonga iqela lenkxaso elinceda yonke into ukuba yoyiswe ngcono.
- Ukuba kuyimfuneko kubalulekile ukuya kwingcali.
- Ngaphambi kokuzama ukuba nomnye umntwana kubalulekile emva kokuba echache ngokupheleleyo ekuphungeni.
- Kuya kufuneka uzame buyela kwisiqhelo ngokukhawuleza kwaye uvale inyani yokuphulukana nosana.