Ungamnceda njani umntwana wakho ofikisayo xa ejamelene nothando

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Ukwahlukana ayisosidlo sinambitha nakubani na. Xa abantu abadala kufuneka bajongane nengxaki yeemvakalelo ngenxa yokuqhekeka kwesibini, sinokuziva sidandathekile. Kodwa xa ingumntu ofikisayo ohamba kule nxalenye yobomi engenakuphepheka, lelo xesha Abazali kufuneka bafunde ukunceda abantwana babo ukuze eli khefu lingathethi isiphelo kodwa kunisiqalo.

Xa umntu okwishumi elivisayo esokola ukwahlukana, kubonakala ngathi sisiphelo sehlabathi. Baphila iimvakalelo zabo ngokupheleleyo kwaye banokuchitha iintsuku bekwimeko ebuthathaka, bengafuni ukubona mntu, bengafuni kwenza nto, becaphuka ekhaya ... kufana nokuba umhlaba uphelile. Kodwa kwinqanaba lokufikisa, xa amakhwenkwe namantombazana esakhula kwaye ubuntu babo bungasekelwanga, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba badlule kolu hlobo lwenkqubo iya kubanceda baqonde ukuba bafuna ntoni kwaye balindele ntoni kubudlelwane.

Njengabazali, kunokuba nzima ukubona abantwana bakho behamba kwezi trances kwaye ubabona belusizi, iintlungu okanye uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo ngamaxesha anzima kuye wonke umntu. Kodwa Kukho iindaba ezimnandi kwaye kukho iingcebiso kubazali ukuze abantwana babo baphinde bavuke Kwaye bayayidlulisa intlungu yabo ngaphambili kwaye ngenxa yoko, banokuqala kwakhona ukonwabela ubomi kwaye bashiye ngasemva olo thando luza kuba lolwangaphambili.

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Mamela yonke into ayithethayo kuwe

Ukuba akakubuzi, kungcono ukuba ugcine iigwebo zakho zexabiso okanye izimvo onazo kwi-ex yakhe kuwe, ubuncinci de umbone ukuba womelele ngokwasemphefumlweni. Kuyimfuneko ukuba azive ukuba unaye ecaleni kwakhe kokulungileyo nokungalunganga, uya kufuna ukuba igxalaba lakho likwazi ukulila oko likudingayo kwaye likhuphe nentlungu yakhe ngokweemvakalelo. Makhe ndichaze okwenzekileyo, kwaye Ukuba ufuna ukumcebisa, qala ucele imvume yokwenza oko. Musa ukugxuphuleka kwizinto apho angafuni ukuba ugcine kwaye ugcine icandelo lokunxibelelana livulekile ukuze akuxelele yonke into ayifunayo nanini na eyifuna.

Gxila kwiimvakalelo zakho

Kuya kufuneka uzame ukugxila kwiimvakalelo zabo ngaphambi kokujonga kwiimvakalelo ezibangela umntwana wakho abenje. Zama ukuqonda indlela aziva ngayo ngaphambi kokuba acinge okanye athethe into elungileyo okanye elungileyo kuye (okanye ucinga ntoni kodwa mhlawumbi uyaqonda ngelo xesha). Ukuba ujolisa kwiimvakalelo zabo, iya kuba yonyango ngakumbi emntwaneni wakho kwaye baya kuziva bemamele kwaye bexabisiwe.. Kodwa khumbula ukuba akufuneki umnike ingcebiso ade ayicele okanye ukuba uyavuma ukuyenza xa ucela imvume ... nangona eyona nto ilungileyo kukuba uyigcine, ubuncinci ekuqaleni.

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Nceda umntwana wakho aphile ubomi obuqhelekileyo

Kuyimfuneko ukuba umntwana wakho angagxili kuphela ekwahlukaneni kwakhe kuba uya kuthi phithi kwaye angade aqale nokudakumba. Ngokufanelekileyo, kuya kufuneka ucwangcise ixesha oza kulichitha usapho, ukuba uthathe inxaxheba kwimisebenzi apho onwabile kwaye anokuchitha ixesha kunye nabantu abalungileyo, ukuze angacingi ngalo lonke ixesha malunga nomntu wakhe wakudala kwaye uya kuqonda ukuba ubomi bungaphezulu kokugxila emntwini omnye.

