Kukho zonke iintlobo zabazali, njengokuba kukho zonke iintlobo zabantwana. Abanye abantwana bathanda ukuzonwabisa, abanalo uloyiko oluphakamileyo kwaye abanye kwelinye icala boyika into abangayaziyo kwaye badinga inkxaso yabantu ekubhekiswa kubo ukuze bafumane yonke into ebangqongileyo. Kule ndlela yobumama / yokuba ngutata, kulula kakhulu ukwenza iimpazamo kwaye eneneni kuyimfuneko, kuba kungenxa yeempazamo ekufundwa ngokwenene.
Kwa kunjalo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ubuntu babantwana bakho bufane nobakho. Abantwana ziziponji ezifunxa yonke into eziyibonayo neziyibonayo kubantu abasondeleyo kubo, kule meko ngokubanzi kungumama okanye utata. Ke ngoko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthintela ukunika abantwana izimo zengqondo okanye amasiko, anokuchaphazela kakubi ukukhula kwabantwana babo.
Jongana noloyiko lwakho
Abantwana kufuneka bazive bekhuselekile ngabazali babo, kuba bona, umama notata ngamaqhawe abo aphezulu. Kwaye kulungile ukuba kunjalo, kuba ngale ndlela abantwana baya kukhula benesiqinisekiso sokuba baya kuhlala bekufutshane nabazali babo ukuze babakhusele kuyo nayiphi na imeko. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba abantwana abayazi ingozi okanye ukudlala izinto ezenza ukuba bazive benoloyiko, kuba endaweni yokuba boyise, baya kuziqokelela ndaweni ithile apho kungakhange kube semva kwexesha apho baya kuphuma bekwimo yomothuko.
Uloyiko lwakho alunto yimbi ngaphandle kwezo traumas eziye zakukhapha ukusukela ebuntwaneni bakho, Amava amabi lawo endaweni yokujongana, uzigcinele indawo yokoyika. Umzekelo, abantu abaninzi bayazoyika izinja kuba ebuntwaneni inja ethile (enokuba inkulu ngokomfanekiso womntwana omncinci) iboyikisile, iyabaluma, ikhonkotha okanye ibenze bazive besoyika.
Abantwana bayoyika xa bengazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoniKule meko, kubalulekile ukuba uthethe nabo kwaye uchaze ngesineke imeko leyo. Ke, funda ukoyisa olo loyiko kwaye ufumane izixhobo eziyimfuneko zokujongana noloyiko olunokuthi kwiimeko ezininzi lube lolungekho ngqiqweni. Kuya kufuneka ube nomonde kakhulu, kodwa qiniseka ukuba ngoncedo lwakho uya kuba nakho ukoyisa.
Iingcebiso zokuphepha ukukhulisa umntwana owoyikayo
- Kuphephe ukubakhusela ngokugqithiseleyo abantwana bakhoNgumntu ukufuna ukuphepha nayiphi na intlungu okanye ukubandezeleka ebantwaneni, kodwa kukugqitha kokhuseleko ibangela abantwana ukuba baphephe ukujongana kuloyiko lwabo.
- Fundisa umntwana ukuba ajongane noloyiko: Ngokukodwa kwezo meko apho uloyiko olungenangqondo, njenge uloyiko lobumnyama into leyo ihlupheka ngabantwana abaninzi. Ke, kubalulekile ukuba uthethe nomntwana kwaye ngomonde omkhulu umbonise ukuba akukho nto yoyikayo.
- Nceda abantwana bakho baphucule izakhono zabo ekuhlaleni: Iintloni okanye uxinzelelo ekuhlaleni zizixhobo ezinamandla ezihlutha abantwana ekumiseni ubudlelwane noontanga babo. Abahlobo bayimfuneko njengoko ingabo uya kunceda umntwana wakho ahlole umhlaba, Yoyisa uloyiko lwakho udibane nolutsha. Ukuvuka kufuneka uqale uwe, kwaye yeyiphi indlela engcono yokuwa kunokuba nomhlobo ecaleni kwakho.
- Musa ukumnyanzela umntwana ukuba enze into angayifuniyo: Yenye into ukumnceda woyise uloyiko kunye nokunye, ukumnyanzela, ukumnyanzela okanye ukukunyanzela ukuba wenze into eyoyikisayo. Ukuba umntwana wakho woyika izinja kwaye umnyanzela ukuba ayichukumise, inokuba ngamava othusayo ayenza mandundu imeko.
Maxesha amaninzi abantwana banengxaki yokubeka iimvakalelo zabo emazwini, iimvakalelo zakho okanye uloyiko lwakho. Ke ngoko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukubamamela, kodwa nokujonga izijekulo zabo, iinguqu kwindlela abaziphethe ngayo okanye ezo meko zinokukuxwayisa ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo. Nangona bengazi ukuba baluvakalise njani uloyiko lwabo ngamazwi, abantwana bathumela imiqondiso ecacileyo yokuba kukho into ebathintelayo ekubeni baqhubele phambili kwaye kuyafuneka ukuba banikele ingqalelo ekusombululeni nayiphi na imeko embi kwaye ke baphephe ukukhulisa umntwana owoyikayo.