Ukunceda abantwana ukuba bakwazi ukuzimela yeyona ndlela ifanelekileyo yokubafundisa indlela yobomi babadala, ukukhula kunye noxanduva. Ukuhlala kude nekhusi looyise noomama akukho lula konke konkeKodwa yinto ekufuneka ilandelwe ngabo bonke abantwana. Kunjengokuba besitsho, umthetho wobomi, kunye nendlela ebalaseleyo yokwenza oko ngendlela enoxanduva kwaye yanelisayo kukuba noncedo lwabo babathanda kakhulu.
Ukushiya ikhaya kunye nokuhlala ngokuzimeleyo ujongene nezinto ezingapheliyo, ngamanye amaxesha zilungile kwaye ziyonwabisa kwaye ngamanye amaxesha zinzima kakhulu. Ngesi sizathu, kubalulekile ukufundisa abantwana besebancinci ngemiba efana noqoqosho, impilo yomzimba, eyengqondo okanye eyokwabelana ngesondo, kunye neemfuno ezibalulekileyo ezinje ngokwazi ukupheka okanye ukuhlamba. Nangona ukhona ukumnceda xa eyidingaUkuzimela kufuneka kwenziwe ngawo wonke umthetho.
Ngamanye amagama, imalunga nabantwana abahlamba inyani kwaye bekwazi ukujongana neemeko zemihla ngemihla ezinje ngomatshini wokuhlamba impahla okanye ukupheka isitya sepasta. Ukuba uyisombulule le mibuzo ngaphambi kokuba kufike ixesha lokushiya ikhaya, xa kufika ixesha uyakuba noxolo lwengqondo lokuba abantwana bakho bakulungele ukuhlala bodwa.
Ngaba kufuneka ndikhuthaze umntwana wam ukuba azimele?
Akukho ubudala obuqhelekileyo apho abantwana kufuneka bazimele, kodwa zininzi izinto ezibonisa ukufika kwelo xesha. Okucacileyo kukuba yinto ekufuneka yenzekile, abantwana kufuneka baphile ubomi babo kwaye bajongane nokuba badala kuxanduva lokuqhuba indlu. Ke impendulo nokuba kufuneka ukhuthaze umntwana wakho ukuba azimele nguewe.
Ewe, ukuba uzilungiselele ngokwasemphefumlweni, ukuba une-solvency yezemali ukujongana neendleko zakho, ukuba unakho ukuzimela ukuthatha uxanduva zeeshedyuli zabo, umsebenzi, izifundo kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ukuba banokuvuthwa kokuthatha ubomi ngaphandle kokukhuselwa ngabazali. Umntwana odibana nazo zonke ezi mpawu ulungele ngakumbi ukuzimelanokuba ungakanani.
Ndingamnceda njani unyana wam kubomi bakhe obutsha bokuzimela
Xa ixesha lifika, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba wonwabe kwaye ube nebhongo ngesigqibo somntwana wakho. Sukwenza izinto zibe nzima kuye ngokulila okanye ukubonisa ukukruquka. Ukuba abantwana bayabaleka kwaye baqale ubomi babo bodwa kulungile, kuyinxalenye yokuba ngumama. Endaweni yokubonisa ukubandezeleka, khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba ajonge iflethi, mfundise ukuba akhangele ezona zinto zilungileyo kwaye umkhuthaze ukuba atyelele iiflethi ade afumane eyona ayithandayo.
Okwangoku, khangela ukuba umntwana wakho ukulungele ukuhlala yedwa okanye ufuna uncedo. Umzekelo, chitha ixesha lokumfundisa ukubeka umatshini wokuhlamba kunye lithini iqhinga lakho ukuze iimpahla zolulwe kakuhle ngaphandle koku-ayina. Ukufundisa abantwana ukonga ixesha kunye nemali kuyanceda ukuba inkwenkwe ikwazi ukuzimela. Mbuze ukuba ikhona into ayifunayo, ukuba ufuna ukuba uchaze nantoni na kuye, yiya ukumlungiselela ngokwasemoyeni ukuba kuthetha ntoni ukuhlala ngaphandle kwekhaya losapho.
Ngaphandle kokungxama, ngaphandle kokuba noxinzelelo kwinkwenkwe okanye ngokwakho. Kuba ukuqala ubomi ngaphandle kwekhaya lomzali kuyonwabisa, kodwa kukoyikisa. Nokuba uyazi ukuba bayafowunelwa nje, ukuhlala ekhayeni lakho kuthetha ukujongana nayo nayiphi na imeko. Kananjalo sukukhetha i- ukulibazisa umzuzu usebenzisa amaqhinga njengokuphoxa inkwenkwe, kuba ngaxa lithile iya kuhamba.
Ngokuqinisekileyo ukhetha ukuba umntwana wakho axhomekeke kuwe ngezigqibo zakhe zonke endaweni yokufumana uncedo lwabanye abantu. Uyakukufeza oku ngokwenza ubudlelwane obunokuthenjwa nabantwana bakho, ukusukela xa bebancinci kude kube xa bemka ekhaya kwaye beqala ukuphila ubomi babo. Khumbula ukuba ngokwakho unethuba elitsha lokuqala, lokuphila amava amatsha kwaye wonwabele eli nqanaba litsha lokuba ngumama.