Nawuphi na umzali ufuna ukuba abantwana bakhe babe ngokwentlalontle, oko kukuthi, babe nezakhono ezilungileyo zentlalo Kwaye bayakwazi ukunxibelelana ngesiqhelo nabanye abantu. Ukufezekisa ukukhula kakuhle kwezentlalo, kuya kufuneka usebenze nabantwana ukusukela ngexesha besebancinci ukuze baphuhlise ubukrelekrele boluntu.
Ukufezekisa oku, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba bayayazi indlela yokulawula iimvakalelo zabo ngokusekwe kunxibelelwano lwabo lwasentlalweni. Kubalulekile ukuba usebenze ngovelwano kunye nokuzithemba, kunye nokomelela. Konke oku kuyakwenzeka ukuba bayakwazi ukuveza iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo zabo ngaphandle kwesidingo sokulimaza okanye ukwenzakalisa abanye.
Xa ezi zakhono zifezekisiwe, abantwana baya konwaba ngakumbi kubomi babo bangoku nakwikamva labo. Ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo kukukwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho kunye nokunxibelelana kakuhle nabanye. Le yinkohlakalo kuphuhliso lwentlalo yabantwana.
Ungabenza njani abantwana bakho babe nophuhliso lwentlalo elungileyo
Uvelwano
Kuya kufuneka ube ngumzekelo olungileyo wovelwano nabantwana bakho, ke baya kufunda ukukhulisa uvelwano kwabanye. Uvelwano sisiseko esiphambili sabantwana sokuba nobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu.
Bakhokele kumdlalo nabanye
Kukho abantwana abanabantwana ababetha abanye ngexesha lonxibelelwano loluntu kuba baziva benomsindo kwaye bengazi ukuba yintoni enye abayenzayo. Ukuba ukhona ukubakhokela, ungabafundisa indlela yokuzikhusela ngaphandle kokubetha: "Ewe, uRyan uthathe into yakho yokudlala kwaye awuyithandi loo nto, ungamxelela ukuba yeyakho kwaye uza kuyiboleka xa uyeka ukudlala ngayo." Ngale ndlela, umntwana wakho uya kwazi ukuba usecaleni kwakhe kwaye uya kumkhokela ukuba afunde ukuhlala nabantu ngokuchanekileyo.
Musa ukumnyanzela ukuba abelane
Ukulandela umzekelo odlulileyo, ukuba umntwana wakho akafuni ukwabelana, ungamnyanzeli ukuba enze njalo. Ukuba uyakwenza oko, uya kuthi ulibazise izakhono ezilungileyo zokwabelana. Abantwana kufuneka bazive bekhuselekile ngezinto zabo ngaphambi kokuba bazishiye kwabanye. Kungcono ukuba wazise umxholo wokutshintshana ngokudlala ngeethoyi zabo ukuze bangacingi ukuba abanye bayabaxhwila ngaphandle kokuthanda kwabo.
Thatha isigqibo sokuba lide kangakanani ixesha lakho lokutshintsha
Ukuba abantwana bakholelwa ekubeni abantu abadala baya kuhlutha into yokudlala xa sele becinga ukuba badlale ngokwaneleyo, uya kuba ngumzekelo wokuzibamba, kwaye umntwana ngokubanzi abe nezinto ezininzi.
Ukuba umntwana ukhululekile ukusebenzisa le nto yokudlala ixesha elide afuna ngalo, angalonwabela ngokupheleleyo aze alishiye nentliziyo evulekileyo ukuba abelane nabanye ngalo. Xa evunyelwe ukunika into yokudlala komnye umntwana ngokuzithandela, uyayonwabela loo mvakalelo yokunikwa; sisiqalo sesisa eso.
Ungenelela xa uziva unyanzelekile
Ngamanye amaxesha xa abantwana bedlala ngento yokudlala, abanye bayayithanda kwangoko, nangona ngaphambili babengenamdla xa kungekho mntu wayedlala ngaloo nto yokudlala. Qaphela xa oku kusenzeka, kuba amaxesha amaninzi akukho mfuneko yokungenelela kuba abantwana baqala ukwabelana ngomdlalo ngaphandle kweengxaki. Kodwa ukuba uyabona ukuba umntwana wakho uyanyanzelwa ngento yokudlala kuya kufuneka ungenelele.
Ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna into yokudlala yomnye umntwana, uyakufuna uncedo kwezo mvakalelo zinyanzelekileyo. Kule meko, kuya kufuneka uphinde wenze umkhwa wokutshintshana. Kwenze ngoxolo, uvelwano kunye nothando
Ufundisa ukuzithemba
Kuyimfuneko ukuziqhelanisa nokuzithemba ekhaya ukuze ukwazi ukuthetha into oyicingayo ngaphandle kokulimaza abanye, uchaze indlela oziva ngayo. Kufanelekile ukuba oku kusetyenzwe ekhaya ngexesha lokudlala, ngolu hlobo, Xa kufuneka eyenzile kwimeko apho ungekhoyo, uya kuba nakho ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakhe ngokuchanekileyo. Izakhono zolwimi zibalulekile kule meko, kuya kufuneka umfundise ukuba zonke iimvakalelo zinegama kunye nentsingiselo.
Ukuba awufuni ukwabelana ngento yokudlala, kungcono uyibeke ecaleni
Ukuba umntwana wakho unento yokudlala angafuni ukwabelana ngayo nabani na, musa ukumenza ayenze. Ukuba abahlobo bakho bazakudlala ekhaya, ungakhetha iithoyi ofuna ukwabelana ngazo kunye nezo ungazenziyo, ungazigcina ukuze abahlobo bakho bangafuni ukudlala ngazo.
Beka imida ecacileyo
Abantwana bafuna imida ukuze bazi ukuba kulindeleke ntoni kubo ngawo onke amaxesha. Ngale ndlela, kubalulekile ukuba uyenze icace ukuba yeyiphi na imithetho kumdlalo nakubudlelwane nabanye. Abantwana banelungelo lokuba neemvakalelo zabo, kodwa bonke abantu banoxanduva lwento abayenzayo ngeengalo, imilenze, kunye neemvakalelo zabo. Umsebenzi wethu njengabazali kukubafundisa ubuchule bokuzilawula obuphilileyo ngaphandle kokuba bohlwaye, okusoloko kubenza abantwana babe ndlongondlongo ngakumbi.
Ukubeka amagama kwiimvakalelo
Ukuthiya iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo kubalulekile ukuba abantwana baqonde indlela yokuqhubekeka neemvakalelo abaziva bethetha ngazo kunasemzimbeni. Ukwahluka koku kuxa abantwana bephakathi kwemvakalelo enkulu kwaye inamandla kakhulu, zizinto ezininzi abaziziva kumzuzwana othile. Kule mizuzu kuyimfuneko ukuba uqiniseke ukuba umntwana wakho ukhuselekile kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, ukuba okwenzekileyo kamva kuyabonakala, ngomzuzu wokuzola. Umntwana wakho uya kudinga ukuqondwa kodwa angagwetywa.
Khumbuza umntwana wakho ukuba emva komsindo kukho imvakalelo ekufuneka iqondwe
Xa umntwana enomsindo, ukongeza kokwazi ukuba unjalo, kuyafuneka ukuba afumanise ukuba yintoni le imenze azive enjalo. Ngale ndlela unokucamngca ngokwenzekileyo kwaye ujonge isisombululo sokufumana ukuzola kwakhona.
Nje ukuba unako konke oku engqondweni, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba ungoyena mntu ungowona mzekelo kubo kwaye ke, kuya kufuneka ufundise abantwana bakho ngokuzola, uthando olungenamiqathango kunye nentlonipho. Kukwabaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungalibali ukuba bangabantwana kwaye ngenxa yoko, kufuneka baziphathe ngolu hlobo, abanakuba nokuziphatha okugqibeleleyo kuba bafunda izithethe zentlalo kunye nendlela ekufuneka baziphathe ngayo ngesikhokelo sakho nangomzekelo wakho.