Ukunceda umntwana wakho afunde kwiimpazamo kwaye anganikezeli kukusilela kunokuba ngumceli mngeni, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba ukwenze oku ngokukhula kwengqondo kwaye hayi okweyisayo kwengqondo. Kwimeko yanamhlanje enokhuphiswano, apho abanye abantwana abancinci befunda khona ukukhula kweeklasi zezibalo kwaye abanye abantu abancinci banyanzelwa ukuba baqale ukufunda ngokutyibilikayo ngaphambi kweminyaka eyi-5, Abazali banokuziva benengcinezelo yokungabavumeli abantwana babo bashiye ngasemva.
Le meko inokutshintsha kwaye kufuneka itshintshe ngaphambi kokuba iphume kulawulo kwaye ichaphazele kakubi kwaye ngokungeyomfuneko ukuzithemba kwabantwana. Indlela yokwenza oku kukuhlakulela ukukhula kwengqondo. Abantwana abacinga ukuba ubukrelekrele babo kunye namandla abo azinzileyo kwaye angashukumi baya kubanjiswa kwaye baya kucinga ukuba abanakho ukuqhubela phambili okanye ukufezekisa nayiphi na injongo abafuna ukuzibekela yona. Endaweni yoko, Kufuneka bafunde ukuba ngonyamezelo banokufezekisa nantoni na ababeke iingqondo zabo kuyo ebomini.
Abantwana abaziyo ukuba ubukrelekrele okanye izakhono zabo zinokuphuculwa ngomzamo kunye namava baya kufuna imiceli mngeni emininzi, bafunde kwiimpazamo, kwaye abayi kuyeka ukusilela. Konke oku kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo ngabazali malunga nemfundo yabantwana babo.
Ukubaluleka kwengqondo yokukhula
Ingqondo yokukhula kwengqondo yaqaliswa ngu-Stanford University psychologist uCarol S. Dweck, kwaye isekwe kwi-neuroscience ebonisa ukuba ingqondo yomfundi inokuphucula ngomzamo wokuzinikela. Uphando lwakhe lubonise ukuba iimpawu zobuqu kunye nobuchule abulungiswanga, kodwa bunokutshintsha ngotshintsho olulula kugxilwe.
Uphando lukaDweck luye lwabonisa ukuba indlela abantwana abacinga ngayo inefuthe elibonakalayo ekufundeni. Ngonxibelelwano olomeleleyo phakathi kwenkuthazo yabafundi yokufunda isakhono esitsha kunye nendlela ababona ngayo ubukrelekrele babo, ukuphuculwa kungenziwa, okanye ukuba olu nxibelelwano lubi, uphuculo lunokuwa ecaleni kwendlela ngenxa yokungazithembi.
Ukuhlakulela ukukhula kwengqondo kumntwana wakho ayisiyonto inzima kwaye inkuthazo enkulu inokwenziwa ngokusebenzisa amagama afanelekileyo kunye nendumiso ngamaxesha afanelekileyo. Abantwana kufuneka bayazi ukuba xa befuna nyhani, banokufikelela koko bazimisele ukukwenza.
NgokomzekeloUkuba intombazana inengxaki ngezakhono zokufunda ulwimi, inokuxelelwa ukuba iya kuba nakho ukwenza ngcono kwaye ifunde ngakumbi ngokwenza. kunye nexesha endilinikezela kolo lwimi. Ayisiyonto imbi ekufundeni okanye ukuba akalunganga kolo lwimi, kuya kufuneka ukuba enze umzamo kunye nokuzingisa. Umzamo ngowona uza kunceda ukufezekisa izakhono eziyimfuneko. Abantwana kufuneka bazi ukuba ukusilela kunye nokwenza iimpazamo yinto elungileyo kuba iimpazamo ziyafundwa. Ukufunda ngokusilela kungakhokelela kuyilo olukhulu kunye nobuchule bokuphucula ngaphakathi.
Ukudumisa kubalulekile ekukhuleni kwengqondo. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ungasebenzisi indumiso ngokubanzi kwaye ukhethe ukuba ngakumbi. Endaweni yokuthetha izinto ezinje: 'Ulumke kakhulu', ungatsho enye into enje: 'Ufumana iziphumo ezilungileyo kuba ukuziqhelanisa kukunceda uqonde yonke into ngcono'. Oku kuya kutsalela ingqalelo kude kubuchule obuzinzileyo kwaye kugxilwe kwinkqubo yokufunda nokukhula.
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Thetha ngokufunda
Ukuthetha ngokufunda kufuna ukuba yinto mihla le kusapho. Nokuba utya isidlo sasemini, isidlo sasemini, emotweni, ngaphambi kokuba ulale, uhamba ngesitrato ... Abazali banokwabelana ngemibuzo ethile nabantwana babo ukuze abantwana babone amandla abo ngokupheleleyo. Eminye imibuzo isenokuba yile ilandelayo:
- Ufunde ntoni namhlanje?
- Ngaba wenze impazamo ekufundise into entsha?
- Yeyiphi eyona nto inzima oyenzileyo namhlanje?
Kubalulekile ukuba abazali nabagcini babantwana nabo babelane ngokufunda kwabo, kuba kuyimodeli ebantwaneni kwaye baya kwazi ukuba nabantu abadala banokwenza iimpazamo kwaye bafunde kubo yonke imihla.
Thetha ngenkqubo hayi malunga nesiphumo
Ukuncoma iinzame zabantwana kubalulekile ukuba bafunde ukuba kubaluleke ngakumbi kunomphumo ngokwawo. Ukuzingisa, ukucinga ngamanye amacebo, ukukhangela amathuba amatsha, ukubeka iinjongo zokufikelela kwiinjongo ezintsha, ukucwangcisa ukuziphumeza, ukusebenzisa ubuchule okanye ukusombulula iingxabano, yimizekelo elungileyo yokuncoma inkqubo kwaye hayi kakhulu isiphumo.
Sukuncoma izakhono zakho ezinje ngokuba smart okanye ubuchule bokuyila Olu hlobo lokudumisa lunokukhokelela ekuphulukaneni nokuzithemba njengoko abantwana bengayi kuba nobukrelekrele kuzo zonke iindawo zobomi babo. Bayabuthandabuza ubuchule babo bokuphatha into ebenzima kubo ekuqaleni kwaye banokufuna nokuyeka kwangoko, becinga ukuba abanako okanye ayikufanelanga umzamo wento abangayaziyo.
Khuthaza ukufunda kwiimpazamo
Ukusilela kufundisa abantwana bethu izifundo ezibalulekileyo zobomi. Kwelinye icala, yindlela abafunda ngayo ukomelela, ukunyamezela, kunye nokuzikhuthaza. Lixesha lokuba abantwana babe semngciphekweni kwaye basilele. Musa ukuwela kwisilingo sokuthintela abantwana bakho ukuba basilele ukuze bangabi lusizi okanye bazive ngathi boyisilele ... Kufuneka bafunde ukujongana nezi mvakalelo ukuze boyise kwaye baqonde ukuba banako ukunyamezela nokuzingisa.
Kuyimfuneko ukuba abantwana bafumane amava okusilela ukuze bomeleze ukukhula kwengqondo yabo. Ukuba awuyivumeli, baya kuba ngabantu abadala ngaphandle kokunyamezela okanye ukucinga ukuba akukho mfuneko yokusebenza nzima ukuze uphumelele ebomini. Kwelinye icala, ukuba usebenza ngokufunda kwiimpazamo, xa izinto ziba nzima uya kuziva ngathi ngumceli mngeni onokoyisayo.