Ukunyanga inkwenkwe okanye intombazana eyamkelweyo Akufunekanga yahluke kwindlela esiphatha ngayo ibhayoloji. Umntwana ngamnye ngumntu owahlukileyo, kunye nomlingiswa wakhe, ubunzima kunye nobuchule bokujongana nobomi. Yintoni etshintshayo kukuba oonyana neentombi zethu zemvelo zisuka ekuzalweni kunye nosapho oluya kubakhusela kwaye lubanike uthando, ngelixa beza kuye abantwana bomthonyama. Abanye bala makhwenkwe namantombazana sele benexesha elidlulileyo lokungafunwa, behlala kumakhaya eenkedama okanye bephuma kwezinye iinkcubeko.
Akukho nanye kwezi kufuneka ityhafise a usapho olufuna ukuthatha umntwana ongamzalanga abe ngowakho, ngenxa yezizathu abagqibe ngazo, yaye akukho nto itshintshayo indlela abafanele baphathwe ngayo aba nyana neentombi. Banamalungelo afanayo okuthandwa nokuhlonelwa njengamanye amalungu entsapho.
Ngaba umntwana ufanele axelelwe ukuba ukhuliswe ngabanye abantu?
Lo ngomnye wemibuzo yakudala abazali abazibuza yona. Kukho ngokwaneleyo uncwadi oluxhasayo kunye neencwadi zabantwana, amabali malunga nokuthatha umntwana ongamzalanga abe ngowakho, ekubeni imeko iqhelekile kwaye iyekile ukuba ne-aura ye-taboo eyayigcinwe kwiminyaka emininzi eyadlulayo. Iingcali zincoma Abazali mabaxelele umntwana. Ungaxoki kubo ngamabali othando, kodwa thetha inyani.
Ukuba inkqubo yokwamkelwa ikwi a ubudala kwaye inkwenkwe okanye intombazana ineempawu zobuhlanga ezifanayo kwintsapho yomninimzi, ukudibanisa kwabo ngokukhawuleza, kubonakala kwaye kungokwemvelo. Ukuba malunga nezinye iinkcubeko kunye nobuhlanga, kunokwenzeka ukuba ukususela kwiminyaka eyi-3, kwinqanaba lesikolo, baya kuqala ukubuza imibuzo. Kufuneka sichaze imvelaphi yayo, ngokwendalo kakhulu, ngaphandle kweenkcukacha ezibuhlungu ezingafaki nto. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuyidlulisela loo nto wayesoloko enqweneleka kakhulu kwaye nangona ekhulele komnye umama, Abazali bakhe bangoku bebesele bemlindile.
Kuqhelekile ukuba Umntwana ngamnye okhuliswe ngabanye abantu usabela ngendlela eyahlukileyo., unokuyikhanyela kwaye udale iingcamango malunga nemvelaphi yayo. Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana abakhuliswe ngabanye abantu bacinge ukuba bancanyiwe ngenxa yokuba babengendawo okanye baqweqwedisiwe. Yiyo loo nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukucaca kwaye uthethe inyaniso malunga nenkqubo yokwamkelwa.
Njengoko umntwana ekhuliswa ngabanye abantwana xa ekhulile, uba nomthwalo ongokweemvakalelo, nto leyo enokwenza kube nzima ukunxulumana nabazali abatsha. Ezi ntlobo zokwamkelwa, abantwana abangaphezu kweminyaka eyi-7 okanye i-8 ubudala, zenziwa ngokulandelwa kwengcali ngexesha lenkqubo yokuqala. Umntwana sele ekhumbula, kwaye unokufumana iimeko ezibuhlungu, ezifana ukwahlukana nabanye abantwana bakowenu, oye watyhutyha amaziko ahlukeneyo okanye ezinye iintsapho ezihlala iindwendwe.
Isikhokelo kwiintsapho ezinabantwana abamkelekileyo
Siyaqhubeka nokugxininisa ukuba indlela yokuziphatha kunye nendlela yomntwana ngamnye, owamkelweyo okanye webhayoloji, yahlukile ngokuxhomekeke kwizinto ezininzi. Kodwa sinokunika ezinye izikhokelo, kunye nezikhokelo eziqhelekileyo eziya kunceda abazali kunye namanye amalungu entsapho, ootatomkhulu, ootatomkhulu, abantakwethu, abazala, ukuba baqonde, balawule kwaye balungelelanise iimvakalelo iqela lonke elijongene nalo.
Uninzi lweendlela zokuziphatha eziya kwenzeka kwiintsapho ezikhulayo kufuneka zibe baqonde kwisitshixo seemvakalelo. Ke ngoko, kuyafuneka ukuba kusetyenzwe kwimvelaphi yayo yeemvakalelo. Bobabini abantwana kunye nentsapho yonke bayayifuna ixesha lokulungelelanisa, nto leyo ayifani kumntu ngamnye.
Abazali kufuneka babe icace ekumiseleni imida nasekunyanzeliseni izohlwayo ukuba zisekiwe. Xa ujongene neziqephu eziphazamisayo, musa ukuphakamisa ilizwi lakho okanye uzame ukuqiqa nantoni na ngelo xesha. Ukuqiqa ngeemvakalelo kunye nokuziphatha kungcono kubanda.
Abazali kufuneka Cacisa ukuphoxeka kwakho ngokuziphatha komntu owamkelwayo, kodwa hayi ngomntwana lowo. Kuya kufuneka useke amajelo onxibelelwano asebenzayo, wazi indlela yokuphulaphula, uthathe nawuphi na umba ovela nzulu nangentlonipho, ufunde ukwenza umjelo, ukulawula nokuvakalisa iimvakalelo neemvakalelo.