Kukho ukwanda okwahlukileyo kwiimodeli zosapho. Kukho izibini ezitshatileyo, amafanasini, kunye neentsapho ezinomzali omnye.
Yiyo loo nto kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukufumana iqabane elinabantwana kubudlelwane bangaphambili. Kungenxa yokuba lusapho olunye lomzali okanye ngenxa yoqhawulo mtshato. Kwezi meko kuya kufuneka ufunde ukunxibelelana nabantwana babo kwaye nokuba ubadibanise nabakho, ukuze uvuse usapho olutsha.
Amanyathelo angaphambili
Kucingelwa ukuba, ukuba ucinga ngokwazi nokunyanga abantwana babo, usekuqaleni kwento enzulu, ukuba akunjalo, ungaluthintela olo nxibelelwano.
Kodwa ngaphambi kokuqalisa ukoyisa iintliziyo zabancinci, Kuya kufuneka uyivavanye imeko kakuhle.
Awunakho ukubaphatha njengabantwana bakho, nokuba kubonakala ngathi kufanelekile. Kuqala kufuneka ucinge malunga nokuba banomama wabo okanye hayi.
Ukuba abanayo, kuba iqabane lakho lingumhlolokazi okanye usapho olunomzali omnye, ungazama ukubanika inani labantwana abasweleyo, lo gama utata wabo efuna njalo. Iya kuba yinto ekufuneka niyivume njengesibini.
Kwimeko apho banonina, ngekhe, kwaye akufuneki uzimisele ukumtshintsha. Eyona nto ilungileyo kukuzama ukuyizalisa, phantsi kwemiyalelo yabazali bakhe.
Ukuqhekeza umkhenkce
Kubalulekile xa udibana, nendlela yokuqhekeza umkhenkce, ke kubalulekile ukuba ube wazazisa ngaphambili ngemeko abakuyo abantwana. Kuya kufuneka uzame ukwenza unxibelelwano lokuqala lube mnandi, ukuqiniswa okuhle kakhulu xa uqala ubudlelwane obude kunye nobusapho obonwabileyo.
Ngesi sizathu, kucetyiswa ukuba ibe yindawo emnandi okanye ekhethekileyo yabantwana, apho wonke umntu aqinisekile ukuba iya kuba lixesha eliluncedo kumntu wonke. Okukhona wonwabile kunye, kokukhona uya komeleza amaqhina omanyano, wenze amakhonkco osapho amatsha.
Ukuba ngumama wesibini akuyonto imbi
Kuyinyani ukuba imeko yakho ikweyesibini esiqhawule umtshato, kunokubakho ukungavisisani phakathi kweqabane lakho langaphambili kunye nawe okanye naphakathi kwakho nabantwana. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba bakutyhola ngokungazi okanye ngokungazi ngokwahlukana kwabazali.
Ukuba kunjalo, Nokuba kunzima njengoko imeko inokuba njalo, zama ukuba nomthamo owongezelelweyo womonde. Khumbula ukuba awunguye umama wakhe, hlala endaweni yakho. Ngamanye amaxesha ngokufuna ukuyenza ngokufanelekileyo, sinokucaphukisa elinye iqela.
Naliphi na inyathelo elingalunganga, igama elibi okanye isenzo esibi, singonakalisa yonke into oyisebenzeleyo. Akululanga konke konke ukwenza iibhondi xa kukho ukungqubana kunye nenzondo ezibandakanyekileyo, kodwa ngomonde nentando, nantoni na enokwenzeka. Ukuqiniswa okuqinisekileyo sisixhobo sakho esifanelekileyo uhlala usisebenzisa ngokufanelekileyo.
Abantwana balumkile kunokuba babonakala kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, nokuba baxelelwa kangakanani okanye bazama kangakanani ukubaphatha, bayayazi indlela abaluxabisa ngayo uthando nenkxaso yokwenene eyona nto iyinyani yokwakha amaqhina osapho.
Ukuba kwinqanaba lomama ongenalo
Ukuba imeko yakho yeyokuba iqabane lakho belilusapho olunomzali omnye, yonke into inokuba lula ngenkangeleko. Nangona inyani yileya Imibuzo emininzi inokuphakanyiswa malunga nokulindelwe liqabane lakho kuwe njengomama. Le yenye yezinto ekufuneka niyithethe njengesibini kwaye niyibeke etafileni ngaphambi kokuthatha naliphi na inyathelo.
Ubudlelwane phakathi kwabazalanayo
Ukuba sele unabo abantwana bakho, njengeqabane lakho, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba kuqinisekiswe ukuba kukho imvisiswano kubudlelwane bakho. Asimele silibale ukuba Sizama ukudala usapho olutsha kwaye oko kufana nokudibanisa iphazili apho onke amaqhekeza kufuneka alingane ngokugqibeleleyo.
Xa usebenza nabo, kuyanceda ukuba uzame ukubaphatha njengabalinganayo, wena neqabane lakho. Ukuba akunjalo, kunokubangela iingxaki zomona kunye neembambano ezingonakalisa kakhulu ibhalansi yeebhondi oceba ukuzenza.
Kunzima ukugcina ulungelelwaniso phakathi kokungabi ngumama wabo kwaye ubaphathe ngokufanayo nabantwana bakho, kuya kubakho amaxesha apho kungenakwenzeka ukufezekisa, kodwa ungalahli ithemba. Njengoko besesitshilo, bayaluqonda uthando kunye nenkxaso ebekiweyo ekhathaleleni ubudlelwane. Kungekudala okanye kamva, baya kugqiba ukuyixabisa.