Ukuba ungutata okanye umama uya kuyazi into yokuba ukufundisa umntwana ayisiyonto ilula okanye elula kwaye kufuna umonde omninzi ukujongana nomsindo kunye nomsindo. Ukufundisa ngesandla esomeleleyo nothando kunokuba nzima, nangona kunokwenziwa ngaphandle kwengxaki.
Enkosi kudumo lwangoku olunjengoluleko oluqinisekileyo, Ungabethelela emntwaneni wakho uthotho lwamaxabiso asekwe kuthando ngelixa ufundisa ngendlela eqinileyo.
Luyintoni uqeqesho oluqinisekileyo?
Uqeqesho oluchanekileyo lukhusela ukuba abantwana bafune ukuziva belilungu, Oko kukuthi, ukuba baziphathe kwaye benze izinto ukuze bazive behlangene kwiqela. Ingxaki kukuba uninzi lwamaxesha iimilo ayizizo ezinqwenelekayo kwaye zichanekile. Yiyo loo nto umsebenzi wabazali ubaluleke kakhulu kwaye ufundisa abantwana ukuthanda kunye nothando, nangona ngaphandle kokutyeshela ukuqina.
Xa ufundisa umntwana phantsi kwengqeqesho elungileyo kuya kufuneka ulandele amanyathelo kunye nezikhokelo esikubonisa apha ngezantsi:
- Abazali kufuneka babe ngumzekelo. Amaxesha amaninzi abantwana bafunda ngokulinganisa abazali babo. Yiyo loo nto kufuneka usebenzise eli thuba ukuze wenze abantwana bakho benze le nto uyifunayo. Ukuba uziphethe kakubi ekhaya, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba umntwana wakho angaziphathi kakuhle kwaye akanako xabiso.
- Ubudlelwane nabantwana kufuneka buhlale bungqamekile kwaye buhlala bukumgangatho wabantwana. Kubalulekile ukubaphatha ngentlonipho kwaye umamele ngenyameko kuyo yonke into abayithethayo. Kuqhelekile ukuba benze iimpazamo amaxesha amaninzi kuba bengabantwana kwaye bafunda.
- Abazali kufuneka bakhuthaze abantwana babo ukuba benze izinto ngokufanelekileyo ngalo lonke ixesha. Kwimeko apho benze into engalunganga, akufuneki umgwebe ngenxa yoko Ewe, banike izixhobo eziyimfuneko ukuze kwixesha elizayo benze izinto ngcono kakhulu. Ngale nto, unokonyusa ukuzithemba kwakho ukongeza ekuphuculeni ukuzithemba kwakho.
- Abantwana kufuneka bafunde kwiimpazamo zabo Kwaye ukuba akaziphathi kakuhle okanye indlela yokuziphatha ayifanelekanga, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba kuya kubakho uthotho lweziphumo. Ukuba uyaphosisa, kuyinto entle kuba kuphela kwendlela ekufuneka afunde ngayo kwaye enze izinto kakuhle. Abantwana kufuneka bazi ukuba abanakwenza nantoni na abayifunayo njengoko kukho uthotho lwemithetho nemigaqo ekufuneka ihlonishwe kwaye ilandelwe.
- Iimvakalelo neemvakalelo zomntwana akufuneki zihlolwe nangaliphi na ixesha. Ukuba ufuna ukukhala uyenze ngathi umsindo uqhelekile ebantwaneni. Amaxesha amaninzi, abazali benza impazamo enkulu yokungavumeli abantwana babo baveze iimvakalelo zabo.
- Abazali kufuneka bacinge ngokuziphatha kwabo nakwindlela yabo yokuziphatha. Ngamaxesha amaninzi, abantwana baziphatha gwenxa ngenxa yokuziphatha gwenxa kwabazali babo. Khumbula ukuba abantwana bangumzekelo wabazali babo kwaye ukuba babona ukungaziphathi kakuhle ekhaya, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba baphele belingisa isimilo esibi ngolo hlobo. Yiyo loo nto ngamanye amaxesha ingabazali ekufuneka beziphathe kakuhle ukuze abantwana babo baziphathe ngokufanelekileyo. Ukubonakalisa kulungile xa kufikwa ekuqondeni into eyenziweyo engalunganga kwaye ukwazi ukuyilungisa kwangexesha.
Ezi zizitshixo eziza kukunceda ufundise kwaye ukhulise abantwana bakho kuthando nothando kodwa ngokuqinileyo ngokwaneleyo. Uqeqesho olululo yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yemfundo yoku kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba abantwana bakho banendlela yokuziphatha efanelekileyo kunye nokuziphatha okuhambelana nokuba ngumzali olungileyo kuyo yonke imiba.