Ndicebisa ukuba uhlale kude ne ex yakho

Kuya kufuneka ulumke kakhulu, ulumke kwaye ulumke kuba kunokwenzeka ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zingaphezulu kwaye ungaziva ungalunganga xa uziva uhlaselwa. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ngobumnene nangothando ucebise ukuba bayeke ukuba ngabahlobo kunye ne-ex yabo kwiinethiwekhi zonxibelelwano ukuze bangachithi usuku bejonga iifoto zabo okanye bebona abakwenzayo ngalo lonke ixesha (oku kuyakwenza kuphela iimvakalelo ezimbi). Ukugqithisa okungenampilo kuya kukwenza uzive ungalunganga kwaye kukugulise ngenxa yeemvakalelo ezimbi. Ukongeza, iinethiwekhi zokunxibelelana zinokubangela isimilo esinganyanzelekanga, ngaba unokucinga ukuba umntwana wakho wabona umntu wakhe wakudala kunye nomnye emva nje kokuba eqhawule umtshato kwaye engabinamazwi akhe angxamisekileyo? Ungajonga ingxaki kwaye akukho mntu uyifunayo.

Awunakho ukuyilungisa kwaye ayisiyomfanelo yakho nayo

Njengomama okanye utata, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ungafuni ukubona umntwana wakho esokola kwaye uzama ukulungisa ukuba yintoni le ayenzayo ebomini. Kodwa ayilunganga kwaye awumenzeli ncedo. Umntwana wakho ufuna olu hlobo lwamava ukuze akwazi ukukhula ngaphakathi kwaye ngale ndlela ufunda ukuba ubomi ayisiyiyo yonke into entle, kodwa ukuba ngamaxesha okwehla, uhlala kufuneka uzobe amandla okuvuka kwaye ufumane okuhle kuyo yonke into.

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Umntwana wakho kufuneka afunde ukoyisa ukwahlukana eyedwa, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuba nokuninzi ebomini bakhe kwaye kuya kufuneka afunde ukujongana nezi mvakalelo ukuze onwabe. Kodwa ke, Oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka ube secaleni kwakhe ukuze unike yonke inkxaso yakho ngokweemvakalelo ... Kodwa musa ukubiza umntu wakudala ubaxelele ukuba ucinga ntoni okanye ubacenge ukuba babuye… soze!

Ayisosiphelo, sisiqalo

Mhlawumbi unyana / intombi yakho icinga ukuba xa ubudlelwane buphela kukuphela kwehlabathi, kodwa kufuneka afunde ukuba inokuba sisiqalo sobomi bakhe. Uya kufunda ngovelwano, ukuzithemba, malunga nokuphoxeka okanye amahla ndinyuka anokubakho ebomini.

Kubalulekile ukuba umnike ixesha ukuze akwazi ukoyisa ukwahlukana, kodwa ukuba uyabona ukuba akoyisi, akafuni kuphila ubomi obuqhelekileyo okanye unxulumene, ukuba ubona naluphi na uhlobo lokuphazamiseka okanye ingxaki yeemvakalelo ethi Iya isiba mandundu, unokucinga ngenketho ekumemayo ukuba uze kunyango. Ngamaxesha athile, iintlungu abazivayo xa bekwishumi elivisayo zinzulu kakhulu kangangokuba abazi ukuba bajongane njani nokwakha ngendlela eyakhayo ke bafuna ukukhokelwa yingcali.

Ngaba ukhona umntwana wakho ofikisayo owahlukana nothando? Uphumelele njani kwiintlungu? Ngaba wayexhomekeke kakhulu kuwe nakwingcebiso yakho?


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  1.   Noelia sitsho

    Intombi yam ijongene naloo nto ngoku kwaye inyani ndicinga ukuba ndenze yonke into engalunganga kwasekuqaleni, ndiyamthethisa kuba ndibona ukuba uyamkhumbula ndade ndamxelela ukuba andisayi kuphinda ndisebenzise nayiphi na i-social network kuba ndibonile. zonke iitshomi zakhe zibaxelele ngaye ?Into ebuhlungu kukuba bakwiclassroom enye kwaye bendizomkhupha kwesa skolo kuba andisafuni aphinde asibone ndifuna asilibale kodwa. Andisayazi ukuba mandimncede njani bendingasoze ndifune asokole ngenxa yomntu ndizive ndiphelelwa ngamandla kwaye xa ubona lamacebiso uqiniseke ukuba ndankcenkceshela ??‍♀️ kwasekuqaleni ndizozama ukuqamba. yonke into kwaye ngethemba lokuba ndiya kuphumelela, kunzima kangakanani ukuba ngumama?

  2.   Vanessa sitsho

    Unyana wam ujongene nomzuzu wothando, kunzima kakhulu.Yonke into endiyifundileyo injengoba injalo. Ndiyamva xa ethetha kwaye kubonakala ukuba ufuna ukuthatha ubomi bakhe kwaye ndiva ubuhlungu obukhulu. Ufuna ukuwushiya lo msebenzi esazi ukuba uzakuba worse kodwa emva koko uyafaneleka. Ndiyazi ukuba lixesha kodwa kum kukunyibilika. Andazi ukuba mandenze ntoni na kodwa andililahli ithemba lokuba uzakuchacha kungekudala.