Ukuba neentloni yinto eqhelekileyo kubantwana abaninzi. Luphawu lobuntu oluchaphazela ngokuthe ngqo ubudlelwane boluntu. Inokukhokelela ekubeni abantwana bahoxeke ngakumbi, bangazithembi, bakufumanise kunzima ukugcina ubudlelwane nabanye abantwana, okanye bakufumanise kunzima ukubonisa iimvakalelo zabo. Makhe sibone ukuba ungamnceda njani umntwana wakho ayeke ukuba neentloni kwaye azithembe.
Iintloni ebantwaneni
Luphawu esilubona amaxesha amaninzi. Abantwana abazimela ngasemva koomama phambi komntu wasemzini, okanye abafumana kunzima ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimidlalo yeqela nabanye abantwana. Iintloni zinokubonakala kunyaka wokuqala wobomi, nangaphezulu ukusuka kubudala be-3 xa beqala isikolo. Malunga ne-15% labantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka emi-6 ubudala baneentloni, kwaye ngokufikisa le pesenti inyuka iye phantse kwi-50% ngalo lonke ukhuseleko oluziswa leli nqanaba.
Umntwana unokuzalwa eneentloni ngenxa yesimo. Kodwa inokwenziwa kwakhona ngenxa yokuphila kwiimeko ezithile ezimbi ezibenze baphulukana nokuzithemba kunye nokhuseleko, ngenxa yemfundo yabazali babo okanye ukuyibona ekhaya (ukuba abazali baneentloni, banokufunda le ndlela yokuziphatha).
Ukuba neentloni akukubi, ngaphakathi kwemida. Inokuba luncedo ngamanye amaxesha, njengoko abantwana abaneentloni bejonga ngakumbi, behlalutya kwaye belumkile. Kuqala bayajonga emva koko benze. Ihlala ihamba yodwa kunye nexesha. Kodwa ukuba iqondo leentloni linokuthi likuthintele ekunxibelelaneni ngokuchanekileyo nabanye, ukhetha ukuba wedwa ukuba kunye nabahlobo okanye uhlala ulindele ukuba abanye bakuxelele ukuba wenzeni, emva koko inokuqwalaselwa njengengxaki yezifo kwaye kufuneka ucele uncedo.
Ungamnceda njani umntwana wakho ayeke ukuba neentloni
Kukho uthotho lweengcebiso esinokuzenza ukunceda umntwana wakho ukuba afumane ukhuseleko kunye nokuzithemba, kwaye angaqinisi indlela aziphethe ngayo. Makhe sibone ukuba zintoni:
Musa ukumnyanzela ukuba abalise
Into ebi kakhulu onokuyibuza umntwana oneentloni kukuyeka ukuba neentloni. Ukuba uyamnyanzela ukuba enze isimilo okanye aphile kwiimeko angakhululekanga kuzo, oko kuyakuqinisa ukungazithembi kwakhe. Sukunyanzelisa ukuba bayeke, bohlwaye okanye babagxeke. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukufuna ukunceda abazali, into esixhokonxayo kukuba mandundu ingxaki ngokungazi.
Yenza amathuba abo okunxibelelana
Isicwangciso esiliqili esingathethekiyo kukumema abantwana abakwikhaya lakhe, eliyindawo ekhuselekileyo kuye kwaye ayizukuba krwada, ukumtyikityela kwimisebenzi yangaphandle ayithandayo umntwana, ukuba batye isidlo sasemini / isidlo sasemini kunye nezinye iintsapho abantwana abakwiminyaka yakhe, okanye yise epakini. Ungamkhapha ekuqaleni ukuze azive ekhululekile kwaye aphumle.
Mkhuthaze ukuba afane
Musa ukumxelela ukuba kufuneka abe njani okanye kufuneka aziphathe njani. Imalunga nokufumana izakhono zentlalo ezikunceda kubudlelwane bakho nabanye abantu, hayi ngokuba ngomnye umntu. Mamkele njengoko enjalo.
Musa ukubeka iilebhile kuyo
Ukuba neentloni kubonisa ukungazithembi, ukuba sisoloko simxelela ukuba uneentloni kwaye urhoxile njani, siya kumenza achonge ngakumbi ileyibhile. Umsebenzi wakho kukumxhasa kwaye umphathe ngokwendalo.
Kulumkele ukuzikhusela ngokugqithisileyo kunye nogunyaziwe
Akukho kugqithisileyo kulungile xa kuziwa kwimfundo. Njengoko sibonile ngasentla, indlela yokufunda yabazali inokwenza umntwana abe neentloni. Zombini ulawulo lwaseburhulumenteni kunye neemfuno zalo eziqhubekayo, kunye nokukhuseleka okuthe kratya kunye nokufuna kwayo ukuvula indlela, kunokubangela ukungazithembi ebantwaneni okuchaphazela ubudlelwane babo. Abantwana kufuneka bafundiswe kwindawo enobuhlobo, ebanika ukhuseleko kodwa ngaphandle kokuphepha iimeko ezingathandekiyo okanye abayi kufunda ukulawula izixhobo zabo.
Fundisa ngomzekelo
Ukuba ubona ukuba abazali babo banentlalontle yokuziphatha nabanye, abantwana baya kuyibona kwaye bayifunde ngokwendalo.
Mvuyise ngempumelelo yakhe
Lonke uloyiso yimpumelelo ekufuneka ibhiyozelwe. Into eqhelekileyo kumntwana ophumayo kumntwana oneentloni ngumceli mngeni. Mvuyise ngokuziphatha kwakhe okuhle, kuya kumenza azithembe kwaye azithembe.
Kuba khumbula ... ukuba neentloni akuyonto imbi, kodwa ngothotho lwezixhobo esinokuphucula kakhulu izakhono zentlalo.