Ukulawula impembelelo inokuba ngumceli mngeni, kodwa inokuba yinzuzo enkulu yophuhliso kubantwana, ngakumbi abancinci. Ukulawula ukungxama sisakhono esibalulekileyo esinokukhuthazwa kwaye siphuculwe nakweyiphi na iminyaka. Oku kubalulekile njengoko ukunqongophala kolawulo lwempembelelo kuyingcambu yeengxaki ezininzi zokuziphatha. Ngaphandle kongenelelo olusebenzayo, izimilo ezingxamisekileyo zinokuqheleka, zibe ngumkhwa, kwaye zibe mandundu ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Umzekelo, abantwana abatyhutyhayo abaneminyaka emi-5 banokubetha okanye baphose umsindo xa bengayifumani indlela yabo. Ngelixa abantwana abatyhutyhayo abaneminyaka eyi-14 banokubelana ngomxholo ongafanelekanga kwiintanethi zentlalo okanye babandakanyeke kwiindlela zokuziphatha ezinobungozi ezifana nokusela utywala ngaphandle kokucinga ngemiphumo enokuthi ibe nayo kwikamva labo. Ngomonde kunye nonxibelelwano olu kuziphatha lunokuguqulwa., bephucula kakhulu ikamva labo.
Indlela yokuphatha abantwana abatyhutyhayo?
Omnye wemisebenzi yabazali babantwana abatyhutyhayo kukunceda abantwana babo funda indlela yokuphucula ukulawula kwakho impembelelo njengoko ukhula. Ngapha koko, uphando lubonisa ukuba ungenelelo lokuphucula ulawulo lwempembelelo lunokuba luncedo kakhulu ekomelezeni izakhono zomsebenzi wolawulo.
Kwelinye icala, uphando lukwabonisa ukuba Ukulawulwa kwempembelelo embi kunxulunyaniswa nokuthathwa kwezigqibo okulambathayo kunye nophuhliso lweemeko zempilo yengqondo. Ke ngoko, okukhona ulawulo lwempembelelo yomntwana wakho luzuzayo, kokukhona encipha ukuba enze okanye athethe into enokwenzakalisa abanye kunye naye, kwaye kokukhona eba nempilo entle yengqondo.
Fundisa abantwana bakho ukuba babhale iimvakalelo
Abantwana abangaqondiyo okanye abayazi indlela yokunxibelelana kakuhle neemvakalelo zabo badla ngokungxama. Umntwana ongakwaziyo ukuthi “ndinomsindo” unokubetha into ebonisa ukuba unomsindo. Okanye umntwana ongakwaziyo ukuthetha amazwi abuhlungu usenokuwa phantsi aze akhale.
Into ephambili kukufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba zivume iimvakalelo zakho ngoko unokukuxelela indlela avakalelwa ngayo, kunokuba akubonise oko. Kuyo, qala ngokufundisa umntwana wakho indlela yokubhala iimvakalelo, njengomsindo, usizi, imincili, ukumangaliswa, ukuxhalaba, okanye uloyiko. Emva kokuba eziqonda ezi ngcamango zingabonakaliyo, okanye ezinye zazo, thetha naye ngomahluko phakathi kweemvakalelo kunye nokuziphatha.
Qinisekisa ukuba uyazi ukuba kulungile ukuziva unomsindo, kodwa akulunganga ukubetha okanye ukungxolisa umntu xa uvakalelwa ngolo hlobo. Ukuba uziva uviwe kwaye uxhaswa xa uthetha ngokunyanisekileyo ngeemvakalelo zakho, awufane ube nesidingo sokuzingqina ngeenyani.
Cela umntwana wakho ukuba aphinde oko umyalela kona
Abantwana badla ngokuziphatha ngokungxama ngenxa Abayithobeli imiyalelo obanika yona, ngakumbi ukuba umntwana ekuthethwa ngaye unalo I-ADHD. Ngoko ke kubalulekile ukuba uqinisekise ukuba bayakumamela kuba kungenjalo baya kwenza bengakhange bayive into oyithethileyo. Ngoko ke, xa umthumelela into, mcele ukuba akuphinde oko umthumeleyo ngaphambi kokuba enze enye into. Nje ukuba uqinisekise ukuba ukuphulaphule ngenene, ungahamba. Ukuba, kwelinye icala, akazange akuphulaphule, zixhobise ngomonde kwaye uphinde kwakhona.
Ukuze angabi nzima kuye ukukuqonda, zama ukunika imiyalelo elula, ekulula ukuyilandela ngamanyathelo ambalwa kangangoko. Ukuba ziyimisebenzi enzima ngakumbi, unokwenza uluhlu olubhaliweyo ukuze ukwazi ukululandela ngaphandle kokulahleka, kuba lunokulahleka ngokulula kwezinye izinto.
Mfundise izakhono zokulawula umsindo
Ukunyamezela okuphantsi kokuphoxeka kunokubangela ukugqabhuka okukhawulezileyo. Ngoko ke, fundisa umntwana wakho ubuchule bokulawula ingqumbo inokukunceda ukuba ujamelane neemvakalelo zakho ngeendlela eziphilileyo. Amacebo afana nokuphefumla kancinci okanye ukuhambahamba endlwini ukutshisa amandla kunokuba luncedo kakhulu. Kungcono ukufundisa abantwana indlela yokuzola ukuze bakwazi ukwenza izigqibo ezichanekileyo ngaphambi kokuba benze izinto ngokungxama.